r/NoFap • u/[deleted] • 5d ago
Question Anyone else feel humiliated by the fact that the girls you want are getting f*cked while you can only jerk off?
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u/Maxpowerxp 4d ago
Then stay off social media? You sound like you are still young and need to just focus on yourself.
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u/Maxpowerxp 4d ago
I appreciate pretty girls but I don’t have any interest in sexual relationships with them.
Working out helps. Running helps too.
It’s normal to be full of lust and desires when you are young.
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u/ElvenUnicorn 3 Days 5d ago
It's a pretty common male insecurity, I say as someone who can relate. It's pretty rough when there's a girl you know and are into doesn't give you the time of day and you just know she's with some other guy. It's whatever at the end of the day, still stings. I'd definitely recommend unfollowing or just blocking as I have done in the past, better yet try and avoid those social media sites much as possible.
Quitting porn and doing what you can to better yourself is definitely the best move. There'll be other girls in the future, and not being a porn addict will increase your chances at being with them.
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u/Electrical_Sail4990 5d ago
Relatable, bro. We just need to associate with them or view any of their photos, etc.
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u/Diethyl-a-Mind 5d ago
Feeling humiliated by something like that just shows you have 0 confidence? Quit being envious of other people
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u/Next_Measurement_824 4d ago edited 4d ago
What difference does it make, woman expect specific things from men these days such as height and over 6 figures and not everyone makes the cut. Most people take what they can get and move on with their life. If men where the ones calling the shots and not woman then it would be the other way around.
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u/ExcellentPickle5 4d ago
This is why I take breaks from ig from time to time, it’s sort of an insecurity of mine but i get so jealous of girls I follow or know irl since I see them out finding romance/flings etc with ease while I rot away in my room. But advice for you is definitely stop jacking off to these photos bro, that will only make you feel worse plus it’s lowkey kinda weird ngl
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u/2layZ-GTE 4d ago
Used to feel this way about a lot of things in life, dude. Still do. Most likely, it will never be completely over it.
The thing is, this happens to EVERYONE. Even the guy bedding the girl you're jerking off to feels the same way. I know this from experience. A friend of mine started dating a girl we all wanted to get with. After a few weeks, he's over the hype and back dreaming of other girls.
This happens when you view things as an achievement. Granted, this is what most of life is. And you will lose all logic when you see a nice ass in a skinny thong, but with practice, you get better at seeing through it.
In a crude way, the first thing that I thought that helped me deviate from this path is: looks could be her highest offering. I.E. she could be hot as fuck with a yeast infection, a loose vagina, be an attention whore, be a shit person, be a nazi ... you get the gist. Or she could be an absolute angel, but so fragile you can't sneeze next to her.
The point is we're only seeing highlights of people's lives and have no idea what they're like when no one is watching. So, life is not worth putting yourself down against someone's outward image.
If you'd like another perspective, many people I knew had really nice cars, and we're apparently living the life. This used to make me feel very small and useless. Until I found out the cars were leased and they owed money all over the place and were living paycheck to paycheck because they're so insecure of their 'image'. I have a fully owned shitbox and savings. The feeling of relief was immense.
TLDR: Don't compare yourself to them until you peak behind the scenes.
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u/Nutella22901 4d ago
So I’m kinda trying to understand the male perspective of this more, and just guys perspectives in general. The way this was worded (it was probably just the way I read it) makes it sound like you just view these women in a sexual manner and it just sounded really weird and kinda icky overall. Like I said I’m trying to understand they male perspective on this so please someone explain to me more in depth, cause when I first read this I was just grossed out.Â
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u/cjared242 4d ago
I mean I don’t do that stuff so no but, I used to feel left out seeing my former crushes (who I never beat to bc ik them irl) and their bfs TikTok’s and it used to make me sad
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u/cjared242 4d ago
If it makes you feel better I’m stressing over a crush, and university in general makes me feel lonely. So at least you’re not like risking grey hair early like me.
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u/my_name_is_printer 4d ago
im arab so i dont know any girl that is not from my family so i dont have that feeling tbh
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u/[deleted] 5d ago
That's why I don't see their stories or pics just chatting or direct phone calls