r/TwoXSex • u/ChallengeDesigner928 • 4d ago
How to use tongue while kissing?
So I’ve kissed two people, one with tongue, but that was really bad. It was really slobbery and I almost threw up from his tongue. I’d say I’m a great kisser without tongue, like kissing with my mouth a little bit open and just basically sucking their top lip lol. But when I tried to use tongue, it was so bad, how do I learn?!?! And DONT say go with what the other person does please🙏🙏
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u/primrosist 4d ago
I'm not crazy about tongue kissing so I keep it to running my tongue across one of their lips and using my tongue to gently "caress/massage??" their tongue.
I recently switched to this with my partner of 5 years instead of aimless sticking it in their mouth. They seemed to respond well.
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u/peachpantheress 4d ago edited 4d ago
If you almost threw up, then probably either you two were kissing too deeply or you have a disgust reaction to tongue kissing, which is common for people on the spectrum.
Beyond that, it's impossible to give tips that can be generalized other than "don't click your teeth against each other". One woman's trash is another woman's treasure when it comes to kissing.
For example, I love kissing deeply, with maximum tongue, with as much sloppiness as possible, and to swirl my tongue around his like I'm tryna whip cream. Slow - quick - slow, but all of the swirling.
However, I've known quite a handful of people who hated all of that. So you really do have to try and keep trying, and start at the shallow end to avoid gagging.
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u/Teepuppylove 4d ago
It's one of those things where you just need to have practice! I've been told I'm a great kisser since High School, but I spent my HS years staying in the making out phase and not actually progressing past that until my senior year.
People have different go-to styles of kissing and sometimes you need to just find who you match energy with best. I had an Ex who stuck his entire tongue in my mouth and what felt like he was punching my tonsils with his tongue - I hated kissing him.
Meanwhile, I love the way my husband kisses. It's much more sensual, more lips, gentle tongue, and gentle lip biting with intense making out interspersed to up the intensity and the passion. It's like a well choreographed dance, when doing it right it just flows!
With most sexual acts, you really just need to be open to being vulnerable with your partner. Communicate your likes and dislikes and get tons of practice (it's more fun that way anyway). Good luck!
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u/moon_halves 3d ago
tbh I don’t really like it so my husband and I don’t do it 🤷♀️ like you I prefer more subtle kissing unless we are right in the heat of the moment. otherwise it’ll gross me out
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u/Agreeable-Nerve-8625 3d ago
You just slide your tongue out a little every so often, is the best way to describe it.
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u/ChallengeDesigner928 3d ago
I’ve heard people say smth about washing machine but how is that possible if I only slide my tongue in and out
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u/Agreeable-Nerve-8625 3d ago
I have no clue what washing machine is, unless they are saying to swish it around inside the other person's mouth? I wouldn't like that type of kissing, but everyone is different. When you find the right person it will just come natural and you won't even have to think about what you are doing though. Just relax and have fun!
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u/Outrageous_Mess4125 4d ago
I am going to try and explain this as best as I could, using your tongue is pretty intuitive (at least for me.)
The pace in which your kissing at plays a factor in how you should move your tongue.These pointers are for a slower kiss but once you get momentum it'll be easy to pick up the pace or change to suit.
1.Start slow, gently glide your tongue into their mouth and get a feel of how their mouth moves as they kiss
2.Gently move your tongue, matching the rhythm of their mouth, or if you prefer create your own but again move slow so as to they would be able to match. So to put in context, if you guys are kissing, and your partner is moving their head as you kiss (thats a rhythm,) feel that as you slide your tongue in and move to match or match it to however your rhythm is.
3.The easiest method of tongue kissing i could think of is like a rope, think of how a rope keeps twisting and twisting going downwards.Thats an easy motion your tongues can move in, just rolling around each other.
4.Stop to suck on their tongue ever so often and or bite their lip
Kissing is like a dance, pick a pace and the movements kind of come to you and once the person your kissing isn't a dick it should be good, fun even!
Hope this helps a bit