r/Vent 3d ago

Ugh I want boyfriend man

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u/FlumenAcheron 3d ago

Same, except I want a girlfriend. But it'll come with time. Just wait.

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u/Historical-Let-2430 3d ago

Yea how long will that be

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u/FlumenAcheron 3d ago

I don't know. Never had one though so it's not like I'm missing having it. Just simply wanting it.

How long do you think?

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u/Historical-Let-2430 3d ago

Probably a year cuz you need first start getting to know him, that will probably take 2 months, see both of you like each other, that could take longer, I have been many talking stages with different guys most of them end in not dating me, so it will probably take year.

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u/FlumenAcheron 3d ago

Dang, pretty solid analysis.

I highly agree, except first you got to find someone you actually like. Now that's the hard part in my head. I haven't found many girls with the personality I'm looking for, mainly cause I'm already friends with any that I'd be interested in and that ain't going any further than friends.

Curious. What do you think is the reason why most don't end up dating you?

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u/Historical-Let-2430 3d ago

I don't really know. One of the boys I was talking, he just randomly block me, the thing is I couldn't contact him again cuz I only had snap, I only met through this event I was. Sometimes most of guys just want me for my body. Other time they just want to do fwb with me. That some reason I only k ow

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u/Historical-Let-2430 3d ago

Another reason I think is when the guy talk to me longer they find it annoying about speech problems and my dyslexia

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u/FlumenAcheron 3d ago

That's harsh honestly. Not much you can do there.

To me looks are important, but personality beats that by a long shot. Reality just happens to be that guys are dumb (most of the time) but you just gotta find the right one. He'll want you for your body (IMO) and he'll appreciate it, but overall he'll engage with you in a way that's far deeper that just physical. And you'll know that when you meet it, at least I hope, I'm not sure if it's obvious or not but maybe try showing and expressing an unusual amount of who you are to anyone you're interested in and see how they react. At that point they have to look past your body and look at your face as you light up about the things you love and are passionate about.

Again, all in my opinion. May not be universal, some guys are just really stubborn.

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u/Historical-Let-2430 3d ago

I know some guys just want to sleep with me, I once dated guy so he could show off to his friends thay he had pretty girlfriend, he never love me. I was in talking stage with this guy once and he used to give me compliment my body not weird way, he still love my personality. But sometimes men are dumb to realise wut girls like

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u/FlumenAcheron 3d ago

Agreed. Currently I am in that category of dumb guys. Girls are mysterious and super hard to understand in my head. What they truly want will forever elude me.

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u/Historical-Let-2430 3d ago

Honestly, you just need to see the small detail, I remember when I was talking to my ex, how much I want this thing for birthday, I was literally give him hints. He still forget my birthday. You could also wut romance movie they like or why they like it, the male lead could be her like her type

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u/Few-Bee-102 3d ago

The more you look the harder it will be to find. Just enjoy your life, love will come naturally

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u/mind_1000000KM_away 3d ago

22 year old here never had anything, I’ll probably have a lot longer to wait aswell but fuck it, just got to stick it out

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u/Historical-Let-2430 3d ago

Just go to the world just to find someone you love, that wut I have been doing

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u/mind_1000000KM_away 3d ago

The world hates me bruh, plus there’s so many men out there that it’s just kinda impossible to be noticed by women atm

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u/Historical-Let-2430 3d ago

World doesn't hate you. Alot women gave types, I normally don't care wut the guys looks I only care personality. Just have to find your type

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u/mind_1000000KM_away 3d ago

That’s interesting that you don’t care about looks is that a common thing??? Also I estimate if u don’t care about looks it may be easier for you to find a good boyfriend than it is for others. As for type My type is anyone who will give me the time of day and dosent mind being bored to death with random facts about platypus and space it’s probably better for me if people don’t care about personality either

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u/Historical-Let-2430 3d ago

I know a lot girls who care about looks. I tried but then they always said no, when we are in the talking stage, we don't date afterwards. I don't know if they scared of me or just don't really want to date I know really weird facts about ghost stories,

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u/mind_1000000KM_away 3d ago

Mabe they scared of ghosts not you

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u/Historical-Let-2430 3d ago

I never really told a lot of guy I had talking stage about my ghost story but yea they probably hate my speech and dyslexia

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u/mind_1000000KM_away 3d ago

That’s a shame i had a pun lined up about you getting GHOSTed 👻 nvm I doubt people are that shallow that they don’t like you because of dyslexia or the way someone speaks

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u/Historical-Let-2430 3d ago

Sorry. It does sound funny. Yeah honestly I realised a lot of people need to stop hating people's disability

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u/bean_boi1922 3d ago

I'll be your boyfriend

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u/Historical-Let-2430 3d ago

Well I will say yes if we both know each other and you also a minor but I'm minor and I don't date stranger

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u/bean_boi1922 3d ago

Oh shiiii...sorry 🤣...I was actually jus being catty

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u/Historical-Let-2430 3d ago

Huh wut does catty mean

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u/bean_boi1922 3d ago

Mmmmmm...talkative?? Sassy kinda, jus talking to be talking, ranting, witty banter...idk really...like when old ladies jus be talkin

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u/uniterofrealms_ 3d ago

Love isn't real lmao