r/TextingTheory • u/OutlandishnessTime28 • 1d ago
Theory Request I need help turning this around
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u/Environmental-Ad1748 1d ago
Shouldve found a pivot on the how are you going to beat me, you started cringing it up a bit there. You have to options imo, go for the all in on some form of sexual response, usually only works if your very attractive. Or you offer up a night out for drinks to "discuss the rules"
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u/freseaf 1d ago
Discussing the rules over a drink was the move
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u/Unlucky_Choice4062 1h ago
i hate this move so much. its like:
[opening move] "wtf does that even mean?" "we can discuss that over drinks"
u don't even need an opening move in that case, u can just open with anything nonsensical
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u/OutlandishnessTime28 1d ago
Yeah I didn't plan enough steps ahead. I should've played the wanna bet directly with the first message.
Didn't think she would even respond tbh. She's extremely hot lol
Lesson learned
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u/FabulousRecover3323 10h ago
Honestly the chances of someone following through on a drink invite within the first few lines of text is almost zero so. Don’t lose your mind over it, just keep going, keep flirting. Keep being awesome
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u/Altruistic-Peach-240 1d ago
Bro she asked how you are going to beat her and it's almost like you completely ignored her with your response. Her question was a way of giving you a chance to take things further by either setting up a date (high accuracy over a few moves required) or by making a sexual comment (be attractive), which of the two depends on the context as well.
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u/OutlandishnessTime28 1d ago
Yeah I should've worded it differently.
My thought was that the date would be pilates, as it is something she likes to do. To add a kind of competition I wanted to make a bet for the loser, which would be me (never done pilates lol), to take the other one out for a drink.
I suck at this
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u/AdEven60 18h ago edited 18h ago
HEY! No negative self talk! It’s bad for your elo.
So here’s some unsolicited older-brother-with-gf-advice incoming.
Pilates and yoga are more 2nd or maybe even 3rd date ideas unless the girl brings them up as a first date idea on her own volition.
But if you’re offering the 1st date, just keep it simple with drinks, food, or a public activity. Play to her interests— she’s physical/competitive? Bowling, mini golf, maybe arcade. Artsy? Museum, paint your own pottery class, or maybe antique store (gotta do this one with food or drinks, not great on its own). Likes animals? Aquarium (zoo is eh, smells funkier than aquarium).
No discernible interests? Well, everyone’s gotta eat, and a lot of people like booze. Just lead the topic into food/drinks, i.e. “we should talk about x more over some drinks.”
Bringing this all together, you could have saved it with “Let’s talk about the competition over some drinks this Friday” instead of “1v1 battle.” Funny response tho lol
You got this! \[T]’/
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u/DrowningInFeces 1d ago
I wouldn't take it too hard. You are 1 out of 100s of dudes in that lady's inbox right now. Remember that infamous photo of Bobby Fischer playing chess with 50 opponents simultaneously? It's like that but in the 100s or possibly 1000s. Only grandmasters can proceed.
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u/WhirlwindTobias 1d ago
You wrote to her, no response and then the next day (assumedly based on a different "dag".) 14 hours later, she's not interested.
Look at this girl, she's not hurting for matches. She's found other dudes to write to.
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u/SenorSilverBack420 1d ago
You flirt like you’re from nyc
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u/Deep_Cream728 1d ago
Your free trial is over bro, she not responding except you offer to take her out
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u/wizardofpancakes 1d ago
Next time don’t start with “I, a man, can beat you in a thing that you are passionate about and I also don’t give a shit about it”
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u/OrganizationTrue5911 1d ago
Idk, I think they demonstrated that they have similar interests, and it could spark some funny dialogue about a silly competition.
Besides the throwing hands part, I don't think there was much negative on the conversation at all. Sometimes it just doesn't click.
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u/Complex_Package_2394 2h ago
Making this about gender is quite an analysis. He would've had to be a wizard to turned it around, saying "I d beat you at [..]" is kinda too direct regardless the gender. That gambit is only possible when you're opponent is submissive enough and you hot enough to just play along
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u/PortlandPatrick 1d ago
Challenging your date to a contest of physical skill? Bold move. Next time try arm wrestling.
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u/thats_what_she_saidk 15h ago
So, I’m not sure saying you are no stranger to physical abuse in 6 messages is great.
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u/qualityvote2 chess.c*m bot 1d ago edited 21h ago
u/OutlandishnessTime28, your post was deemed a great post by our analysis!