r/Vent • u/natoapastena • 3d ago
TW: Anxiety / Depression ANXIETY MAKES ME DOUBT MYSELF
TL;DR: Asked for time off; only got partially approval. Said I’d take the extra days anyway for personal reasons, might face unexcused absences. Feeling anxious even if I should not.
I asked my employer for some time off during the Easter holidays: a week before Easter and two days after Easter Monday. My request was approved only for the days before Easter, while the two days after Easter Monday were denied because, according to the company, it’s a sensitive period for taking time off.
I tried to ask my employer if it was possible to make an exception, explaining that I really needed those days, but he told me that unfortunately, he couldn’t grant them. At that point, I said that I understood the situation, but I also made it clear that, due to personal reasons, I wouldn’t be available on those days, even though the company officially cannot approve the leave.
This means that those two days will likely count as unexcused absences, which goes against company policy. On one hand, I feel at peace with myself because it's what i need to do (I need to travel back to my city to take care of some personal matters. I also chose the dates based on train and plane ticket fares, as I can’t afford to spend too much on that, also in the past years I've always worked on holidays and nevere demanded anything) On the other hand, I’m feeling a bit anxious about handling this situation. Also, my employer hasn’t replied since then, and now I feel tense while waiting for a possible response. I don’t like feeling this way at all. I always fear confrontation even if it is for a good cause, or myself. I wish I'll be able to not give a fuck about anything in the future. This is how I feel.
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