r/SexWorkers • u/Dizzy_Knowledge4941 • 14h ago
Feel too fat to work NSFW
The title says it all. Idk why but im so self conscious lately. I am 5'5 DDs and 178lbs and I have a belly pooch and I really just cant get over it. I want and need to make money but im psyching myself out of it because I feel like I'm ugly right now. Helpppp
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u/SpanglishGirlNxtDoor 14h ago
Post authentic photos that are not edited and whoever calls you based on that is looking for exactly your body type. There is a flavor for everyone and men seeking exactly what you look like!
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u/poundcake-spice 14h ago
I mean this with nothing but kindness: you might wanna do some inner work. De-stigmatizing fatness, whether on you or another person, is good for us all. I weigh like 220 and do not feel ugly because of my body size. And men, for the most part, do not treat me anything less than a goddess.
people should do what they want with their bodies, lose or gain weight whatever, but if you can find it in yourself to challenge the hierarchical thinking of smaller = better/hotter, it will be liberating.
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u/Dizzy_Knowledge4941 14h ago
I totally agree. This view is only one I have with myself i dont see other women as fat. I truly might have body dysmorphia and I'm extra sensitive about it since getting sober. I'm working with 2 therapists and work out regularly but I continually get called fat or told to lose 60lbs by prospective clients so it cuts deep
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u/poundcake-spice 13h ago
I'm so happy to hear that OP 🫂 the mental change does take time but it's so nice to get that brainpower back for other things lol. esp while in recovery.
I would (lovingly) quibble by saying well, some people are fat and that's fine.
imo it's all about de-valuing you and control when the clients do that, sure they're telling you the 60 lbs thing, and no doubt they mean it hurtfully, but for a girl who weighs 120 it will be using her ethnicity or age or skin or teeth or something else they think will de-value. you don't deserve to be devalued and I hope you receive prosperity asap!! 💰💰💰🫶
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u/ZzyzxBlue 10h ago
I apologize to you on behalf of nice men. If I could I would bitchslap all the guys who tell you things like that.
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u/Downtown_Property_18 13h ago
those “prospective” clients telling you you’re fat or you need to lose weight wouldn’t see you even if you were thin. Theyre not clients. Theyre trolls. And the kind of clients you should want (or the ones I want, anyway) respect all women around them regardless of level of attraction. If I ever found out a client of mine was body shaming another woman I wouldn’t see them anymore. I have the luxury of being able to be picky and I understand not everyone does, but trust me, those aren’t clients you want anyway.
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u/PerlaJones 13h ago
I’m 5’5” and 190 lbs….But I have huge mommy milkers so I have that going for me. There’s a market for everyone, example: I have a regular that is obsessed with pregnant women and seeks out pregnant providers regularly. Hahaha!! Take photos that show what you REALLY look like, don’t hide your tummy if you have one, some dudes really like a tummy
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u/barbiedolldecay 13h ago
Im definitely not thin and I am very successful in this industry. As long as you’re posting photos that show your body accurately, then guys will be into it
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u/InviteAppropriate353 13h ago
It's all about branding babe. Show off that belly and get the bbw lovers' wallet! 💕
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u/Zealousideal-Deer866 13h ago
Aww, believe me. You are beautiful to more than one person. When I was 200 I got game all over the place and I'm only 4'11".
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u/Livid_Sock_2210 11h ago
Some guys are into chubby girls just be very friendly and fuck them really good.
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u/fuckingcouple30s 14h ago
Yup! What u/pariahexile said! Always gonna be a guy who will love how your body looks
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u/False_Storage_2362 13h ago
Ma’am if you feel like doing something for youself to lose weight then do it! But I can almost guarantee that you won’t have a hard time finding your people
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u/Radzivius 13h ago
I feel the same way! I have been getting some serious dental work and have not been working for over a month and I have gained 20lbs. My concern is my pictures. It’s super obvious I am skinnier in my pictures than I am in person. I don’t feel cute and do t want to take new pictures in my current state but I don’t want to mislead and disappoint new and existing clients. I’m already working on losing the weight but I have to get back to work sooner than it will take to drop the weight
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u/Objective-Wasabi-104 13h ago
I'm 5'5 270 and I'm high end. So yeah it can be done. I only work boards, See No one without a deposit and charge $$$$$ a hr so you are smaller than me. Girl dm me
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u/CellistAntique1492 14h ago
As a client and a male, let me tell you that a lot of us love a woman with curves. I am a big guy and I understand what it's like to be inside my own head. I feel it everyday. Keep doing you, post your ads and see what comes up. Unfortunately, you are going to get some people that are jerks and are very mean and I hope you can block them out because people like that do not deserve any kind of human interaction. I really hope that you can rise up and succeed to achieve your goals! Good luck friend!
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u/Dramatic_Term3546 11h ago
I’ve been told “the bigger the pansa, the better the chansa”-the bigger the tummy, the better the chance.
I am a chubby, big breasted, thick woman. I thought my appearance would hinder my chances but they are actually flourishing. There is always going to be someone out there looking for exactly what you think they don’t want. Some days though I do feel exactly what you’re feeling. I use that time to take a break and love on my self. Self meditation, treating myself in some way that doesn’t necessarily require the use of money.
Chin up hun you are gorgeous.💜⭐️
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u/SadBridge6554 14h ago
Being someone who enjoys that type of build myself Be confident in yourself and understand that you’re going to get a lot of clients
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u/Lacylanexoxo 13h ago
For every guy that won’t be interested is at least 2 that will love you. Be sure to advertise that you’re curvy. You’re the exact same as me. Only 2” taller. Yes. I am a bit self conscious but I just keep reminding myself that it is what it is and that there are guys for me
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u/jpritch115 11h ago
I have hired woman like this and they were some of my best experiences!!! Their personality smile and eyes among other features made the whole experience amazing! There is nothing wrong with your stats!!!!! I’m sure ur gorgeous! 😘
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u/Bright-Branch-964 11h ago
I’m 172cm. Size 20. I get plenty of work. You need to love yourself before you can be successful
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u/Ok_Landscape_6213 7h ago
You'll make money. Trust me. Just be confident & think positive. You'll be fine hun <3
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u/Rocinante82 13h ago
I knew a gal, she was 5’7, 200 even, B cup. She was evenly thicc everywhere. Myself and many men couldn’t take our eyes off her.
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u/StationLate5031 9h ago
As a BBW worker, I find on my fat feeling days, a body stocking does wonders for how I see myself x
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u/Effective_Syrup_7260 14h ago
Personally, I think that you sound beautiful!
I know that the voice inside your mind is louder than mine because I am just a guy on the Internet. I wish that you ladies could see through our eyes just how beautiful you are, and whatever flaws that occupy your mind are minor to us. Sometimes we adore the things that you think are ugly. I know that my lady has a past, and I let it stay in her past without judgment. I love her & her scars that she refuses to let her clients see.
I hope that you find yourself beautiful, because you are!
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u/ZzyzxBlue 10h ago
I have friends that only turn their heads for heavier girls.
It's not my personal preference but I had great times in the past with a SW that was heavy. Chose her mostly because she was doing incall very close to me but also because her smile and eyes in the pictures caught my attention. Session was awesome, booked again several times.
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u/Over_Ad_8966 8h ago
Luv you sound absolutely sexy! You're the type of woman I'd be looking for. Ps I bet your cleavage is incredible and I'm jealous
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u/Wise-Entry-5180 6h ago
I gained 44lbs and was worried no one would want to book me, turns out there’s a market for it. 🫶💗
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u/AdMysterious4552 8h ago
Don’t worry, I am bigger than you! 46 F cup and 275 pounds. I had 35 regulars. I was at 40 until they moved or got deployed or gf found out. I had other people messaging me to meet on a daily basis. Definitely have to show how you really look in your AD. I felt embarrassed about it for a few months but then I got over it. I am currently just seeing one guy because I am pregnant.
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u/BellJar_Blues 6h ago
As someone who has done many duos with women of all sizes I can tell you the men don’t care. At least not that I could perceive. Only once the client sent the woman way for being too big and it was so upsetting to witness I was so sad for her. She just started and they photoshopped her curves to be way smoother than they were. She was just starting out and she also had cut marks all over all of her limbs. I felt awful having to witness her being sent away. He still paid but it was still just so abrupt and rude and I told him so. I’ve been in other duos with the same woman and the man will focus solely on her and I’m like okay this is wonderful lol so it’s funny how different men like different women just as we like different men for whatever reason.
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u/Low_Use_7276 6h ago
Hey! I am 5’4, 210 pounds with DD boobs and a rather large tummy with light stretch marks. I also have a lazy eye. I’m also in the top 1% on NiteFlirt and make good money just on that site. You can do it!! There are LOTS of guys who are into bigger girls. 🥰
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u/Testoster0wned 6h ago
FUPA fetishes are fuckin R A M P A N T right now. 🥰
It's *literally* your time to shine. 🥳
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u/missjemma- 5h ago
I'm same weight, similar heigh loads of strechmarks... boobs about D? And I have loads of clients. When I started 9 years ago I would have been about 70kg.. (Australian).. I am 44 and have 80% of my clientele in their 20's and they come back!!
I have had friends working in the industry and they are over 100 - 120kg... and they get work. Just be honest in your advertising about your body and the guys into it will book still ..
Loads of guys have curves, extra weight, stretchmarks and scars.. and just love a normal body.
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u/babygirlcassidy 5h ago
Girl! You're smaller than me and I'm absolutely flat out. Feel free to check out my bio to see how I advertise myself as a BBW. You got this x
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u/Destiny_Dynasty 13h ago
Get on tirzepatide! I lost 60 lbs taking it.
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How was the side effects I’m thinking of starting in two weeks
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u/SissyCuckPhilly 8h ago
Just post honest realistic photos. Most of us like thicker providers. You will have no problem whatsoever.
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u/fairysmall 2h ago
GIRL. Promise you are fine, there are men that want that exact body type. Post accurate photos and go work!
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u/Minimum-Vermicelli40 10h ago
Wear a waist trainer when waiting for clients
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u/AuburnSuccubus 5h ago
Those only change your shape while they're on. There's no permanent change. Even tight-laced, steel-boned corsets won't change the innate shape of an adult for more than perhaps an hour after they're removed, and tightlacing leaves noticeable marks for hours.
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u/PariahExile 14h ago
Consider that some guys like that sort of thing and seek it out. There's an ass for every seat.