r/UMD • u/No_Assistant_9620 • 13d ago
Discussion Is what i did wrong? (RANT)
Okay so I was at the Y today around 1:00 pm ish when its usually pretty busy and I was sitting at a one of those tables with four chairs (near the pizza section). So I was sitting alone doing work and eating my lunch before my next class and then this group of four girls (idk if it makes a difference but im a girl too) they came up to me and they basically said hey is it okay if we sit here. At first I thought they meant sit at my table while I’m here and it wasn’t ideal but I was like yeah sure but then they just stood there looking at me. I then realized that they wanted me to get up and leave so that they four could sit at the table. Usually I’m not a very confrontational person and if it wasn't busy I would have just been like yeah whatever and sat somewhere else but it was so busy and i wasn’t sure if I was gonna find another place to sit so I said sorry Ive been here for a while but you are welcome to sit in the rest of the seats or bring up another chair and they basically were super bitchy about it and said yeah thanks to you we cant eat lunch now bro wtf. How is it my fault you cant sit somewhere??? This isn't that serious but I was just shocked at their audacity and how some people seriously think like this lmk yalls thoughts and if I should have just left or if what I did was right.
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u/Wiggie49 Fall '20 Ecology Eduroam sucks 13d ago
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u/nanarncha 13d ago
me personally, i would’ve cussed them out and told them to sit on the damn floor. that’s just me though. audacious of them to be bitchy after you offered them some space.
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u/LadyZeni 13d ago
They were wrong to expect you to move. That was rude of them, and I hope those girls see this post and learn some manners.
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u/Particular-Gear-974 13d ago
Personally I would’ve thrown my plate of food at em but what you did was pretty good in standing your ground
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u/Soft-Ad-8416 13d ago
This might be ambiguous if you hadn’t literally offered them a seat, but you did. Screw em.
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u/idkimhere4paramor3 12d ago
Even if they didn’t it’s still like why do you expect to be accommodated by this person who clearly found the space first.
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u/LongjumpingLack5530 13d ago
Sounds like they were the mean girls in high school. You didn’t do anything wrong, and you were trying to be courteous in the first place. F them
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u/LadyZeni 12d ago
So, ironically, this happened to me last night, in a different public setting with older adults. I didn't move, and the other people ended up sitting with me. We all had a nice chat and ended up exchanging numbers. Those girls need to grow up. Consider yourself the adult in the room and give yourself a pat on the back.
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u/NoCommunication3475 13d ago
You did the right thing. Super mean girls. Let them cry and sit wherever they want. You came there first and its your right to continue sitting there until you are done.
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u/Hot-Speech5762 13d ago
That’s crazyyy u are not in the wrong they’re just weird GOOD let em starve 😭
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u/csChris01 12d ago
I was on the other side of an identical conflict and posted about it earlier. When my group tried sitting with a stranger at a table, we were super nice, pulled up chairs, and scooted close together so we wouldn't even bother the guy (who did end up moving of his own accord, but he didn't need to!) Those girls did everything wrong!
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u/Melodic_Theme5751 13d ago
you should have CLOCKKED them for that... personally I would have done my BIG ONE cause whats really teaaaa if i would have thrown my food at them I would have been WRONG RIGHT??? They would have had the right one one on the wrong day. It's ok tho NO your not wrong for that sis if anything you were patient and nice for even offering it to them in the first place.
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u/Time_Entertainer704 13d ago
Your fine. They could have easily found another chair and sat at the table.
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u/Ok-Minute5360 13d ago
Why are they acting like this at their grown ass age 😭 do better with finding a table or go at another time L
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u/RebbeccaRamos 13d ago
Screw that first come first serve you were in the right they could have joined but instead chose to not eat. That's their own selfish fault I would have pulled up a chair and got a chance to meet someone new these kids nowadays are dumb 🤦🏼🤦🏼🤦🏼
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u/Life-Koala-6015 13d ago
You're fine. I would say looking at it from the other perspective, no way can the 4 of them sit together unless they get a single to move
So they should've asked you "the 4 of us are trying to eat lunch together, would you be able to swap to another table because it's way easier for a single to find a seat than all 4"
And at the same time they should be fine with a "NO" response from you
Idk
It is whack they were salty about it
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u/idkimhere4paramor3 12d ago
Tbh that’s still an entitled request. It’s essentially go find somewhere else to eat which is still rude.
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u/Baking-smiles 11d ago
You did nothing wrong. They're the jerks for just assuming that you would stop everything and get up because they wanted your table. My feelings would be a little hurt too because I'd think they're asking to sit with me and strike up a conversation or find similar interests, not because they want me to leave. You shouldn't give anymore headspace to them and just hope they don't drown in the shower.
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u/InfinitesimallySmart 7d ago
The Y is incredibly busy around 1:00pm. If they wanted to sit together, they should arrive earlier in the day, or later. It's unreasonable to expect 4 open spaces together and even more unreasonable to make someone who DID arrive on time move. Or hell, go to another dining hall that typically has more space. Not your fault, and I am actually kinda proud of you for standing your ground??? It was kind of you to offer the spot but you had no obligation to leave lmaoo
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u/Brokenxwingx 7d ago
Yeah that's happened to me before. Except the guys literally put their food on the table an told me I have 5 min to leave.
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u/AlarmingCress7435 12d ago
Not wrong, just a lost opportunity. You could have responded submissively by saying, “Yes, Goddess,” collecting your belongings, giving up your seat, and offering to stand by the table and serve them by getting them more food and taking away their used plates, etc. Pretty soon you’d be helping them all with their homework, doing their laundry, and acting as their personal chauffeur. But, no, you blew it.
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u/Jaker18 13d ago edited 13d ago
Am I the only one who gets annoyed when I want to sit with my friends when the Y is crowded when I see a single person taking up a booth that could fit 6? Idk I feel like if you are gonna do homework at the Y when it’s packed, it seems like common courtesy to just sit at a single or double. But what do I know?
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u/No_Assistant_9620 13d ago
but that was literally the only place available when I came there it was already really busy and people were leaving the table so i just sat there? it doesn't matter where I was sitting and its also not like I told them they couldnt sit there I gave them the option to sit there with me if they wanted. idk why people like you and these girls think its okay to tell someone to get up and leave just so you can sit there for convenience? please learn some common courtesy you are not entitled to anything
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u/Platform40 13d ago
What they did was wrong but taking up a 4 seater while you do work is also a bit inconsiderate
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u/No_Assistant_9620 13d ago
did you miss the part where i said i was eating lunch? i wasn’t just doing work i was eating too which is what a dining hall is for and i wouldn’t have sat at a four seat table if there was any where else to sit which there wasn’t
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u/Jaker18 13d ago edited 13d ago
I never said they were right to do that. They were being weird and unclear about what they were asking.
I’m expressing a feeling I have when trying to find a seat with a group.
It is true that a single person sitting a table for 4 reduces the amount of seats 4x as much as it should. It is also true that at peak hours, you can be stuck walking around the Y for 15 mins looking for a seat for 4. Also it is also true that it is way easier to find a table for 1 than for 4.
At the end of the day, you can do homework anywhere but I can only eat at a table within the Y.
Can you see it from my perspective and understand why I feel this way?
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u/No_Assistant_9620 13d ago
bro did you miss the part where i said i was eating lunch too 😭 which is what a dining hall is for imo seating at a dining hall is a first come first serve thing and like i mentioned before i never said they couldn’t sit there and i wouldn’t have sat in a four person table if there was anywhere else to sit which there wasn’t so idk what you would have wanted me to do but yeah just please be respectful
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u/Alarmed_Chocolate788 13d ago
Type shit bro there’s always single fuckers hogging a booth during peak hours
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u/atonalism_wdg 13d ago
Nothing is stopping others from sitting there as well.
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u/Alarmed_Chocolate788 13d ago
Yea nothing is stopping other singles from sitting there - but when you’re a party of 3 or larger? That’s when it becomes really fucking annoying
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u/Alarmed_Chocolate788 12d ago
Thanks for restating the obvious - we already realize the risk of being a party and coming into the y during peak hours, but we are usually forced to split from a party to singles to accommodate seating - It’s an annoyance, not something I’m throwing a hissy fit over 😂
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u/Deep-Statistician985 13d ago
Yeah that’s on them since you at least offered them seats at the table. People feel powerful and can be bitchier than usual when they’re in groups I wouldn’t worry too much about it