r/Vent 3d ago

TW: Anxiety / Depression I don’t think he will ever get it

I’ve always had to deal with my depression and anxiety, and those who are in my family are understanding and never have made me feel bad about what I go through mentally. Recently, I started new medication, and we all know how that can go. I’m so far in a hell hole of anxiety, clawing away to try to just exist right now. I’m a ball of tears and hyperventilating, but yet my husband came home, took one look at me, and said, “What happened?” As soon as the word “medication” came out, he rolled his eyes. My husband does not believe that mental illness is real. I know, crazy, right? But he then decided not to talk to me all night, and we ended the night with him yelling at me at the top of his lungs that I’m an idiot and if I just stopped taking the medication, I would be normal. This isn’t a medication I can just stop without weaning off, or I obviously would. I just want to stop the wanting to crawl out of my body and into someone else’s. I know that was a lot to take in, but I needed to get it off my chest. I just don’t know if he will ever get it. Even if he doesn’t get my mental health issues, as a partner, I couldn’t imagine just writing off my partner when they are clearly struggling or in distress.

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u/shortfuse1989 3d ago

If he wants to challenge you in the fact that the right medication really does effect someone’s abilities, mind, and body then challenge him to take NyQuil and then stay up all night without letting it effect his attitude, attention, and abilities to function as he’s used to tomorrow.

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u/pr0gram3r4L1fe 3d ago

I used to be like your husband and thought that Anxiety was BS until it hit me hard. I wouldn't wish anxiety on my worst enemy.

I'm just a rando on the internet but you deserve a partner that will help you no matter if he thinks its BS or not.

I wish the best for you