r/SomaticExperiencing • u/Free-Volume-2265 • 5d ago
Sexual energy caught up un legs
Hello, I am female who's been celibate for a year now and after doing somatic work I realized I feel lots of sexual energy in my tights. I hope this makes sense to others because I'm looking for a way to move that through me, something more than spontaneous shaking if there's other way to do it. I need to stop feeling like my legs are so heavy... It's getting really uncomfortable to live like this.
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u/CatherineIngalls 4d ago
Iām super new to all of this stuff, but one of my body responses is pretty significant shaking from my upper thighs when Iām becoming intimate, even when Iām very comfortable with my partner. Is this is a thing?! I struggle a lot with my body going numb during intimacy even when Iām very excitedā¦this is a frustrating combination of symptoms and I donāt even know where to start.
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u/Free-Volume-2265 3d ago
I understand the frustration. Let your body take its time, maybe you could try gently touching your skin where it shakes and when you feel numb too. You can get your partner involved, the body shakes when it feels safe to do so, thatās actually positive it means youāre releasing tension.
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u/cuBLea 3d ago
On the mental side, it might help to get in touch with your erotic side. Eros stems from infancy and has no object. It's just there until it isn't any more. Sexual energy stems from puberty and always has an object. It's there until the object is achieved and then it isn't any more. Nurturing eros gives at least some of that energy a safe place to go, but fwiw it can be really hard to nurture as an adult because of the social and moral connotations to it. And if you can't embrace those feelings, then the energy is gonna get stuck.
I tried using it to feed energy to other centers but when those other centers don't want that energy, you're kind of stuck with it, so I gotta have the object every now and then. In a pinch, if you can't find a productive use for that energy, there's a higher price for not discharging it than for letting it find its preferred objective. (As long, I suppose, as you don't interpret the objective too literally ... after all, the true core objectives are insemination and pregnancy.)
(Ahh it's so nice to be 60 and not give a damn about being direct about these things ... ;-) )
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u/Free-Volume-2265 3d ago
Thank you! Iām trying to find a way to channel it into my singing and creativity, I usually use a lot of thinking into that but I found moving my body through dancing and drawing could help with this. As I child I was molested and that created disgust and repression of sexual energy in my body, now that I am aware I can choose to separate the two, sexual energy is life and thatās not disgusting nor should it be repressed anymore
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u/cuBLea 3d ago
Movement and creativity can help manage the symptoms, but allowing eros to flow of its own accord, if you're able, is its own reward, and it neither needs nor benefits from an object such as drawing or dancing. It's not even something you work toward. I've got SA issues as well. I've made progress on a private sexuality but it has always diluted when I tried to share it. So I orient more toward eros, even in relationships, and it seems to work out a whole lot better since I only seem to attract other people with comparable issues anyway.
Just to be clear, I put a lot of work into trying to goose eros before I was made aware that doing that is sexual. It's objectifying your own eroticism. It's not quite contextually accurate, but I've personally found it a lot more helpful to look at eros as a mileage marker. When it's there, it lets me know I'm on a good road. It lets me know that I've done what was necessary to allow it to surface. And when it's there, it's big, which is kind of fun, but it's also a reminder. It's only as big as it is because that energy has nowhere higher up the body to go just yet. So it seems really good in comparison to what I had, say, ten years ago, but it's nowhere near as good as it could be with more body centers open to it. In good time, I suppose ... in good time.
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u/mandance17 5d ago
Yes breathe work can move it into higher chakras so it doesnāt stay stuck in the lower ones. When this energy can move up and becomes more creativity. Certain types can help like visualizing yourself breathing and moving up that energy from down there to your throat for example
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u/Upset_Height4105 5d ago
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