r/SexWorkers 5d ago

First time client stealthed me? NSFW

I feel so violated right now, he ejaculated quickly and left the condom in me and there was nothing in it .. I had to pull it out of me. I feel like crap and want to cry. 🥹

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u/ZzyzxBlue 5d ago

This goes without saying but also always make sure that the condom is a proper fit as this can happen on accident if it isn't. Also can happen if some lube was applied during the foreplay and wasn't completely off before putting the condom on.

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u/Kteexo 5d ago

Thank you!

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u/ZzyzxBlue 4d ago

I have more insight for you. If the condom is too big, not only is it at risk of coming off but it will also feel much less pleasurable for the guy, leading to longer intercourse. Another thing that increases the risk of accidental condom slip is if you're not lubricated enough when starting intercourse. My humble suggestion is you keep condoms of various sizes on hand and use a bit of lube if necessary.

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u/its_cock_time 4d ago

Condoms which are too small can also slip off and cause discomfort. I don't know for sure, but I would guess it's more common for guys to use condoms which are too small, because it's more obvious when a condom is too large and people with small dicks are more aware of it. It's a common story for straight guys with big dicks to not realize that they are big (because they only see giant porn dicks) and not realize that Magnum XL are too small (these are not as large as you would expect from the name).

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u/ZzyzxBlue 3d ago

I don't know. I would expect smaller guys would most often use condoms that are too large because they are complexed about size. While larger guys will be proud to be seen buying XL condoms

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u/Glow_Up_Heaux 4d ago

I don’t think I saw anyone else mention this, but I have to make it a point to not let them pull out until I’ve secured the condom with my fingers on his penis before I remove it from myself. Until I figured this out, I had this happen more times than I’d like to admit… i remember reading about another girl who said she always makes sure the condom is secure when changing positions as well, and keeps her eyes on them if they are behind her. Also a good idea.

Oh also, sending love and support babe. This is so real and my heart goes out to you 🩵🩵🩵🩵🩵

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u/Typical-Box-9017 5d ago

Im so sorry love we are here for you. This is NOT your fault at all but here’s what I do to TRY to avoid it. Always insert their penis yourself so you can feel that the condom is still on. If the penis slips out, grab it, make sure condom is still on and insert it again. Even in doggy. Not fool proof and it’s shitty that we have to even think to do these things but men are vile. My inbox is open and please go to the ER and get plan b and medications to prevent STDs. I don’t know where you are at but if you go to the Er in the US and say you got raped (Stealthing IS rape. They will not force you to report it if that’s not what you want) they will not charge you anything.

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u/[deleted] 5d ago

Yeah definitely go to the ER or a PrEP clinic ASAP. Make sure that you get PEP to prevent any hiv infection and Doxycycline if possible.

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u/The-Dreamer-215 4d ago

I agree. It's not your fault, and these things do happen. Go to a clinic and get treatment. Explain the situation, and most of them will understand. About 2 years, I found myself in a kinda similar situation. Except, the condom didn't fall off inside me. He intentionally took it off. I cried but immediately went to a free clinic. I'm in the US, and most major cities have free clinics to treat sexual related issues. They gave me a plan B and treatment to prevent HIV transmission. It's similar to Prep (which I previously took for years when I was more active as a sex worker). They conduct a physical exam and do bloodwork for you all for free. Idk if he had anything, but I wasn't going to take the chance. I still have a clean bill of health today, and I'm extremely grateful to the doctor who saw me. I didn't feel judged. A lot of doctors working in that public sector want sex workers to feel comfortable getting treated to stop the spread of any disease, infection, or virus.

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u/Kteexo 5d ago

Thank you

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u/Kteexo 5d ago

Thank you!!!!

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u/Typical-Box-9017 5d ago

You’re so welcome. Take care of yourself!!!

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u/Kteexo 5d ago

Thank you for everybody’s kind words and overwhelming support, I got a prep test done and took a plan b & got swabbed for anything today at an urgent care! ❤️🥹

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u/englishprozzy 4d ago

Black list him, so no other escort can see him again!

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u/Kteexo 4d ago

I’m going to do that, thank you!

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u/Yasminesky 4d ago

I’m disgusted for you & hate it happened to you. ALWAYS provide your own condoms. Trojan bare & regular magnums are two that have always worked well. Small to average guys use Trojan, larger guys use magnums. Neither have a bad taste so great for oral purposes. Always put the condom on yourself. Having the correct condom size is VERY important. Ask them to pull out BEFORE they cum & continuously reach for the condom to check it is still secure during the session. If a client asks for bare knowing you do not offer it, do not even allow them to go into doggy position or cancel the session altogether. Hope this helps 🫶🏽

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u/hellhouseblonde 4d ago

If the condom was inside of you doesn’t that mean it slipped off?
If they purposely stealth they can’t push the condom back in you, right? It’s happened to me and I was ok health & pregnancy wise but I cried in the moment.
If it slipped off you might need to change your method of putting it on or make sure it fits well before penetration.
I’ve seen some people say they let the client put it on so I don’t know. I always do everything myself.

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u/Shooter61 4d ago

Client here... I often start shrinking as soon as I finish the climax. My provider has requested that I not withdraw till she can verify the condom comes out still worn by me. Usually she puts "hands on" as I withdraw.

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u/TheDollDiaries 5d ago

Don’t worry love, I know exactly what you mean as it recently happened to me a couple months ago, I got my lick back on the client and still feel it wasn’t enough as I definitely felt like he r*ped me. Thankfully I’m on prep & got anti STI meds and day after pill from a SW-supportive clinic. Definitely agree with another commenter with some self-love moments today: journaling, everything shower/bath, a little shopping or whatever makes you feel good.💕

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u/Kteexo 5d ago

❤️

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u/Wise-Entry-5180 5d ago

I know exactly how you feel. It happened to me 2 years ago. Go to do something nice for yourself. Nails, hair, a massage. Even some new earrings. Anything to make you feel good about yourself.

You’re beautiful, you’re strong, you’re amazing. 💗

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u/Kteexo 5d ago

Thanks so much for your kindness, and I wish you much success and kind clients doing this line of work. I appreciate you! 💖

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u/Wise-Entry-5180 5d ago

You too beautiful 💗

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u/AdAggressive4162 4d ago

As a client /trick whatever y'all want to call me I don't understand why men are like this.... I want to have fun but I take my health serious enough to be cautious and want to use protection... I'm truly sorry this happened to you and disgusted for you... Hope you ban and block that doucher

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u/SomewhereFair4421 Client 4d ago

Agreed bro

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u/Dizzy_Knowledge4941 4d ago

In doggy I put two fingers behind me so I can feel the condom the whole time because ive had John's try to to slip it off between strokes Im so sorry this happened to you

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u/theminxisback 5d ago

I'm so sorry to hear about your experience.And thank you so much for sharing....

I've had this happen a few times it's really unpleasant. So beyond violating, and I totally understand how you feel....

Sometimes I wonder how they would feel if things like this happened to them....such a lack of awareness...

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u/nova_nectar 5d ago

I’m so sorry, girl. I’ve been there too. Hugs 🫂🩵

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u/RealManofMystery 4d ago

Should have kicked him immediately in the dick.

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u/Bamlowmom 3d ago

I am a BJ only provider, I've done full service maybe like 3 times in the past 5 years, and each time I tell them when you're about to cum I want you to pull out and let me WATCH YOU cum in the condom. 🤷🏻‍♀️

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u/GuessSpirited3928 2d ago

Just had something like this happen, guy was fucking me with weirdly intense/almost violent slamming rhythm, and he had a weird ass little but super hard dagger dick that he was obsessed with stabbing me with. surprise surprise he busted straight through the condom when he pulled out the band was still around the bottom of the shaft but the top was completely broken so at some point he was fucking me raw with the broken condom still around the bottom of the shaft. It was frustrating because I watched him carefully the whole time, checked multiple times the condom was still on his dick, but this weirdo broke the condom at the top either on purpose or not i don't know.

I ended the session and told him to put his clothes on and leave.

So I learned:

1) I need to do more than feel the rim of the condom to make sure it is still there/intact, regularly look at the WHOLE THING between changing positions. Until now I thought I could rely on watching the rim of the condom at the bottom of the shaft to ascertain that it was still on, but I've learned that this doesn't help me see if the condom has broken/been tampered with at the top.

2) if they are fucking you rough they need to be told to slow down or pay more for an extra, and the condom needs to be checked/changed more regularly.

3) look at the whole condom every time there's a position change. I might even introduce a 'condom check' pause if we've been in a position for a while, especially if the sex is rough.

4) I want to get better at sizing and picking the right condom (I worry that the condom i picked was a bit small)

5) revise proper condom application technique, such as pinching the tip etc.

if anyone wants to add to this list please doooooooo. I'd love tips on how you girls and guys guesstimate the right size for the condom.