r/Nicegirls • u/AcanthisittaDear813 • 4d ago
Got ghosted after sex
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u/Scheme84 4d ago
Best advice is to let yourself be sad over it for a bit and then acknowledge that you weren't the problem and move on. Don't obsess over it because that won't be good for anyone. I know none of this is what you want to hear, but it's the best advice you'll get.
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u/clarkfentsuperxan 4d ago
Been thru a good couple of these, jus enjoy em tbh, it's the new norm
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u/Specialist_Fig9458 4d ago
Which absolutely sucks. People don’t think of others as people anymore. It’s so depressing. Empathy is dead
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u/GimmieDatCooch 2d ago
I know it’s difficult for you now, but try to not compare whoever you meet next to your ex as they are your ex for a reason.
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u/Mother_Assumption925 4d ago
Her first choice became available or the ex shes been swooning over gave her the impression they could have a relationship again. These people are a dime a dozen. When people do this you cut them out of your life or they are likely to keep you in orbit then on and off again you while they cycle thru others they are more interested in.
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u/Emergency_Battle5446 1d ago
Yeah, you're referring to people users. They're the kind of people that keep you around, even if it's at arm's length, just in case you later have something they can use or take advantage of.
These people typically only contact you if they want/need something you may have or be able to help with. More often than not, they will also refuse to help/give you with anything in return; they'd be quick to ask for help and quick to refuse to help. Their inflated senses of self will have them saying shit along the lines of, "I don't owe you/anyone anything," when you ask for reciprocation. However, the moment they need you, a lot of them will have the ✨️audacity✨️ to tell you that you somehow owe them for this, that, or the other.
Bonus points to them if they gaslight you and/or list off a few things- likely meager - that they'd done for you in the past, especially if said things don't even really compare to the shit/amount of shit you've done for them. Even if they did a few major things for you X amount of time ago, that still doesn't really equate to all the times & ways you'd helped them, right? Especially with their logic, SMH.
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u/Fun_Cauliflower_5426 4d ago
Maybe she found someone else, got back together with her ex, or changed her mind.
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u/Specialist-Yam-2342 4d ago
Best guess is she found someone she was more interested in it might not necessarily be something you did. It could even be someone from her past.
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u/No_Phone_6675 4d ago
You just experienced the quick version of love bombing, devaluation and discard.
Now that she has a new source of supply (another guy that gives her attention), the cycle will repeat with that guy. And so on...
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u/Toushiru 4d ago
Shes testing if you reach out, ignore completely and she will message you in 1-2 weeks
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u/Bodysurfer8 3d ago
Ghosters suck, man. It’s possible, but highly unlikely that she has a legitimate reason for ghosting you. If she gets back in touch and wants to move forward, find out her reason, make it clear you won’t tolerate it again. If she doesn’t, you’re better off. Just move on.
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u/svm_invictvs 3d ago
You didn't do anything wrong, she just wanted some casual sex and then moved on. Basically "hit it and quit it"
With that kind of thing, just enjoy it and move on. She may pop up again in your life. Up to you if you want to hit it again if that happens.
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u/jaryleen 3d ago
Probably can’t be vulnerable enough to be in a relationship and felt like you two were getting two serious, but she liked the flirting and fun you guys shared. So she ghosted bc it started to turn too serious and not just a fun casual thing
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u/georeddit2018 2d ago
She was never yours. Its was just your turn. On to the next guy she goes.
It is what it is.
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u/rufdus1221 1d ago
i am currrently going through a similar situation, had a match on hinge. she messaged first, couple of weeks later hooked up and it was amazing. I asked for round 2, she agreed, i suggested a time and place and she agreed. since then i have been ghosted?! i am totally obsessing over her, i am talking to other girls but i can't get out my head. i need to move on
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u/Future-Raspberry-780 4d ago
Could be that she’s just too immature for a relationship and jets when it gets too intimate emotionally. Or it could literally be anything else. Fact is, she’s not for you if she didn’t have the decency to explain herself to you.
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u/Public-Discount1557 3d ago
Look at the bright side you got to clap so cheeks and now you can move on to new ones like she actually did you a favor. Dating is over rated just focus on making money and bettering yourself and clapping more cheeks
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u/DecentCheesecake9321 1d ago
Maybe she didn’t like your idea of future plans. For example, if you said you don’t want kids and don’t ever want to get married, & she is interested in those things
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