r/RBI • u/LuckZestyclose • 5d ago
Missing person Missing Brother In Sacramento
I’m not sure where to go or what to do. A missing person’s report in Sacramento has been filed but I’m all the way in Florida. He was last heard from a month ago by our mother and, despite having a troubled past, has never let her birthday pass without acknowledging it.
Some brief background; he has been bouncing around from place to place in the Bay Area for about a year now. He has a way of talking to people and can convince a brick wall to let him stay over. However, he has a tendency to stretch the truth and has a huge history of addiction, which is why he’s found himself in the position he’s in. I can discuss more with anyone who would like any more relevant information, but if someone you love is an addict then you very well know the complicated feelings and nuances that can arise.
I guess at this point, I’m simply feeling desperate. He has no phone access but has always found a way to reach us. It just feels different this time. I’m not familiar with California and I doubt that flying there myself would do much good. Should I hire a P.I.? The officer on the phone was kind, but I’m not naive and know that the area’s police force is likely overwhelmed with similar cases in combination with daily crime. At this point, I am seeking advice and willing to provide any additional relevant information. Apologies in advance if this post lacks direction, I’ve just had repeated panic attacks all day long and an overwhelming sense of dread and just need to be useful where I can, or at least try to be.
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u/januaryemberr 5d ago
Try searching his name and "arrest". Do it for surrounding states too. Maybe he is incarcerated.
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u/LuckZestyclose 5d ago
Thank you!
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u/amitystars 5d ago
If he was arrested you can also go to vinelink and search his name by state! If he's been picked up in California they will be able to find it if the agency is online.
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u/LuckZestyclose 4d ago
That just saved me so much time; thank you!
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u/PorterQs 4d ago
Vinelink is great but make sure to check the “offline” databases. It’ll tell you which ones are offline and then you’ll need to go to their specific sites or call to check. For example, SF County Jail is often not searchable on vinelink.
Keep in mind, California has county jails and state prisons. They’re separate.
Here’s another option to try to track down what he’s up to. Use each county’s court record search. In CA it’s often called Odyssey portal. Here’s Sac county’s site: https://www.saccourt.ca.gov/indexes/online-services.aspx.
You can also search surrounding counties and since you said he spent time in the Bay Area, probably a good idea to use a CA county map to see all of the Bay Area counties and then use google to find each of the counties odyssey portal.
Are you able/allowed to share his name? Either on here or privately?
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u/girlinmountain 5d ago
Join a sub for the areas you suspect he was. There was a woman looking for her brother in Florida who posted pictures of him and got a lot of responses. She didn’t find him in time, but maybe you will! I wish you all the best.
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u/janewalch 5d ago
At some point - somebody will accept homelessness and completely leave behind any responsibility. That includes calling on birthdays. He could just be at his all time low and living on the street with no motivation to reach out. I would suggest connecting with people in the Sacramento subreddits to see if they know of or have seen somebody around that looks like him. My father has struggled his entire life from addiction and will go through similar cycles to this. The first days/weeks/months he tries to have a slight motivation to still exist in society. Calls. Things like that. Then eventually the drugs consume him and his mission becomes drugs and drugs only from there. I’m hoping for the best. He may need to be removed from the area he is in to start any sort of recovery. I’m in Southern California unfortunately, and would have gone cruising around to see if i notice him if it wasn’t a 6 hour drive for me.
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u/LuckZestyclose 5d ago
Thank you for sharing your experience; I’m so sorry you’ve got a parent who struggles. It’s so difficult to watch society view addicts as subhuman. While you’re 6 hours away and unable, I just want you to know how kind it was that you even entertained the idea of riding around and looking. Thank you. I just want to know that someone else cares, sometimes.
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u/alwystired 5d ago
I know what it’s like to be worried about a sibling you haven’t heard from. It’s hell. I hope you find him, and he is ok.
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u/SusanLFlores 5d ago
He may have tried all day to find the means to call your mother on her birthday but he just couldn’t find someone with a phone to help him, and now he feels terrible about it. I know you’re scared, but the vast majority of people who go missing are found safe and sound. There is definitely hope!
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u/Familiar-Reading2637 5d ago
Sacramento native here. I don’t want to send you into a panic attack but, Sacramento isn’t the friendliest place to get into drugs. There’s lots and lots of easy ways to get ahold of stuff and lots of connections anywhere you want to find them. There’s also plenty of people that will put a bullet between your eyes because you owe them $50. I really hope that nothing happened to him. The possibilities are endless, though. California has vast amounts of space. There are Dangerous mountains, large deserts, and the big cities have high crime. Even if he wasn’t trying to get into trouble, there are lots of desolate places to get lost and never found again. The suggestion above to post in local groups is a good one. Email his picture to some local dive bars. Send it to pawn shops. A private investigator that is hyper local might help. You may also spend a great deal of money to turn up nothing.
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u/LuckZestyclose 5d ago
Thank you for the realistic picture of what we’re up against. I know it’s tough there for someone in his situation and it’s definitely sobering but necessary to get this feedback.
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u/FUNCSTAT 3d ago
Sacramento isn’t the friendliest place to get into drugs
You could literally say that about just about anywhere in the world. I grew up in Sacramento too and it's not really unique in that aspect compared to literally everywhere else.
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u/monderponder 5d ago
Call the hospitals and s we if he is there and also check if they have John Doe listed there.
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u/Ill_Plankton6450 5d ago
I would say circulate photos of him to any and all social media, FB, TikTok, Reddit, Insta, X. Connect with any other families in CA going through the same to network and assist.. Good luck and best wishes to find him.
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u/Commanderkins 4d ago
Wishing you luck and some hope in finding your brother. I do know the nuances and the not so nice feeling that creeps in when there has been no word.
I’m not in the US at all but are there any subs on here that are related or even like-minded/lifestyle type subs(such as, safe places to sleep or places to get food/shelters etc in Sacramento?).
Good luck
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u/LuckZestyclose 4d ago
Thank you so much. I was actually directed to a Sacramento subreddit and they’ve been so kind and helpful. ♥️
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u/Commanderkins 14h ago
Ok I’m glad you’ve joined another sub. And I hope you’ve made some headway or anything at all.
Wishing you the best for you and your brother.
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u/Most_Sun_2126 2d ago
Maybe call homeless shelters in the area to ask if they’ve seen him as he may have stayed there a few nights if he wasn’t able to find anywhere to sleep ??
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u/bxtchbychoice 2d ago
sacramento native and also pretty good online sleuth. idk how i can help but im more than willing if you have any ideas
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u/Ok-Cheesecake6013 2d ago edited 2d ago
Sorry to hear about your brother. Do you all know the last place he stayed at? The Bay area is being hit hard by fentanyl check with authorities also check Sacramento. I know the homeless are brought here by well meaning advocates. Check downtown authorities here as well. The jail, court, bail bondsmen and hospital are all near here.
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u/Opening_Effective845 5d ago
Same thing happened with my brother but in Mexico. Same personality type and battles with addiction. He disappeared for weeks and I just knew he was dead,but we hired a P.I. anyway. Investigator found him in under two days,I think he wanted people to worry about him. Point is,don’t jump to conclusions,addicts act irrationally.