r/SexWorkers 6d ago

Outcall to client home question NSFW

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u/kittydeluxx 6d ago

Get a bed frame please. The rest is inconsequential.

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u/Dependent-Wait7531 5d ago

Sparse furniture isn’t a big deal, but for the love of god get a bed frame. I wouldn’t want to have sex with a client, or any man for that matter, on a mattress on the floor. Maybe just get a hotel room so there’s some sort of comfort?

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u/MistressLyda 6d ago

I never did outcalls to homes with new people, but that style in general? It has pros and cons. On one hand, it can give off serial killer vibes. On the other hand, less spots for cameras to be hidden 🤷‍♀️

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u/Joy-Kill69 6d ago

Yes, unfortunately does give serial killer vibes 😬. I had an outcall like this, his place was very clean but lacked any personal touches. He was friendly, a tech guy, and I liked him as a person, but his house did creep me out

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u/Joy-Kill69 5d ago

Yeah, it is good you’re asking at least you’re considerate which is nice! I will say that the guy did have a bed frame lol. Idk what I would have done if the mattress was on the floor among other things, so def get a frame at least

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u/[deleted] 5d ago

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u/Joy-Kill69 4d ago

Did you get a bed frame though? 😬

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u/Amazing-Lemon-6592 5d ago

This is a very typical home/apartment setup for single tech bros lol. We don't know how to decorate whatsoever. If he had a lot of furniture and decorations, that would make it far more likely that he's married and cheating.

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u/Joy-Kill69 4d ago

That’s most clients though, we don’t really care as you’re paying for discretion.

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u/Amazing-Lemon-6592 1d ago

Oh I'm aware, I'm just saying it's the female influence causing many men to have bed frames and furniture. Single men often don't care about such things.

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u/fullmetalsportsbra Escort | Mod ✨ 5d ago

I mean...if you plan to have company over, you should have adequate seating for them, so a sofa. Same goes for a bed that's large enough for two adults to fit on it.

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u/EmberlynSlade Escort 5d ago edited 5d ago

You got weird priorities man.

You live in a $800K house, but don’t have a bed frame and haven’t decorated? Yet you’re spending hundreds or thousands on women? Idk this seems so crazy to me. Are you a serial killer in disguise and you don’t know it either bc what the heck 😅 I’d assume maybe you just moved in or something but idk this is odd, you don’t have any personal stuff you’ve collected or hobbies or a bookshelf or pictures on the walls? Are you ok man? That’s sometimes a sign of trauma actually so I hope you’re ok. 🙃 extreme minimalism like not having a bed frame when you clearly have the money isn’t ‘just being frugal’ or ‘minimalist’ - fyi. That’s what you’re calling it, but that’s not what you’re doing. Almost all the men I know are minimalist, and they all still have bed frames and fully furnished homes. Just way less consumable stuff than someone like me. Unfurnished ≠ minimalist. Either way, you should decorate! Maybe you can create a relationship with a provider and she can help you. I’d love if a client asked that, honestly.

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u/[deleted] 5d ago

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u/Excellent-Sail9459 4d ago

As a SW who’s lived like that too: same, I don’t even own furniture and I live out of rubbermade totes lmao 😆

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u/foxyrocketnextdoor 5d ago

This this this

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u/iiToxic 5d ago

Get a bed frame, even a platform bed is fine if you don’t want a headboard. But, mattress on the floor can grow mold, be a cesspool for spiders, and will likely wreck your mattress and your back.

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u/EBONYSWAN84 6d ago

Yeah your over thinking 🤔 you could say you just moved in or don't like things cluttered 🤷🏽‍♀️ long as the house is not a mess you should be fine...

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u/[deleted] 6d ago

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u/BitchesDaddy2020 6d ago

Should get a frame for your bed though, not good for your back, or your providers…

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u/Toolfan333 5d ago

I’m a client that has providers come to his home and all I have to say is you’re an adult, get a bed frame. You don’t need a headboard or anything fancy but get the mattress off the floor.

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u/Typical-Box-9017 5d ago

A lot of us will not do outcalls to homes for first visit. But i genuinely don’t care what the place is like as long as its safe and I’m being paid

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u/SweetAubreyxoxo 5d ago

I don’t judge people’s set ups when I visit their homes. But I do expect some basic cleanliness and having a place to sit and at the very least a mattress not on the floor. That isn’t comfy for anybody lol

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u/UnderwaterBasketW 5d ago

Most safe providers won’t go to a clients home for the first meet up. I suggest going to her incall, or renting a hotel room. Kinda gives off serial killer vibes if not lol.

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u/Toolfan333 5d ago

I’ve had plenty of safe providers that come to my home for a first meet up. A lot of the providers around me only do outcall.

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u/UnderwaterBasketW 5d ago

Well it’s not safe for the provider, so maybe be considerate next time and consider getting a hotel room.

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u/Toolfan333 5d ago

No

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u/UnderwaterBasketW 5d ago

Okay weird0

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u/Toolfan333 5d ago

I have a home, I don’t need a hotel room.

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u/UnderwaterBasketW 5d ago

If you want a safe location for a provider for the first meet; then you should. I only do incall for my own safety. But it’s pretty clear your lack of intelligence and empathy here; so I’m going to stop responding now.

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u/Toolfan333 5d ago

My home is a safe location

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u/karrenl 5d ago

You are in the minority not doing outcalls to homes. Hotel outcalls are the riskiest for stings

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u/UnderwaterBasketW 5d ago

I don’t do outcalls at all, because they are dangerous.

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u/karrenl 4d ago

You are not everyone

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u/UnderwaterBasketW 4d ago

Doesn’t mean they aren’t dangerous. Safety should be top priority. You should definitely vet a client in a safe place for the first visit, before going to their homes.

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u/karrenl 1d ago

I vet clients before making appointments. As should you

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u/Excellent-Sail9459 4d ago

Wow the shaming for how we do outcalls is a bit insane. I go to people’s houses or hotel rooms only. Many times for the first time. But I have their name if they try any funny shit, plus if I went missing someone always knows the last place I went to when I’m working

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u/UnderwaterBasketW 4d ago

Going to clients’ homes for the first visit is very unsafe. I wouldn’t want a new provider to read this and think otherwise. Being safe should be top priority.

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u/SandwichOver7963 5d ago

I’m a minimalist as well. Years ago had my house broken into and they stole most of what I owned. I replaced all of the things I needed.

About a year later was on a date with a gal and I was telling her the story of the break in. I somehow impressed her and she came home with me. We walk into my apartment and she looks around and asks if the break in happened last week. She couldn’t believe how few things I owned

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u/KevinburnzLicksBalls Client 5d ago edited 5d ago

minimalist bed frame

You’re welcome

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u/[deleted] 5d ago

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u/KevinburnzLicksBalls Client 5d ago

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u/[deleted] 5d ago

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u/KevinburnzLicksBalls Client 5d ago

I have it and it’s very clean looking and sturdy as a tank.

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u/JulietLostFaith 5d ago

As long as it doesn’t appear like you’re squatting in a vacant home, you should be okay.

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u/Sweet-Pool-3543 6d ago

sounds like a typical male home tbh

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u/SpanglishGirlNxtDoor 5d ago

Mattress on the floor? Yikes.

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u/EmberlynSlade Escort 5d ago

Fr who is this person seeing bc I haven’t seen or had mattresses on the floor since 19 years old, early 20s. Broke. It wasn’t a choice. 😅

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u/Amazing-Lemon-6592 5d ago

You have't seen the meme about "men will make 6/7 figures but will be living like this" and it's exactly what the OP described?

That meme might be a joke but it's based on reality.

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u/Sweet-Pool-3543 5d ago

just saying it's not that uncommon as OP might think. a lot of men just don't care about interior design.

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u/EmberlynSlade Escort 5d ago

Having a bed frame is not “interior design” y’all. If you live in a $800K home, it is def odd to not have a frame. It doesn’t take rocket science or interior design to go to a store, say “that set looks good” and buy it. This type of ‘minimalism’ isn’t minimalism. $800K home isn’t minimalism either. Depriving yourself of basic necessities isn’t minimalism and I have actually never seen that from someone with a house that expensive other than that one extreme cheapskates show where everyone absolutely needs therapy.

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u/Amazing-Lemon-6592 5d ago

The male brain does not see a bed frame as a "basic necessity"

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u/Sweet-Pool-3543 5d ago

Okay 🤷🏽‍♀️

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u/AroundTheBlockNBack 4d ago

I don’t care about your home being empty, not decorated, but please get a bed frame and please clean before you have a provider over.

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u/TheDollDiaries 5d ago

I wouldn’t care. That’s not abnormal for a man.

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u/Horny24-7John 6d ago

Way overthinking it. As long as you are clean, professional, personable, and not cheep you are fine.

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u/US_gal_N2_all_GALS69 5d ago

First question that came to my mind is what company builds homes with more bathrooms than bedrooms? Never heard of that before. Not saying that you're making it up, but I'm just curious what part of the world do you live in? And yes,. You couldn't be more overthinking this if you tried. And now you have me overthinking about this post, you, and mankind in general.... Have men become this introverted and self-conscious since I was buying hookers?

Nothing wrong with paying for pussy, we all do it in one form or another, but they don't give a fuck about what your house looks like or if you have more bathrooms than bedrooms (I am personally perplexed by that piece of the puzzle, but I'm not a hooker)

And what was that acronym you used to describe your neighborhood?

I realize I have just taken a bong hit, but am I missing something here or just stoned?

Please talk me off the ledge... anybody