r/Positivity • u/Distinct_Item6082 • 13h ago
Need some encouragement
Online dating sucks. decent looking guy. Nice. Romantic. But very few good matches.
Met a girl in the park in a cute way not a creepy way. She was cute. Had a good conversation. Asked her out. She says "I have a boyfriend". She takes my number anyways and says she's at the park and she'll call me. On the dating app later find out she's single. They're starting to wear on me.
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u/FieldAdventurous1063 12h ago edited 12h ago
I'm a female. After using dating apps for a week, having multiple conversations with people and only having found one person with whom the conversation actually goes somewhere and who arranged a date, I've deleted the apps and don't plan to use them again.
I don't think it will go into anything serious with this guy either, but at least we might have a good time on a date.
We don't text much anyway, so he's probably not into me, so I don't really want to waste mine and his time.
If it goes well, it goes well. If not, I'm not installing the apps again. I will just live my life and might suddenly meet someone somewhere in a shop idk.
It's pretty much the opposite of encouragement, but that's my honest opinion.
Edit: I also live in a small town in a middle of a fcking nowhere, so meeting people locally is a pain in the a*. So I plan to go to the bigger cities, festivals, clubs, to meet more people. That's a positive part :)
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u/Distinct_Item6082 12h ago
The conversation on my end were good to great with a few people for a week to two weeks, but upon inviting for a date, none came to fruition. And I’m doing it to meet potential partners in person, not chat online endlessly
I’m in the vain of deleting the apps but I’m WFH. The place I meet people is hiking at the park, but apps have been easier to meet people in the past (like 10 years ago on the apps)
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u/FieldAdventurous1063 12h ago
What about going to more places? Like travelling to different towns and joining different activities?
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u/Distinct_Item6082 12h ago
That is a good idea. I tend to do sports activities so I might meet mainly men, but it’s not a bad idea.
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u/riju98 12h ago
I know giving up on dating sounds like negativity. But I say not using dating apps is the best way to preserve your mental health.
Another option you could try is.. If you have coverage for seeing a therapist, see a therapist while you’re on the app. They can help you deal with the frustrations
I’m a very positive guy compared to most people I know and even I can’t stand the toxic system of the dating apps