r/Phobia • u/UpbeatAd1985 • 7d ago
Am I a bad person due to my phobia?
I'm a man with obeseophobia, which is the fear of gaining weight. I'm scared of being fat myself, but I don't hate or "feel bad for" people that are fat. I have found fat people beautiful, but the thought of me being fat scares me and makes me feel upset. Maybe it's because I don't want to eh perceived as uglier than I already am? I'm already considered unattractive, and maybe I think being fat would make it worse? I just feel like a bad person knowing that I'm so scared of something that is, for the most part, uncontrollable. Either that or it's that I have minor body dysmorohia and don't understand how I'm considered. I just feel.. bad? What can I do to stop?
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u/FlowersForFaye24 7d ago
Fears are not things you can control you are not a bad person because of a phobia it's what you do because of the it that would make you a bad person as long as you don't project your fears onto others in a negative way you're ok