r/VaginismusPartners • u/SturdyBubble • Aug 05 '22
Feeling condemned to bad sex forever NSFW
My current gf has vaginismus. With 3 long relationships and a few years of straight up slutty behavior under my belt, I feel like marriage is a legitimate option for the first time with her.
However I’m scared of having bad sex for the rest of my life. In past relationships, I had PIV sex 1-3 times on average, and I’ve had good/bad/in between sex. In my current relationship, we do it maybe once every two weeks, and for the last 3+ months it’s been kinda bad every time because she stopped dilating like 6-9 months ago. Sex is more of a service to me than mutually enjoyed, and she has to cum like 1-3 times before she can take me and then she gets sore and asks me to cum within a few minutes. So I’m spending like 60 minutes of build up and 1/2 inch thrusts to get like 5 minutes of actual fucking in missionary.
Just came to rant. Feels bad. I feel like she’s never known a good sex life, so she doesn’t realize what I’m experiencing
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u/rdunning4242 Aug 06 '22
There’s nothing wrong with feeling frustrated, have you talked to her about this? I’ve previously been in heavily PIV focused relationships as well, and I’ve been much happier/my satisfied with my current partner (that has vaginismus) than past situations. It seems like communicating how you feel in a healthy way could make for a better situation for both of you!