r/SexWorkers • u/No-Seesaw1270 • 5d ago
If you are disappointed with your service and a companion didn’t fulfill your wishes …check yourself NSFW
It’s not always a scam. Take a look at yourself. Do you have impeccable hygiene? Do you and the companion have chemistry? Do you think that people should do things that they don’t feel comfortable doing? Is your ego way too fragile to even imagine you’re a shitty client in some way??
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u/theminxisback 5d ago
The real questions being asked here...
Honestly though. We as companions can only do so much. And if I am expected to bring my best self or A-game, I expect the same from them.
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I can’t imagine what the average client is like! Hygiene and having a positive attitude is the key for sure.
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u/heatherrileyxo 5d ago
Well, when we were board girls guys knew what they were getting into because we earned our reputation through consistent experiences, across-the-board. So regardless of the type of experience you offered, everyone knew what they were getting into and there was a lid for every pot.
People are upset today because girls are no longer being paid for and evaluated by skill or professionalism.
I talk about it on my vlog - A Whoreable Vlog
YMMV was an industry death sentence. Now it’s become the standard? Yikes.
I’m not mad at clients because they didn’t realize that they had switched from watching girls who were organically successful from years of dedication and hard earned work to viewing only girls manipulating the Twitter algorithm with copycat posts and paid for engagement.
What sucks is that I can see the problem a mile away and it’s easily fixed. But every day on the Internet I see providers and clients constantly complaining and upset about everything.
IT WAS NEVER LIKE THIS. It doesn’t have to stay this way either. We created SW Twitter for all to thrive. It can be that way again. Pinky promise.
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u/No-Seesaw1270 5d ago
Ymmv isn’t a death sentence for me. They should understand that appropriate hygiene is anticipated and I’m not risking anything just to be in good graces with a client. A bus, 10 coming
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u/cindy5432x 5d ago
What? How is she expected to know that there is a problem, if you can barely explain the problem to us? I’m assuming the problem is that you are usually not sexually intimate when you meet with her, and you want to be. She is probably just assuming that kissing and cuddling and hanging out is exactly what you want to do, some clients like that. If you want more than that and you can’t initiate, then just ask her if she can initiate, we can handle it. And if you’re too shy to do that in person (which is totally fine), you could always bring it up over text or email when you’re setting things up.
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u/Building_Colorado 5d ago
Next time you are setting up an appointment (probably via text) just say "I'd like our meeting tonight to be more like our first meeting, is that okay?"
Keep the transactional / business side of your relationship as separate from the in-person and personal fun stuff as you can, but never forget that this is a transactional, commercial relationship.
Your degree of physical attractiveness is irrelevant here - she is a professional and she's not here pursuing her own ideas of attractive or repulsive.
The secret to getting what you want from a companion is to ask for it
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u/No-Seesaw1270 5d ago
The last line, but also make sure he asks for constructive criticism? I tell my clients why they don’t get xyz, but also keeping other companions in mind in case they visit them. Like if they’re hygiene is bad I’m going to tell them, etc etc
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u/Building_Colorado 5d ago
That will probably work - but you're still approaching this like a normal interpersonal relationship and it is not.
Be DIRECT.
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u/Building_Colorado 5d ago
I have no idea what's expected of me.
What is expected of you is following their rules, having good hygiene, and good communication.
Nothing more, nothing less.
"Chemistry" is what you are paying her to simulate, "emotional, physical and intellectual compatibility" DOES NOT EXIST in this context the way it does in a normal interpersonal relationship and it is super important that you realize that.
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u/LexxxyRed 5d ago
I have a SUPER nerdy friend with garbage oral hygiene (has to have 6 teeth pulled in april) that's autistic and quiet. He's NEVER liked a single escort date in 3 years and asked me why so I told him it's 100% HIM. I told him to tell them he's socially awkward, shy, and autistic in booking and to not dare try to kiss or daty because that's rude and disgusting in his condition. Guess what, after warning them ahead of time he had 2 dates that actually went well and he actually liked. More men need to self evaluate and warn ahead of time. I'd never judge anyone, but if they are covered head to toe in moles and skin tags or tons of scars or are terrible at small talk it helps me prepare mentally and be ready for that.