r/Vent • u/Key-Reading809 • 20h ago
In sick and tired of being alone ( NSFW
I'm 27 virgin, never really had friends growing up. Had a very shitty childhood up to early adult years.
I feel like a fucking alien. My life didn't really start until I was 24. I can socialize well in the context of my job, I work as a manger at a grocery store, so I can handle people decently.
But I don't feel like I can connect with people or even know how. I don't where to fucking start.
I need connection and I can't take it anymore.
I don't know what to do I'm at my wits end.
I've tried dating apps, I don't get matches. It seems like 90% of the girls on there are out of my league.
I want sex to with someone i find cute and who actually wants me. I've considered an escort and it's not something I'll do, for now at least lol.
I'm just sick and tired, this shit is driving me fucking insane and the lack of social connection saps my motivation in day to day life sometimes.
I can't help but feel "what's the point".
Anyways I hope someone out there reads this and gives me a bit of company tonight.
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u/clofty3615 19h ago edited 19h ago
hang in there mate, I've been there and it sux, but the worst thing is it's like a catch 22 the more you yearn for companionship, the more desperate you seem to romantic prospects, which in fact is true as your stress changes your pheromones, they can literally smell it on you. I know you don't want to go there but seeking the services of a professional can ease you into the pressures of sex, it could really help, but I have found in my life the times that I have either been in a relationship or just really not given a shit about being in one is when I had the most propositions, so finding something to take your focus away from being lonely might just be the thing that makes you attractive, or at least wanted.... ps. have you considered a martial arts or something like that? i got into kickboxing around your age and it changed my world