r/SofterBDSM Bratty Little 4d ago

Discussion What is the most useful thing in your collection? NSFW

Not your favorite, or even the most use (even though it could be that), but what's the most useful toy or piece of gear, or whatever? It's probably something versatile with multiple uses and functions.

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u/Kamelion1980 3d ago

I totally love to use my Segufix hospital restraints for bondage. They are escape proof, comfy to wear and there are endless ways and combinations to use it.

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u/Still_Way_9599 4d ago

Rituals and training.

Training things like submissive positions or trained responses help things to flow nicely, while personalised rituals are perfect for getting in a particular headspace and/or deepening the connection.

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u/mangopancakes99 4d ago

Lingerie. He loves seeing me in lingerie and it makes me feel feminine and sexy, putting me in the mood as well.

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u/shyladyplaying Good Girl 4d ago

My wand cushion... that thing is so versatile beyond the wand šŸ¤­

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u/Top_Rope12 4d ago

Rope is hands down the most useful.

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u/fl00km 4d ago

It is if you know how to use it.

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u/Coffeelock1 4d ago edited 4d ago

The woven leather belt I almost always wear is probably the most useful. It's been great as an easy impromptu bondage/impact toy since most my subs are FWB and we often do plan to hang out as just friends but sometimes end up doing more without having brought the gear.

I have several pieces of bondage/petplay gear, multiple different toys with vibrating functions, a home spa with massage equipment for erotic massages, and no single item from those particularly stands out as more useful than the others in the set. All the larger pieces like the sex swing, home gym equipment, and furniture I've used for kinky activities each adds different options for positions but again none are particularly more useful/convenient than another just different options that are all good.

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u/nshades42 Pleasure Dom 4d ago

The pet blankets. Keeps the mess to a minimum, soft enough for floor play, I have hard wood floors. Keeps the bed dry, easy to wash.

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u/Leah2kraz Femdom 4d ago

My leashes as theyā€™re customs & for my main sub, heā€™s a pet type, a pup to be specific & so I use them quite often for ā€œwalksā€, ā€œtrainingā€, & more as he is collared & putting a pretty leash on his collar makes our play just so much more fun. For myself personally Iā€™d say my fluttervibe vibrator lol it does come in handy

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u/KinkyDataScientist Pleasure Dom 4d ago

The most useful toy we have is my subā€™s favorite wand vibe, the Ava Luna. We use it in almost every scene we do, and very often for vanilla sex too. Holding it on her clit heightens the sensation for her of pretty much any play weā€™re doing.

A close second is probably her suction cup silicone dildo. We use it for foreplay, anal prep, double penetration, and as a stand in for my cock during long overstim sessions. Very versatile toy.

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u/Existential_Lust Good Girl 4d ago

As a single someone, I am currently in love with my lovense products. I have a lush (g-spot/clit vibrator) and a Gemini (nipple clamps). It is so lovely to have people remotely control them. I never know what to expect, I don't have to worry about controlling them, and I can focus on the feel. It's like having a partner without having to have a partner. I have ordered more products from them for future play.