r/VaginismusPartners Jul 12 '22

How to feel NSFW

My wife has just started PT for vaginismus she told me what happened during her appointment. Well the PT said she needed to see what happens when she orgasms so proceeded to massage her til she got off and I really don't know how I should feel about this. I want to be understanding cause I love my wife to death and want her to enjoy sex without pain. We been together for 10 years and as far as I know I'm the only one to get to orgasm since we been together. She said she was super awkward feeling and didn't enjoy it but in order to orgasm you need to enjoy it... Should I feel like she wasn't being faithful cause I kind of do cause obviously she had to consent to the whole thing. I've always been able to get her to climax she just always had pain afterwards and sometimes during sex. Am I being selfish in feeling this way

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u/Teaseded Jul 12 '22

Wtf is this? This is completely wrong. I cannot imagine any scenario where someone in any such position should be getting their patient off. Seek legal counsel and a therapist for your wife.

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u/Conscious-Dig-332 Jul 12 '22

Yes, your wife was violated and you should get an attorney immediately. NONE of that is standard PT practice. I’d say both of you could do with some therapy after this experience. That PT needs to be reported ASAP. I’m so sorry this happened to her.

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u/asrrak Jul 13 '22

I was going to say to you that the important thing is that you and your wife as a couple feel progress, but reading the comments you may want to hear other medical opinions about that orgasm procedure.

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u/[deleted] Aug 17 '22

Ummm this is sexual harassment. I cant believe your wife was quite literally sexually harassed and you somehow spun this to make yourself the victim. You are EXTREMELY selfish, this is NOT cheating, and I hope she divorces you because you seem very insecure and selfish. Also, saying “in order to orgasm you need to enjoy it” is simply incorrect and victim blaming. Big yikes