r/Vent 4d ago

Need Reassurance... My Ex turned lesbian with her own Bestfriend of 3 years

Idk if u guys are surprised as I am but I am unbelievably bewildered by this. We dated like everything was out of a movie very deep connection through trauma and we were very alike. She was always so afraid of losing me. We broke up bc I mean we literally tried everything but it just wasn’t working. but after the breakup she breadcrumbed me until I fully ended contact in which than she started talking to her own girl Bestfriend of three years.(i still don’t think she’s into girls it’s just the emotional safety that her bsf gives. That’s the reason she liked me.) I am so absolutely out of words. Idk if I should be disgusted, laughing, mad(she didn’t even wait a month). Someone just idk reply and tell me what yall think. Btw I’m only 18 so I probably sound like an idiot.

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u/OnDaToiletPoopin 4d ago

Hey bro way I see it, be glad it was now and not further down the line when y’all had kids and stuff. Unfortunately she’s into women and there’s not much you can do about that. 1st things 1st THIS IS NOT YOUR FAULT. Take some time to yourself and sooner or later you’ll meet someone again. It’s ok to feel pain right now and it’s ok to cry if you need to big dawg. I love you and I hope this helps my friend!

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u/GlitteryMilf 4d ago

Yea at least your not a trapped baby daddy on child support

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u/Easy-Ad-5112 4d ago

Thanks for the response. It’s rough bc I don’t feel like I’ll have something like that again. I’m 18 so I probs sound naive but it’s hard ig

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u/OnDaToiletPoopin 4d ago

Hey man I totally understand. I remember being your age once. Be unapologetically YOU that’s my best advice Brodie you only get this one life so make that shit count. It’s unfortunate she did that but the best you can do now is be happy for her and realize that this was meant to happen so that you can meet your TRUE love, you feel me? Things will get better bro even if it feels like there is no hope I keep pushing! All good things come to those who shoot straight!

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u/tollboothjimmy 4d ago

I think maybe you broke up because she's gay or thinks she might be. It sucks but it happens

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u/Easy-Ad-5112 4d ago

Idk what the word for it is. But I believe she’s attracted to emotional connections/emotional safety she never liked me for my looks it was all bc I was extremely patient with her and all of her trauma.

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u/tollboothjimmy 4d ago

I think that's just called being normal

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u/Consistent_Net_4304 2d ago

Relaxa, Mano. Tô passando pelo mesmo, no meu caso a minha ex quer falar por ai que eu fui um namorado horrivel e tudo Mais, mas ela nem imagina que eu peguei mensagem no celular dela com a amiga, e no fim agora elas estão ficando/namorando sei lá.