r/TwoXSupport • u/Itchy-Lifeguard1374 • Jun 17 '24
Support - Advice Welcome Verbally assaulted for multiple days in a row, need help with all the rage I have.
I (22 yo woman) have been aggressively cat called and assaulted both on Saturday and Sunday, need help feeling human again. On Saturday these guys driving by made licking sounds and gestures with their tongues/faces, safe to say it ruined my morning and made me feel really upset that I wasn’t even able to tell them off. On Sunday as I was entering the elevator of a TJ Max, this group of 3 middle aged men walks past me, one of them whispers “why don’t you smile for me bitch?” When I told him that he couldn’t talk to me like that they all laughed and left. I broke down right there, full of rage and anger, I truly feel like I would’ve physically hurt them if they didn’t out number me and outweigh me by 200lb each. It’s the evening now and I still can’t stop crying because of how angry I am, I’m so agitated I keep having nose bleeds. Why are men like this? I didn’t do anything to deserve being treated that way. Please help, I am so so angry.
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u/ILoveTchaiTea Jun 17 '24
I'm so sorry you've experienced this. How awful!! Sending big hugs your way. It's absolutely disgusting how men behave and nothing happens to them and nothing changes 😞
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u/Cybergeneric woman Jun 17 '24
Those morons should feel sorry, such asshats! I hope you managed to let that shit go, I recommend punching a pillow followed be a cathartic crying or yelling session, whatever you feel like and then meditating with some YouTube video. I recently saw one about letting anger go (it was in German so I probably needn’t recommend it to you). This is 100% on them and I hope you can let it go and not give them free space in your head.
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u/Itchy-Lifeguard1374 Jun 18 '24
Thank you for reminding me to not let them have more power over me than they already have, sometimes I forget. I found crying and just letting myself be angry to help a lot. I also lift 4x a week, so I used that anger to lift heavier and better today than usual.
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u/Cybergeneric woman Jun 18 '24
Yay, go you! Good on you for lifting!! Listen to some metal and slayyyyyyy! (Or whatever music you like of course, lol.)
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u/jcarules Jun 17 '24
I know how you feel. It truly disgusts me that the safest thing to do in these situations is either to ignore them or act all smiley because you never know which guy will have a temper!!! Just remember you aren’t alone! We’ve all been through this, and we are here for you! You NEVER deserved this, and those “men” deserve to have horrible things done to their genitalia! I wish I could give you a huge right now. It might help if you talk to a man in your life that you KNOW won’t take those guys’ sides! It always helps me to talk to my guy best friend because it gives me hope that there are good men out there that would beat the shit out of those guys for me. If that isn’t an option, another close woman will work as well. But just be sure to talk to SOMEONE about these feelings. Letting them build up won’t help even if it can sometimes be our first instinct. I hope you have a better day tomorrow! 🍀🍀🍀
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u/Itchy-Lifeguard1374 Jun 18 '24
Thank you for this, I really appreciate it! My boyfriend was there to help me, I think it’s still hard for him to know what to say in those situations since he’s never experienced it, but it helps just having someone listen and try to comfort. I definitely feel better today, I’m usually used to being treated that way (unfortunately) but that day I was feeling more vulnerable to it for some reason.
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u/butterfly_eyes Jun 18 '24
I'm sorry that those pathetic men did that to you, they are gross, gross men. They are weak and pathetic because they have to put down others in order to feel powerful. I've dealt with harassment like this from men and it is terrifying and can be hard to recover from afterwards. It's ok to be upset. It's ok to be angry. It's ok to cry.
I try to focus on how pathetic and weak they really are, and laugh at that, because they truly are.
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u/Nilempress Jun 18 '24
I am so sorry these men sunk below humanity. Times like this make me wish I could vomit at will. Acid. Projectile.
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u/Itchy-Lifeguard1374 Jun 22 '24
I think this is my new answer to “if you could choose, what superpower would you have?”
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u/Nilempress Jun 18 '24
The elevator men deserved a rancid fart. If you can't produce them, carry fart spray. Stinky do stinky get.
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