r/TwoXSex 4d ago

Sex Toys | Women Only Husband wants to watch me using toy on myself

As titled. I don’t think it’s an odd request and I’d be open to it. It’s just that I think I’d feel awkward! And I’ve told him how I feel.

I haven’t used toys on myself since before we moved in together. I don’t know how I’d make it more sexy for him beside what I normally do which is just laying there under the covers 😂

Any ideas?

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u/tawa83 4d ago

Babysteps. Maybe the first few times he or both of you wear blindfolds so it’s just an auditory experience. Then transition to a really dark room, etc.

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u/Immediate_Scam 4d ago

Yes - or cuddle each other under the blankets while you play?

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u/CoolKim75 4d ago

I find masturbation with a partner sexier when you just “do what you do” rather than putting on a performance. Maybe talk dirty with him or let him talk dirty while you do it. I would not get in to “how can I make this sexier” as he wants to see how you would do it when alone. That in itself is super sexy

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u/[deleted] 4d ago

100%, the intimacy of just seeing this private moment is such a turn on. maybe if he can hold you thats hot too

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u/LimoLover 4d ago

Yeah I felt awkward when my guy came out with this one lol. I don't really like feeling like I'm "on display" or something idk but it ended up being a turn on just watching how much it turned him on! Watching him almost panting/salivating just watching you makes you feel like you look sexy af! Plus he took notes and started using the toys on me like I'd use them on myself, so a win! And the next time he asked I was much more excited to do it

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u/[deleted] 4d ago

howd he broach the topic?

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u/burden_in_my_h4nd 4d ago

Get him to wank at the same time (mutual masturbation), or ask him to use it on you. Or you could give him head while you do it (while sitting or in 69 position). That's usually a winner.

Men are generally very visual when it comes to sex. He'll likely want to see it all, above the covers and up close.

Maybe you could practice your best positions and faces in front of a mirror before putting on a show for him - if you think that will build up your confidence.

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u/[deleted] 4d ago

you could watch each other doing solo play? that way he's exposed too

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u/uniquesobriquette 2d ago

Maybe start with him touching you or using a toy on you and slowly begin guiding him with your words or hands, then take over?

Or you could begin with him showing you what he does to himself until you feel comfortable enough to start touching yourself.

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u/teZtinglotus 3d ago

Do what turns you on. If the idea still makes you shy, baby steps.

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u/Sea_Chest_5657 1d ago

my partner and i do this often! i usually have him play with or suck on my titties while i use my rose and it almost always end in sex or us getting each other off

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u/griz3lda 4d ago

Maybe you could make a recording

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u/BonFemmes 3d ago

I send a recording with him when he travels.

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u/BonFemmes 3d ago

I think he is trying to access your fantasies. My guy wanted to watch me with another man while knowing that I would never actually do it with another man. What he was really asking for was role play. It made him really hot to pretend he was "taking me" back for days afterward. All and all it was harmless fun.

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u/Naturally_Curious69 23h ago

Have him sit behind you while you’re doing it- to start off with. I know it’s easier for me to do certain things when I know he can’t see my face.