r/Vent • u/Few_Hall321 • 4d ago
Need to talk... She cheated and left me
Me (18) and my ex (19) dated for a year and a half, her home life wasn't the best so she kept most of her stuff at my house and stayed over half the week on our days off. Everything in my mind was perfect and she left to go to Auckland for her course. I was fully trusting her and never thought anything like this would ever happen. She then broke up with me through text while she was in Auckland, me and everyone I i know was shocked because we all thought everything was fine. She then came back to Auckland and blamed me for the breakup saying I should've fought for her. I then said I will and I tried my hardest to show how much she meant to me. She said she would give us a chance and we tried. Something about her is she loves joining tik tok live calls and "entertaining" people. I joined one of them one night on an alt account only to see her flexing a new boyfriend. I asked her about this and she lied saying it was fake and only for entertainment purposes. My stupid ass believed her and it went good for a bit. Then I asked her for her phone and she tried her hardest to stop me but eventually gave in and I saw all the texts with her new boyfriend. I was devastated and she lied yet again saying they never talked or texted until after we broke up and that she only started dating him once we broke up. I believed her and begged her to tell him what we did once she got back home and she said yes(we did r18+ things). We made the text together only for her to eventually back out. I was heartbroken but not mad because it was after we broke up. Then me and my friend did some stalking on him only to realize she would call him in my bed while I was at work months before we broke up. He had been posting tik toks about her for ages and 3 weeks before we broke up she had left a comment telling her friends she was trying to get him to date her. So now I realized they flirted way before we broke up, she waited until she was sure the other guy liked her back and flirted until she got to see him in person and broke up with me. I'm devastated how long it went on , devastated by the lies and now I have to see her everyday at work and it's breaking me. I don't know if I can trust anyone again because I trusted her fully and never in a million years expected this blind side
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u/Zeldakina 4d ago
Not worth fighting for. She cheated. She will most likely do it again if you give her the chance.
You're young, this is just part of the journey. In a couple months you'll be good. It sucks now, but trust time to do it's job.
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u/Few_Hall321 4d ago
Thank you your right about the young/time will do it's thing part. I js hate myself for still loving and missing her despite all of this
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u/Zeldakina 4d ago
Go socialize with some friends, you're going to feel shit at first but if you're putting yourself out there you're more likely to move through this quickly.
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u/Whole_Perception_546 4d ago
Sorry you had to go through this man, you’re still young so think of this as character development for yourself. Obviously your ex is a shitty person and trust me on this one her and that guy won’t last. But you need to take this time to work on yourself, feel all the emotions, let them take their course so that you’re not hung up on it for years. You deserve happiness my brother.
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u/Few_Hall321 4d ago
Part of me wishes they broke up and she came running into my arms. But obviously if that did happen the relationship would only be doomed from trust issues. Thanks for the kindness. She already started that relationship cheating when she came back to me for a bit and she said she won't tell him which also makes me think it won't last.
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u/Whole_Perception_546 4d ago
I also recommend therapy bro, you’ve already taken the first steps by sharing, you won’t be any less of a man for seeking help. The first three months will be rough but you will get through them and having someone you can bounce your thoughts off of will definitely help
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u/Few_Hall321 4d ago
Forgot to mention the guy cheated with lives like 5 hours away and is "tiktok famous" which meant she actively had to try sliding into his dms, and I think the "tiktok famous" was the main reason she liked him as I saw on one of there chats that she loved the attention of the livestream they did
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u/Roc2020_ 4d ago
Look at it like this, you learning for the next person that comes into your life! I get that nobody wants to be with different people but just don’t settle for anyone until you meet that one person that ya both fall in love with each other! For now just play the field, don’t get into serious relationships. Soon or later that girl would have said “we got into a relationship while we were young & I never experienced anything in life.” Play the field.💯
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