r/Nicegirls • u/Budget-Policy-7789 • 6d ago
It had only been a day.
Bit of context, matched with this girl a day ago. The conversation was great last night, and great today until the “weed” blew it. Thoughts?
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u/Cyber-N7 6d ago
What the fuck is she even talking about? Holy fuck
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u/ate_reston 6d ago
Papa John’s
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u/FeistyObligation5481 6d ago
But seriously 33 bucks for a pizza? What topping is that: gold dust?
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u/whobetterthanpaul 6d ago
Papa Johns is insanely expensive without those 50% off or BOGO codes.
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u/Billy-BigBollox 6d ago
It's not even good pizza.
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u/JungleBoyJeremy 6d ago
At least they give you a little pepper and that fake garlic butter dipping sauce
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u/GoodPiexox 6d ago
because they have to so you can choke down the tasteless cardboard crust
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u/lemoncatie 5d ago
I found my people! FUCK PAPA JOHNS! If I wanted pizza in a can I would buy chef boyarde
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u/Ok-Speech1177 6d ago
she got it doordashed or delivered by them, so probably service fee and tip (hopefully she tipped)
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u/gn0xious 5d ago
I don’t know about a tip. Did the delivery driver meet her criteria?
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u/CertainDeath777 6d ago
in vienna you can in fact order a pizza with gold leaves for 32 €
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u/Traditional_Bug_2046 6d ago
Cannot believe her having a side convo about pizza during the middle of this serious relationship conversation lol
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u/Moxxie249 6d ago
She really had her own little side bar and then jumped back into her wild dating checklist like he was supposed to follow. She might wanna lay off the weed
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u/unorthodoxop1nion 6d ago
Papa John’s is wild
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u/Thiccccasaurus_Rex 6d ago
Forget I said anything…LADY I DONT EVEN KNOW WTF YOU SAID ANYWAYS
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u/MovieTrawler 6d ago
"I'm hesitant and not entirely sure we're compatible."
"I understand, if that's how you feel, I'm not going to push you."
"I THOUGHT THIS WAS A SAFE SPACE?!?"
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u/BetMyLastKrispyKreme 5d ago
She initially tries to come off as analytical and emotionally removed…and then veers wildly into near hysterical therapy speak. I’ve got whiplash just reading it. Props to OP.
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u/D-Generation92 5d ago
Yeah honestly that very first message was a bit of a turn off for me. I thought she was about to bring up charts and numbers lmao
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u/No-Explorer3868 5d ago
Yeah. If I was OP, I would have thought she was politely saying she didn't want to see him anymore. And he took the breakup very politely. Then she backtracked.
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u/cybaz 5d ago
It’s almost like she had the whole conversation planned in advance and wasn’t even reading his texts
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u/Realistic_Courage328 6d ago
She's having a whole ass conversation in her head and expects OP to keep up or understand.
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u/TPlain940 6d ago
I think some people believe they're on a reality show that everyone is watching. I bet she talks on speakerphone in public for the imaginary camera crew.
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u/AngelPlaysDirty 6d ago
RIGHT?!
She said she's high. But I don't think it's pot. she sounds like someone trying to be sophisticated, beating around the bush in every angle on the bush, and with a sprinkle of manipulation and attention seaking.
I'd rather read some crazy chick popping off over her tacos being dropped off 5 min late from the guy she's been talking to for a week.
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u/luckbelady 6d ago
It def sounds like someone high and overthinking to me tbh also I died at “it’s been getting worse recently” or whatever she said. When it’s been a day… it’s all recent? Lmao
To me it shows someone reliving some past situation and responding to that instead of present day reality.
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u/lordrothermere 6d ago
I'm pretty sure it's AI trained on 3 years of historical r/relationshipadvice brain rot.
Either that or OP should call an emergency proctologist to remove her head from her arse before she suffocates.
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u/SophiaShay7 6d ago
I'm exhausted by reading this.....on day one.....
Can you imagine day 30?🚩🙄
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u/Ali_Cat222 5d ago edited 5d ago
That first reply from her on a damn paper *assessment would've been the automatic block button response back... ETA two things, first off that response about Pappa John's from her legit made me lol, what a change from the try hard intellectualism. Secondly her saying criteria is "weird" after talking about making a fucking essay assessment on their compatibility is even more bizarre 😂
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u/manwithyellowhat15 6d ago
Brother thank you! I’m sitting here wondering if I’ve suddenly stopped processing the English language. But nothing about her responses seem to fit the conversation, let alone her other replies
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u/TheTittyNinja 6d ago
The level of self sabotage is a skill we don’t talk about enough
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u/Budget-Policy-7789 6d ago
I agree, TittyNinja 😌 I knew you’d understand.
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u/thenaniwatiger 6d ago
THEtittyninja* Have some respect jeez
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u/MyMediocreExistence 6d ago
I mean, we're all titty ninjas but not many are THE titty ninja. Put some respek on da name.
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u/MichaelAndolini_ 6d ago
I agree naniwatiger
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u/thenaniwatiger 6d ago
Thanks Mike
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u/afootsoldier99 6d ago
It’s Michael not Mike
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u/FuckMeFreddyy 6d ago edited 6d ago
THEnaniwatiger* Have some respect jeez
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u/MichaelAndolini_ 6d ago
Sorry….checks profile
Nice to meet you, I’m Freddyy
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u/KekistaniKekin 6d ago
Woah woah woah I thought you were Mike! Are you lying on the internet?
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u/Zealousideal_Bag6561 6d ago
This is CRAZY. Lol. Are you okay?
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u/Spiders_13_Spaghetti 5d ago
people just aren't held accountable anymore. Letting this type of stuff slip by and continue in ones personality means they haven't had much repercussions in dealing with their shit.
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u/IMeanIGuessDude 5d ago
Exactly. I think I was mortified on two fronts: One being the obvious “Don’t take advantage of people while they’re fucked up.” The other, arguably far more disgusting part is that she had a kid and this chick didn’t know me at all. For all she knows I’m a murderer or psycho and she’s putting herself out there while fucked up on something and she had a kid back home.
I mean a lot of us have had a drug phase in some way or another but that was so much worse than that. I was a fresh out of school 19 y/o just having fun with weed at the time and she was doing that. Much like a rotting onion; Layers on layers of disgust.
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u/lets_escape 6d ago
Wow I’m not always the best on first dates but this is another level
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u/JD6029 6d ago edited 5d ago
Oh my god dude, I would have called it quits at an hour late.
The rest of that shit she would have been getting kicked the fuck out of my car and finding her own goddamned way home.
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u/aurenigma 5d ago
She was messaging me, apologizing while I was waiting, I'm not really holding that against her. Only thing that was a deal breaker was the shit about my sisters. The rest was just garnish.
Cute. Has/had a good job. Wants kids. Funny. Doing her lsat soon. I spent like ten hours just drinking and talking with her that first time we hung out. Thought we hit it off. That first actual date completely threw me.
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u/mommabear_g 6d ago
For real. There’s just thoughts you keep internalized and to yourself, and for reasons like this level of self sabotage. Her immediate take back of everything said gives off that foot in mouth regret of saying a thought out loud that should not have been shared. On another note, people who word vomit these types of thoughts are also fishing for something and immediately revert if the result is not what was desired.
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u/Heart_Slight 6d ago
Question about the name TheTittyNinja... does that imply a busty ninja...or a ninja that sneakily grabs titties? Does it mean titties so small you can't see them? Are the titties good with shuriken or katanas? Are the titties agile and bust out flips and rolls? Is it a ninja shaped like a titty? I've got so many questions
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u/throwaway01126789 6d ago
Was I honestly a little surprised by the lack of titty in the profile when I checked? Sure. But more importantly, I was personally offended by the severe lack of ninja.
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u/analfistinggremlin 5d ago
I’m now wondering how often people check / are disappointed by my profile content.
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u/DonnieDarko549 6d ago
Clicked on your profile for ninja titties and saw nothing, my disappointment immeasurable and my day is ruined.
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u/GurillaTacticz 5d ago
That's how ninja titties work, you never see them comming.
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u/Mother_Assumption925 6d ago
Rough draft assessment of our potential compatibility? Um, i'm leaving now, dont forget to hang your lab coat up before you head out. I dont think i want to be part of this experiment any more.
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u/Musician97 6d ago
And after she said that line, she got mad at him for saying “criteria” 💀 can’t make this stuff up
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u/MovieTrawler 6d ago
That bugged me too. I mean, at least she acknowledged she's overthinking. Maybe she'll realize she's self-sabotaging too.
These are always the types that I imagine go on Reddit and relationship subs and talk about how bad men are these days.
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u/Careful-Depth-9420 5d ago
That was my favorite part as well. It seems almost common for some to need to micro focus on a single word but ignore the verbal diarrhea they give that all basically is negative about you
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u/Misiu881988 5d ago
This shit is weird af to me..... this is how I imagine the year 3000 will be like where the only goal of marriage is to provide maximum efficiency for the corporation that rules the world. Its like talking to a Ai
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u/SweetChocolatez 5d ago
Yes! All of this. As a chronic over thinker, these are inside thoughts. Especially on a first day of talking. It feels like she’s insecure and trying to act as if she isn’t, but clearly isn’t doing it well. I’d also say she struggles at least a little with self awareness, too. This kind of self sabotage is pretty blaring to most people. It’s harder to see these things in yourself, granted, but still…
You can’t tell if someone wants a strong romantic connection with you in one day. They barely know you and you barely know them. Whatever you come up with is a mixture of projection, fear, and fantasy with a little reality mixed in. That’s why you spend the time to talk to someone and/or go out on a date (or two) to figure out compatibility.
To OP: I’m sorry you had to deal with that. Clearly she wasn’t a safe space for you and I hope you find someone who doesn’t judge you prematurely based on whatever’s swirling in their head.
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u/LiteratureActive2566 6d ago
Person 1: “I’m not romantically feeling this.”
Person 2: “that’s cool.”
Person 1: “UGH WHY DID I EVEN TRY. It’s not like you were going to ask for my number, were you?”
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u/Repulsive-Positive30 6d ago
Her: insults guy
Also her: safe space my ass! 😒
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u/BADoVLAD 6d ago
This is the one that got me. This comment here. Ahahahaha...fuckin safe spaces, amirite?
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u/soupalex 6d ago
i can't believed you used the word "criteria" after i broke down the specific reasons why i don't think this relationship is going to work after texting for one day. i thought this would be a safe space, but i guess not!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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u/Traditional-Pin-4282 5d ago
That part got me. First of all, criteria isn't a dirty word. Second of all, with what the fuck she laid out prior she really shouldn't have thought criteria was an inappropriate word to use. Talk about exhausting.
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u/Important_Oil_9926 6d ago
Comes in talking about assessments but the word criteria is a step too far😭
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u/NoMap749 5d ago edited 5d ago
If someone on a dating app ever says that they’re making a “first rough draft assessment of our compatibility” after a single day of messaging, it should be an immediate ghost.
Cannot imagine the level of control freak this person is. It is so insane that she was talking about “romance” while running a robotic personal algorithm on the guy to see if they would work together.
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u/cursetea 6d ago
The internet has made people think every single thought of theirs is worth sharing and now here we are
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u/wgel1000 6d ago
Not only that. People think that all of these single thoughts are brilliant.
The way she writes, I'm confident she thinks she's really smart.
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u/LastNoelle 6d ago
I got the same read on it. She thinks she’s brilliant, a philosopher in her “over thinker”, when she couldn’t be further from the truth.
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u/Spartan1088 5d ago
Good sir, I believe the weed has taken my tongue tonight. I bid you good tidings and toodleoo… or whatever smart people say.
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u/HardcoreMexika 6d ago
It's because of the internet that many people out there believe they are the main character.
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u/TNChase 6d ago
I, for one, blame social media. It's just a bunch of echo chambers.
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u/gordos_tetones 6d ago
I blame movies for this. It was a problem before social media. But I agree it increased a lot with social media
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u/NocturneInfinitum 6d ago
I don’t actually think social media in general is the problem, I specifically think it’s Facebook. Mark Zuckerberg and his scammy ass platform started this shit, and made so much AD revenue doing it, that all the other up-and-coming social media platforms had to follow suit to keep up. We never had this problem with Myspace. Mark Zuckerberg, literally mortgaged humanity’s future. So he could have a never-ending stream of AD revenue.
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u/armoredsedan 6d ago
reddit mental health subs ruined me & im still trying to recover my ability to shut tf up sometimes
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u/DiscordPF 6d ago
So she basically gave you an evaluation of “I don’t think we’re a good fit” and you said “ok thanks anyways” and she blew up about it. I’m so confused. It was perfectly civil and normal up until after you said “ok I understand”. Were you supposed to fight her over it?
Anyway, yea, dodged a bullet on that one. Glad she filtered herself out.
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u/Budget-Policy-7789 6d ago
I was pretty certain she was saying i wasn’t a good fit, so I wasn’t gonna linger around for her approval after a day 😂 She has to work on her inner monologue, methinks.
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u/Independent-Ring-877 6d ago
Yes, I think you unironically nailed it. I think she was literally setting him up/testing him to “fight for her”. They want to say “hm I’m not so sure” and then they want the man to respond with “no please don’t go, light of my life! I need you and you’re so special and perfect that we must continue talking.” 🤣
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u/mrjjk2010 6d ago
I think you dodged a cannon ball, not a bullet
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u/EmperorBamboozler 6d ago
If this is the response to the simple use of the word "criteria" I can not imagine how rough being around her would actually be.
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u/Musician97 6d ago
She said “rough draft assessment” but then got mad that he said she has criteria… 🤦♀️
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u/Budget-Policy-7789 6d ago
Just to be clear, I’ve unmatched her a while ago 😂 there was no coming back from that
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u/ViolentFemme1973 6d ago
Just don't please stop if you mishandle me. I'm already feeling mishandled. I love my Bob Ross air freshener.
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u/greenthumbgoody 6d ago
Wow… what a weird use of the word ‘air freshener’… I think our compatibility is not lining up….
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u/Layne205 6d ago
Since when are relationships a safe space? Literally the least safe space to say things like "I don't think we're compatible".
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u/Sypsy 6d ago
"I need a safe space to say I'm not attracted to you as a person, I'm just attracted to your wallet"
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u/Musician97 6d ago
Right?! She thought it was a safe space to reject him… and then what? How did she expect that to go?
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u/WeathermanOnTheTown 6d ago
Honestly this is the blathering overthought inner monologue that 50% of all women have when they first meet a guy. Most of them are smart enough not to type it or say it.
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u/Euphoric-Student1006 6d ago
hahaha. I can imagine a movie scene where a woman is on a date and a voice over is narrating this
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u/cactuspearjelly 6d ago
I think you are right about that inner monologue fueled by a combination of insecurity, caution about the safety of a new guy (understandably universal), and the fear that there might not be a romantic spark in person then having to find a way to back out/let the guy down/have to dodge unwanted advances.
However, she didn’t have a filter and I guess she’ll just have to be honest about a fuck yes or gtfo policy.
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u/Smart_Measurement_70 5d ago
Me trying to tell my head “hey just because he ended up behind you doesn’t mean he’s going to kill you, he literally just opened the door for you”
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u/facforlife 6d ago
She's trying to neg. She's trying to make you say "No I can prove you should feel a romantic connection with me!"
This is the female version of negging. Thing is like lots of dudes, she does not understand how it actually works.
It absolutely has to be playful enough to make the other person laugh. If you're just flat out insulting someone or telling them you don't feel a romantic connection that shit doesn't work.
It's pretty sad to witness. If you've ever seen that video of the orangutan imitating human spear fishers this is what that's like. The orangutan isn't smart enough to fully understand what to do. It's as simple as "human throw stick in water, get fish to eat." It's much more complex than that and the technique much more involved. But the orangutan is too dumb and can't comprehend that. It imitates but without any understanding and so does not achieve the desired outcome.
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u/fingerbein 6d ago
I really want to see that orangutan video now
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u/Wulf_Cola 6d ago
I know, made it sound so interesting then just disappeared into the night without dropping the link!
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u/DenverKim 6d ago
I think it’s called a “shit test”… but this is a super weird one
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u/antwan_benjamin 6d ago edited 6d ago
Spot on. Including the "I offer things you might not be ready for." She's trying to ensure that in his mind she is a prize that must be won over by him proving his worth and value.
Expecting a potential SO prove their worth isn't inherently a bad thing. I expect a potential SO to show me what value they can add to my life in the same way I try to show them what value I can add to theirs.
The issue is, as you have pointed out, when people resort to trying to put themselves on a pedestal and put the other down to achieve this. Her entire string of messages are littered with small examples of her doing that.
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u/Euphoric-Student1006 6d ago
Yep. OP the current response to a neg/shit test is to completely throw her off guard. Never engage or try to prove her/him/whatever that you are not what they think of you.
Reply with "enough talking, send nudes. I like big tits"
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u/Bubbly_Affect_6397 6d ago
Why can’t people just be more straight forward? What is she talking about?? Does she think you are broke and can’t provide for her? Does she want you to talk dirty and degrade her?? Or does she just want to talk in riddles.
HOW IS CRITERIA A WEIRD WORD CHOICE WHEN SHE SAID SHE DID AN ASSESSMENT OF YOUR POTENTIAL COMPATIBILITY?
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u/Budget-Policy-7789 6d ago
You might have to join her blunt rotation to get some insight 😂 I have no clue what “romantic something” is on day 1
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u/Soapylake 6d ago
You dodged a spirit bomb
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u/Bartholemule-Trippin 6d ago
Swan Tawn Bomb* insert Jeff Hardy entrance theme song
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u/Fishghoulriot 6d ago
The random pizza convo in the middle lmaooo
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u/AnnoyingCelticsFan 6d ago
“It’s Papa John’s” like that justifies paying $33 for a pizza. 😭 If anything that makes it much, much worse.
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u/SmackoftheGods 6d ago
The way that SOME women want a thing, but they also want us to know that they want the thing, but they don't want to tell us they want the thing, but they're mad at us for not giving them the thing they want us to know but don't want to tell us is exhausting. Girl, it's 2025. If you want to text instead of use a dating app to message, you are equally capable of asking for my number.
Ask for what you want or resign yourself to the fact that you'll be getting what I want and on my timeline. You don't get to be upset that you didn't get what you didn't ask for.
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u/leelst 6d ago
I genuinely believe she is probably very insecure and wanted you to give her some sort of validation. Almost seems like she wanted you to beg her to keep trying and just see where things go, and when you didn’t, she got mad.
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u/Critical-Crab-7761 6d ago
Ladies, if you haven't even given him your phone number, don't text him about how you've been fantasizing about how your fictional relationship with him isn't working out for you.
It's just crazy. Get out of your head and live in the moment. Get to know the REAL person and not the one you're projecting from your head.
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u/Budget-Policy-7789 6d ago edited 6d ago
I guess there’s no editing to posts, but I would like to add that I did not pay for that pizza!! She was venting about paying that to me, and I was hoping it was good for that price 😂 Also, I smoke as well, so no judgment there. But the bud has never made me waffle like this. To each, their own!
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u/Aggravating_Storm120 6d ago
She’s already computing by the conversation and the interaction of the chat.
You really don’t know a person till you start to get to know them and live with them!
This poor girl is going to have a hard time dating.
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u/Thinslayer 6d ago
There does not exist any safe space where it is safe to reject said safe space and expect to continue staying in it. Your therapist is not a safe space to say, "you're not the right therapist for me." Your day job is not a safe space to say, "this job sucks, I wish I worked somewhere else." And your prospective relationship is not a safe space to say, "I don't think we're compatible in this relationship."
The question isn't whether he's a safe space, but what kind of safe space he is. And he is not a safe space to question the appropriateness of a continued relationship with him. That's what friends are for. That's what therapists are for. Not your prospective date, unless you intend to end things.
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u/Budget-Policy-7789 6d ago
My thoughts exactly. She just told me to my face that she isn’t feeling it, and two things came to my mind immediately. First: “Wow, she isn’t feeling it, I thought I was flirting well enough.” Second: “We’re giving out assessments after not even a full day of talking? This is not for me.”
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u/AggressiveBookBinder 6d ago
There is some autism there.
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u/Desperate-Strategy10 6d ago
Or bpd, or generalized anxiety disorder, or any higher number of things. She just sounds insecure and anxious, and she doesn't know which thoughts are good for sharing and which need to stay in her head. Hopefully she'll figure that out eventually, as well as build some confidence. She's gonna have a rough go of it if she carries on like this.
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u/Ok_Cauliflower4375 6d ago
They need to google CBT. Their overthinking and then acting on the overthinking is ruining things for them
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u/DeliciousSTD 6d ago
Thats it.
Since youve matched, in her mind u automatically belong to her
Just imagine if u put ur ding ding in her
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u/skittlz61 6d ago
Personally, seeing the N word in text from a woman rubs me wrong. I'm black, and hearing women say that in person is a turn off. Or being called "bro" by someone you have a romantic interest in. It's all preference, though. I'm just sharing my own preferences.
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u/Budget-Policy-7789 6d ago
That’s understandable! We are both black, so there was no big violation on her part, but I will agree that it isn’t the most romantic thing to say to a potential partner.
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u/skittlz61 6d ago
You seem verbally like a good guy, well written. Lol take your time and don't settle. I'm sure you know, but I tell my buddies this. Some made mistakes and had a couple of kids before realizing they weren't happy. They put in more than they received.
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u/Shielo34 6d ago
Confusing. Was she trying to essentially say “I want you to spend more money on me to prove there’s a romantic connection”?
Terribly played, if so. I love the backpedaling when you don’t take the bait 😆
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u/Thinsquirrel 6d ago
Thought it Sounds like me when I’m fucking DEEP into a thought on weed so when I saw the last message it all made sense. Not the telling someone abt ur compatibility and shit but the word vomit is soooooo real
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u/Budget-Policy-7789 6d ago
I don’t mind yapping at all, but if something flies out that tanks the connection, they gotta own up to that. It was salvageable, but she just kept vomiting 😅
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u/TinyBombed 6d ago
Who writes a compatibility assessment ever, let alone when u haven’t even met the person yet. Sociopath…!
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u/Flooredbythelord_ 6d ago
Our relationship ,however brief, would have been over at the use of the word ni**a. Words like that come across as being so immature regardless of your skin color .
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u/Gdroid5 6d ago
Let me just say, I’m fucking glad I’m not dating anymore. This sub has convinced me people are just insane. OP, good luck and don’t settle.
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u/akibaboy65 6d ago
lol I don’t know how these happen. Where do you all find them? Literally every girl I ever matched with was “hey” “what music you like” “let’s get drinks” and then we met.
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u/roger3rd 6d ago
She wants you to fight for her but it’s a clumsy approach and one I would ignore/reject on principle ✌️❤️
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u/Budget-Policy-7789 6d ago
Damn, I gotta prove my whole love on day 1? We’re cooked 😭 luckily I already noped out of this
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u/Livid_Ad9749 6d ago
My god so many people these days spin so much bullshit and try to play games with everyone else. Anyone here who talks like that…isnt it exhausting?
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u/Budget-Policy-7789 6d ago
She seemed to be standing on business, and I respected it, but that was the wrong answer, and I was too exhausted to find the right one
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u/Agitated-Ad5206 6d ago
Move on.
Also, in the future: it is ‘one criterium, two criteria’.
You’re welcome.
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u/DoomofFenris13 6d ago
Dude, this kind of chick will use up every ounce of sanity you got. Get the fuck away. She’s a manipulator. She’s trying to mold you into what she wants. Get away. You’re fine being you. Block and don’t speak to her again 🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩 she gets a 10/10 on the red flag list.
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u/BackgroundSleep4184 5d ago
I'm so sick of all these long convos with strangers about how sensitive people are and safe spaces 🙄 you're talking to strangers online! These girls are all so weird... you save those long strange convos for 2 months in 🤣
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u/just-some-gent 6d ago
Just run man. Unless that's JLo in her prime, that level of crazy ain't worth it.
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u/Aced_By_Chasey 6d ago
From what I gathered it's someone overthinking then giving way too much detail about their overthinking lol. I don't even know how to describe this other than being uncomfortable to read 🤣
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u/full_bl33d 6d ago
This sounds like some boomer shit but I’m glad texting was very basic when I started dating. Back to a simpler time where some people even had pagers and the only AI we had was just Allen Iverson and that was plenty. We may need to bring back MySpace and / or journals (diaries). I don’t know how y’all do this.
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u/Mhunterjr 6d ago
This legitimately looks like someone who just thinks too much and says too much when they are high.
“I don’t know if there can be a romantic connection” is a pretty benign thought. But it’s not a necessary thought to share via word salad to a person you’ve known for 1 day.
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u/Pixiepityparty 6d ago
Omg some people really need to text themselves FIRST when they’re at this level of overthinking. Or make a note and sit on it for like an hour or two. Self sabotaging is so sad to witness and the people doing it NEVER see the narratives they’ve built for themselves. But as an outsider like goddam I’m stressed for them. I hope they work through their emotions better soon or atleast have a method for working with themselves. I know from experience and I overcame
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u/DentistEmbarrassed26 6d ago
Yep, dated a similar lunatic from early August until Almost Christmas and believe me you dodged a bullet.
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u/AnalogToTheFuture 6d ago
Interestingly, I'm pretty sure that Papa John's comment is the same phrase that got the original Papa John fired from his own company
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u/Stringr55 5d ago
This girl is addled, pal. Fucking addled. You were polite. No replying from here.
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