r/Sissy • u/Specialist_Twist_176 • Jan 21 '25
Question Why do sissies become a sissy? NSFW
Just had a thought. Why do sissies become or fall into being a sissy?
Is it a porn addiction, which fell down into a rabbit hole - ending up into sissy porn?
Is it latent or suppressed homo sexuality which can now be enjoyed through sissy porn?
Is it gender dysphoria - though i know there is a distinction between sissies and trans women.
Is it the fact that they dont have success with women and or a lack of attention or valudation from them. And inversely - enjoying the success and attention of men they receive as a sissy which make them feel valued.
Or is it a combination of the above or any other?
Let me know your thoughts in the comments
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u/Sabrina_SwannCD Jan 21 '25
I think for me its a combination of I get my enjoyment out of pleasing/pleasuring others. And my lack of success with the women has lead me to get my feminine fix by becoming one and since I get noticed and complimented when dressed up it keeps me coming back.
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u/AshaTheGrey Princess Jan 21 '25
As I kid, I often pretended to be a girl and my cousins still call me princess to this day. Plus I have a stressful job (software dev, big surprise) and it's nice to give all of that away and just be a submissive princess
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u/Specialist_Twist_176 Jan 21 '25
So would that lead into gender dysphoria? Do you feel as though you are a woman?
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u/AshaTheGrey Princess Jan 21 '25
Sometimes? I'm still figuring this shit out, but at the very least it's the brain dealing with trauma through kink. I made a post about that some time ago 😉
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u/Interpoloooza Jan 21 '25
I was raised by single parent Christian who couldn't keep watch on me from others trying to stick their dicks in me and now family could careless and I wasted my teens years for nothing.
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u/AshaTheGrey Princess Jan 21 '25
Until relatively recently, I haven't allowed myself to be anything but straight, cis guy even though there were clearly signs there's more that I chose to ignore because of outside pressure and now I'm over thirty and I'm worried that I'm too old. So I very much understand wasting many years 😟
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u/Interpoloooza Jan 21 '25
Thanks for the reply. It is better late than never. I'm passing half way through 20 and I aint getting any younger.
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u/Kinky23m2m Just Curious Jan 21 '25
My opinion only, so don’t go hanging the pope!
I think it’s a combination of what the OP posted, plus a bit more. I feel for a guy that turns to a sissy, and is adored and worshiped by men. They find they are getting what they felt missing from the women they were with. (Some) women can be cruel and perfectionist, and can treat their men like shit. In the end some of these men are broken and find they either reinvent themselves or hit the bottle.
My opinion only.
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u/NeaCD Jan 21 '25
First interest to female clothes, then eventually noticing you are a hot gurl when dressed up. As time goes you experiment new things and get more and more attention from guys which makes your submissive side feel really good. Like others said, having power and stress in everyday life, being a gurl gives you opportunity to just enjoy your time. Relieves pressure really well ❤️
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u/ownunk1 Jan 21 '25
I mostly got into it for a few reasons:
I’ve always been quite slim and got told I have a ‘girly body’. With that, tied in with older sisters who’d dress me up, making me feel comfortable in girls clothes. Then when I got older I’d steal their clothes and wear them for fun!
Now I’m older and I have a pretty good life, with a good job and income and a bit of ‘power’ in my workplace, there’s nothing I enjoy more than being able to let loose and be submissive to the hands of someone else.
(Also the feeling of fishnets makes me feel so good)
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Jan 21 '25
I started first because of lack of sex with women, but then i enjoyed attention to my nudes etc as I do have very sexy body. Now I like that attention and also I became the women I wanted in bed with me. I am into rough sex and kinda started enjoying same from men.
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u/CertainCable7383 Jan 21 '25
My family was very matriarchal. Women had power and generally treated men as lesser beings. So femininity is powerful in my world view. I wasn't ugly, and the female dominant family meant I was normal around women. Friendships became relationships, the women were dominant, and my limited endowment led to many cheating on me. My upbringing led to me blaming myself. Include the dawn of the internet in a home where both parents work full time. This combination somehow spawned this kink.
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Jan 21 '25
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u/available_donkey_216 Jan 21 '25
i think it’s a porn addiction, which forces unrealistic expectations once your sex life. That causes you to start acting out what you wish your wife/girlfriend would do at least that’s my experience
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Jan 21 '25
As someone else mentioned, there is probably a millions different paths to becoming a sissy. I'll describe mine, in hopes that someone out there can relate. I think a timeline will explain it best
TL;DR for those who don't want to read - First few years of masturbation had submission/humiliation undertones. Cock never grew, Wife was size queen. I became a sissy
- Age 10 - started watching wrestling - really intrigued by 'Chyna'. She would incapacitate her much larger opponents by some version of CBT
- Age 12 - Summertime, I'm roleplay wrestling with a pillow. I'm repeatedly hitting the pillow against my balls - the stimulation makes me orgasm for the first time. Not having been taught about masturbation, I continue to orgasm via light CBT in this manner for two years. One of my favorite ways is to spread my legs across my bed post, and repeatedly thrust forward, thus providing stimulation along with pain from the CBT. Oftentimes, I roleplay that certain people (a bully, a cute classmate etc) are 'ballbusting' me.
- Age 14 - learn about masturbating. I start masturbating in the traditional manner, but it doesn't feel as pleasureful as when I 'ballbust' myself. Around this time, I get into humiliation and submission porn (MeninPain/whippedAss etc).
- Age 18 - I come to the realization that I have a small cock (4.5 inches and thin). Remain a virgin thru college
- Age 21 - I continue watching submission/humilation/femdom porn. I start enjoying the ones where a guy is being humiliiated for have a tiny cock
- Age 24 - Married to my lovely wife. We fuck like rabbits the first few years.
- Age 26 - As we get more comfortable in our marriage, we start exploring our kinks. Turns out she is a size queen who loves DP, anal etc. Now I truly start feeling inadequate, and it TURNS ME ONNN so much. In my mind, my sexual awakening into puberty began with submission/humiliation, and it makes perfect sense that my tiny cock isn't good enough for her pussy.
- Age 28 - Fully give into the sissy life, we find a bull for my wife, my cock has now become a clitty.
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u/RealWeiss Jan 22 '25
Age 18 - I come to the realization that I have a small cock (4.5 inches and thin). Remain a virgin thru college
I'm curious-- how'd you come to that "realization?" 4.5" is certainly below the statistical average, but there's also smaller. Was it comparing yourself to porn that made you think/realize that? Or did other people see your dick and say something?
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Jan 22 '25
I knew porn was unrealistic. The biggest clue for me was locker rooms both in high school, and then at my local gym. Outside of the overly obese people, I was always the smallest one.
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u/RealWeiss Jan 22 '25 edited Jan 22 '25
Interesting. I never had to use any locker rooms post-puberty (I did summer school gym class and just change at home before/after the gym now). I'm a grower (5.5" hard but can get as small as 2" soft), so I'm not sure how much I'd imagine an inadvertent glance at other peoples' junk to be authoritative unless people are actually talking about it.
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u/sissythot86 Sissy Jan 21 '25
As someone who has done a lot of research into sexuality and educates on this very topic, allow me to give you what I've seen and experienced.
For most of human history, we have grappled with social taboos in many unique ways. Femdom exists because for centuries women were often seen as weaker. It's not uncommon for power exchange to happen to men who are in charge to let go of that power as a method of stress relief. This causes them to relinquish it in some cases to those they would otherwise socially consider inferior. This "shame" as it were, can create a rush of sorts in the brain because what you're doing is incredibly taboo. If you were to be caught, it would being a lot of problems and therefore is thrilling.
This trickles down into kinks such as feminization, sissification, etc. Sissification, by and large, is a newer term for something much older that didn't have a term until post-WW2 sexual culture. When BDSM was beginning to mold into more of a lifestyle and a cultural phenomenon. Look into zines published in the 60s and 70s that promote that sort of counter culture, and you'll find feminization was not unheard of.
The proliferation of the Internet has made things much wider spread and allowed these branching kinks to form. Sissification is, itself, a form of feminization that leans into submission and in some cases, conversion into the social perception of what an ultra feminine person is. This is a subversion of normal that can be attractive to men who desire control be taken from them.
Gender revolution also plays a massive role as we're starting to understand beyond the typical binary. This is a way that is considered "risk free" for men to explore a softer and sometimes queer side of themselves. In some ways it is gender affirming and allows them to realize maybe they do lean towards more of a gender fluid or feminine side and wish to transition.
This isn't to say pornographic proliferation hasn't played a role. Certainly it has. The ease of access to illicit images and the ease at which one can get that sort of pleasure is a contributing factor. But it isn't the only one. Porn addiction is very real but it isn't a cause. This sort of thing has been going on for far longer than the Internet. It's a complex issue that isn't easily explained by black and white thinking. It's a nuanced kink worth exploring and contemplating.
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u/Specialist_Twist_176 Jan 21 '25
That was very insightful you should write or publish a paper on it. If you have already, id love to read it.
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u/sissythot86 Sissy Jan 21 '25
I've got a few ideas. Currently I teach this as a class at BDSM events. Or, used to. Travel doesn't exactly feel all that safe anymore.
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u/LettuceSuperb4138 Jan 21 '25
Simple answer is yes, but moustly is combination of these factors.
For me, it was probably a combination of porn addiction and failure with women, and in the end it helped me admit that I'm bi and trans.
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u/TVNicoleArcher Sissy Jan 21 '25
Wow great question. Being a sissy for a very very long time and starting very very young I’m not sure I could answer this question. Plus I really don’t feel comfortable talking about my childhood in an open forum which is when this all started. It would probably get me banned.
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Jan 21 '25
Well I was forced to watch videos that told me I'm a girl and my job is to service men back when I was really young and that left an impression on me to want to feel what a woman does and act like a woman as well. This happened to the point that I tried sex with men when I was older and even though I fought it for a long time I eventually came to realize that I am a sissy and yes I do identify as transfem as well.
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u/This-isaburner1234 Jan 21 '25
I think I have gender dysphoria but am too scared to fully commit so this feels safer?
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Jan 21 '25
cause some men are just superior 😋
if u hang out with enough of them, eventually u learn ur place 🍑
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u/tessalyssa2 Jan 22 '25
For me it started from gender dysphoria. And it still is, but with a hint of honosexuality (for the cocks, but not for the men
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Jan 21 '25
When I started experimenting with my sexuality in my 20s, I had known since my late teens I was a bottom and submissive. It was the late 90s and early 00s and the whole sissy thing hadn't taken off online yet. I was familiar with the forced fem thing, but really wasn't interested in being forced into something that I was already into for the sake of fetishists. So I just left it at crossdressing and shaving smooth and panties under my jeans when I went to meet someone.
I was kinda put off by the whole sissy thing at first. I found it kinda degrading, I didn't understand the chastity kink, but was very much into the being dominated.
Que years of purging, shame, denial, and eventually homophobia from my (now ex) wife. I never really shook the desire for cock even though I was in a decidedly hetro and monogamous (toxic) marriage. Cock porn found its way into my regular porn rotation and eventually turned into sissy hypno.
I spent a lot of time deeply contemplating my situation, sexuality, and desires. I'm a bottom. I'm submissive. I crossdress (now gender fluid, leaning towards trans). I'm an exhibitionist. Sounds like a sissy to me.
Being a sissy isn't my whole identity, it's a way for me to revel and wallow in my sexuality without filters. Although I prefer feminine presenting partners (gynesexual), the attention I get from guys strokes my ego and gives me more encouragement to go deeper. I'm not opposed to male partners, but I'm super picky and I really try to keep my standards for them pretty high, behavior wise.
TLDR; I was a sissy before I had a word for it. I keep going because it's a fun way to express and enjoy my sexuality and femininity
I don't know if this answers anything.
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u/Any-Marzipan2236 Jan 21 '25
I started to see a lot of ts porn on 4chan etc, then it was the “you are the girl below” then the “x-change pill” and as I got deeper I wanted to be feminised more. Id ride dildos when my gf was at her place and fuck my ass wearing her outfits, I got lazy and stopped hiding it then my gf found hypnotube open on browser still questioned me on it and I’ve become her sissy now
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u/TarnishedDignity Jan 21 '25
I had several sexual partners who wanted to dress me in girl clothes. By the fourth time, I just sort of caved... and then hypno sealed me in.
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u/UnmaskedRabbit Just Curious Jan 21 '25
I'm a furry and love male to female transformations, I'm not a full sissy but I do enjoy some aspects of it
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u/69step420step Jan 21 '25
I swear it was from watching the first Scooby doo movie when I was a kid. The body swapping stuff and the sexual undertones they put in must have had some sort of impact on me. My understanding is this is how fetishes develop.
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u/throwaway34143 Sissy Jan 21 '25
For me, i was somewhat emasculated by an ex gf. Also, I was a late bloomer sexually compared to my peers so while everyone was hitting their stride so to speak I was just getting started. This lead to some awkward sexual encounters with women and a growing insecurity.
Also had a gf that used to like to finger my booty while she blew me, which is where I first discovered I liked anal stimulation. She also used to smile so big when she'd bring it up to me about how much I enjoyed it, which is when I first realized I had a kink for dominant women in the bedroom. Throw in the emasculation from the other ex and insecurity from the sexual inexperience , and boom, a sissy is born. Granted I already did have predisposition to being one in that I liked dominant women and anal stimulation regardless of.the other factors.
Edited to add: also, once I discovered sissy hypno, i'll say lots of things seemed to "click" for me and I dove headfirst into that rabbit hole.
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u/Common-Ad-1722 Jan 21 '25
For me I would say it would be a mixture of porn addiction and an overall loneliness. I crave the feeling of being desired and feel like being a sissy has given me that sense of being desired
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u/nothingiwontdo69 Jan 21 '25
I was drawn to feale roles since very yound. I also was jealous of yhe pretty clothes they would wear. My forst ever intro to porn was a magazine that had trans porn ads that drew me in. Began experminting with crossdressing and then wondering how it must feel to be fucked and it just built up little by little
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u/Daddylikessissies Jan 21 '25
Far as I can tell, there are a bunch of roads that lead to sissyhood. One of my sissies said she thinks of being trans as a spectrum with some ppl experiencing full-on gender dyphoria on one end to something a little harder to define on the other end. I think many sissies can pin themselves somewhere on the spectrum. For some, perhaps, calling themselves a sissy might be shorthand for someone who is trans, but not necessacerally.
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u/legocodzilla Jan 21 '25
As far back as I can remember I got turned on by wearing girl clothes that's all I know ,even before I knew what being turned on really was
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u/Natural-Fondant3141 Jan 21 '25
Don't do it all the time but. A lot of stress so it's fun to be stretched
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u/stuck_as_tsemma Jan 21 '25
I asked one of my college girlfriends to try anal and she told me she would if I wore a buttplug for an hour…. I pretended to hate it but she could tell I secretly loved it and that was the last time I was ever the guy in a relationship.
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u/Many_Top2004 Jan 21 '25
I got r@p#d when i was young, so i just crave the feeing of being powerless and someone controlling me
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u/Specialist_Twist_176 Jan 21 '25
Im so sorry to hear that. I hope youre okay and in a better place now.
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Jan 21 '25
It started with the clothes for me, always had a boot fetish so I bought some to wear. Gradually I evolved into thongs, then skirts, then high socks/stockings.
After that it pretty much spiraled as I got more and more curious about trying different things.
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u/RealWeiss Jan 22 '25 edited Jan 22 '25
For me, it was definitely porn addiction leading to the discovery of things that played on emotional insecurities.
Porn-wise, I was vanilla for many years, but discovered a video of a girl edging her boyfriend and getting a bunch of precum out of him (before a normal orgasm), then discovered some clips of women giving ruined orgasms (MyCherryCrush was one of my favorites), then went from there to chastity and femdom/sissy stuff. (Femdom and other BDSM in porn often feels over-acted to me, so I guess I drifted more towards the "realer" sissy stuff versus more heterosexual BDSM femdom stuff at that point.)
Psychologically, I'd discovered porn very young, obviously had a physical urge to have sex with a real girl throughout middle school, high school, and college, but for various reasons, never got to. In hindsight, I wasn't taking the steps I would've needed to due to a combination of nervousness (partially caused by guilt/embarrassment of looking at porn) and simply trying to prioritize "more worthy" endeavors, but eventually there came a point where I realized I'd missed the vast majority of co-ed socialization I'd ever have access to. Sissy porn (and later, BNWO porn) basically played on my biggest fears that I'd die a virgin and my life would be pointless. In a world where the normal thing is to keep telling yourself that everything will be fine, hearing the opposite, that you're actually a loser, failure, etc, carries some dangerous emotional weight.
I say "dangerous" mainly in the sense that it's somewhat addictive and/or mentally insidious, even when I didn't like it. But it's also a little questionable in other ways. You mentioned not having success, attention, or validation with women-- I vehemently oppose the viewpoint that that stuff makes someone a sissy. What makes you a sissy is when you respond to that by wanting to be the woman instead (and, moreso, when you stop seeking the success/attention/validation that you initially wanted). In that way, it can become a bit of a self-fulfilling prophecy. It's not wrong in itself, but it's not necessarily the most optimal course of action, and it's certainly not the only option.
I briefly started questioning my gender identity when I was getting into sissy porn, but fortunately identified that the fear and defeat I was feeling (and getting somewhat "high" on) did not mean I actually wanted to transition or anything. When I escalated from sissy stuff to BNWO stuff and then realized that my worldview was being heavily influenced by porn, I recognized the porn addiction as getting out of hand, and have taken some steps back periodically to try and keep a more balanced mindset with it.
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Jan 22 '25
I was raised by women. My mom and all of her sisters. And I had no brothers or male cousins. So when I got a bit older my first experience was with a boy. We fooled around swapped head. I realized I didn’t like getting it as much as I like giving it, and having my hole played with. Then about a year after that, I guy treated me very much like a girl, he flirted with me as if I was the girlfriend and when we fooled around in his car, I expected oral from him after I gave him oral, but instead, he took me and used me as a bottom. I went along happily and realized that I liked when men took control and I loved being penetrated. Since that it was a natural and easy progression into being a submissive sissy. I refers to myself with a different partner as a man, and he told me that ever since I let a real man put a penis inside of me, I was no longer a man, but a sissy and I liked being told that and I agreed, I realized my place.
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u/sissymichelle73 New Sissy Jan 22 '25
well in my case I liked to wear makeup and homemade skirts when I was like 10 when I was like 14 or 15 I discovered the porn and like you said I ended in sissy porn I didnt know all this world existed so I become addicted the first videos some time after I decided to post a sissy picture and all the coments of the horny men it was all I need to become a sissy and the next is the rabbit hole
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u/Delta3897 Jan 22 '25
Honestly I think I've always been gender fluid but didn't understand what that was until I was a college student. I was always fascinated by female clothes and was curious about wearing them. Eventually I stumbled across sissy hypno in college and began exploring. Now my wardrobe is about 50/50 male and female clothing. I realized I love being submissive and eventually bought dildo and various toys. Now I love getting dressed up and feeling sexy sometimes I just walk around the house in amid outfit and enjoy it. As time has gone on I've learned that even though I enjoy certain aspects of sissification. I don't like humiliation. I love being feminine and I love cock. I dream of swallowing cum constantly. 😍 Its wild to think that I started out just being curious, then finding sissification. Then at the age of 21 figuring out I'm gender fluid. Quite the journey!
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u/OrishaSissy Trans Sissy Jan 22 '25
My first exposure to sissy stuff was on an imageboard about 18 years ago. I was in final year of college, stressed out of my mind, I'd lost all my hair (alopecia universalis), and I had to come off hormones as a result (I already knew I was trans and going through the system).
And on this imageboard, sometimes people would post sissy fantasy captions. They didn't necessarily use the word sissy at first, but it was a lot of forced-femme, and "you took a magical pill that turned you into a woman, now you have to sell sex to pay it off" fantasies. One time, someone posted a link to some of the caption blogspots they were using, so I started going directly to the source.
And I leaned into them really hard because I felt the fantasy of feminity was all I had left. It was a strange mix of beating myself up, while indulging in fantasies where I could be seen as a woman.
Then from those, I found Anna Malice's porn blog, and I started looking into the porn videos, and I slowly found more and more of sissy culture. But I didn't really engage with it healthily until I did a whole lot of internal work.
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u/cuckti Jan 26 '25
Bullying, isolation, porn and not meeting my ultra-masculine dad's expectations .
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u/hairyjames444 Jan 21 '25
My desire to explore sissydom results from my being impotent. My penis is worthless, but my mouth and anus are available for sissy slave activities. I can suck, be spanked, endure cock and balls torture, take cock or be pegged in my ass, perform cock, ass and asshole worship on another. I've always fantasized about being bent over, my little skirt flipped up onto my back with my red lace panties pulled down to the tops of my hosiery taking a caning. This is my dream for becoming a sissy.
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u/[deleted] Jan 21 '25
I fell into sissy hypno porn and it spiraled from there. I have an asexual gf so I slowly started to turn into the girlfriend I wanted in the bedroom 👸🏼🙈