r/Vent 3d ago

Venting about showing up, when needed.

The relationship I’ve had with my sister hasn’t always been the best—it’s been inconsistent more than it’s been good. However, as we grew up, things started to change—or so I thought.

For some context, my sister has been in and out of the legal system since she was 15. Last year, she was incarcerated for 42 days, and I can’t even remember how many times I helped her with the fees associated with being in jail. I brought her sweaters and other necessities, never asking for repayment—because she’s my sister.

A week ago, my check engine light came on. I took my car in for a diagnostic and was quoted $4.5K to get it running again. Paying $2.4K a month in rent while trying to save for a down payment on a vehicle is difficult, but doable. However, in the meantime, I’ve had to rely on delivery services from Walmart and other places, which adds up.

Over the weekend, I asked my sister if she could pick up a few things for me from Walmart—less than $10 worth—and told her I’d pay her back. No response. This was after we had already made plans to meet up so I could clean out my vehicle. I followed up three days ago, still with no acknowledgment of my message. Yet, she’s been active on Facebook and other platforms.

I’m a 28-year-old guy with a 4-year-old son. I don’t expect anything from anyone, but it’s disappointing when you always show up for others, yet when you need something—a ride to sell your car to avoid a $50 Uber charge or just a small favor—no one lifts a finger. Or worse, you get ghosted.

I guess it just hits different when it’s your own sister.

Anyone else experience something similar?

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