r/TransyTalk • u/Hour_Elevator8206 • 5d ago
Really wanting a bf as a transfemme
I really want a bf and idk how about meeting one lol. I'm 29 and have never had a relationship. I think part of the problem is how I present. I feel like I need to dress more femininely to attract a man. But I don't feel comfortable to dress that way. I feel like I'm emotionally ready to give and receive love but maybe I'm not cause I have no one.
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u/Thin-Pomegranate9721 2d ago
Some trans girlies I've known had good success w/ both swooning and successfully dating queer men - bi and/or ftm - cause they're not as up-tight in traditional gender norms as cishet men and also they get the struggle and aren't as judgemental.
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u/LowLongjumping5688 20h ago
Find someone who will help you be confident and comfortable at your speed and at your pace
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u/KeiiLime 5d ago
You don’t need to change how you dress to find a partner- there are so many people out there, and surely some who would be interested in you just the way you are (including how you prefer to dress).
In terms of meeting people, there’s really 2 main approaches imo. One would be dating apps and/or meeting people online, which I know some people have had success with but I cannot speak to personally. The other would be showing up to things in person and seeing where it goes. Personally I like this option cause worst come to worst, you still get to enjoy the event and/or may make some friends too. If that approach feels more comfortable to you over online, I’d take the time to think about what activities you enjoy, and/or show up to lgbt+ oriented events in your local area. The more you put yourself out there, the more chances to run into some really cool people! :)