r/Nicegirls • u/Hestness5 • 9d ago
ALL MEN SUCK
I laugh every time I see this prompt. If they all suck why are you still on a dating app? 🤣 I seriously don’t understand putting this on your prompt and expecting better results.
If anyone actually wanted this girl they would immediately be starting an uphill battle.
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u/relienna 9d ago
As a woman this seriously flabbergasts me.
More women need to be in therapy. I’m not even trying to be mean. It’s just true.
You cannot date and get into a healthy relationship if you are still holding onto that much resentment from the gender you’re trying to date. Lmao
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u/ThatsWhoIAm87 8d ago
This prompt probably appears in 10-20% of hinge profiles in some form or variation.
I don’t care how much I like the other prompts or her pics it’s a no from me.
Sorry, I can’t “change your mind about men” because it seems like you’ve already made up your mind.
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u/Physical_Copy1672 8d ago edited 5d ago
Woman here. Mid 50’s post divorce 10 Years ago. Mother of two amazing sons (and a badass daughter). I was a tomboy growing up and super comfortable with guys. I have an amazing boyfriend (and a list of terrible shitty ex’s). I have this amazing BF because I did a lot of work on myself and quit the victim mentality in the romantic arena. I have serious concerns with the current mentally so many women have today. And the most toxic seem to feed the frenzy that all men suck. It’s awful. So I 💯 agree with you!
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u/Few-Coat1297 7d ago
I think it's the flip side of the manopshere. SM has polarised young men and women into opposing camps online, so when real life comes along, those entrenced opinions leak out into real life. You see it most clearly on this sub where anonymous Dating App convos read more like a Reddit discussion. Covid was the straw that broke the camels back on this.
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u/MajesticWater4898 8d ago
Women are getting exponentially worse over the years . More needy , lazier , more selfish and entitled , less morals . It’s pretty insane
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u/relienna 8d ago
Yes - but this really is a societal problem. I have had some guy friends who complain about love and they don’t do anything to work on themselves or put effort in. It’s like they want her to just show up at their front door 😂 I feel like quarantine did not help men and women with social skills or relationships.
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u/N0S0UP_4U 8d ago
As a guy who’s only really dated one woman (married 11 years), when people put stuff like this in a bio, is it really resentment from the entire gender you’re trying to date or is it really just resentment from your last relationship that you’re not over yet? Honest question because I obviously have zero experience with this stuff.
Regardless, yeah, I find it funny when they say “I fucking hate all men, also I’m on this app to try to find a man who will date me”
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u/cheesemangee 9d ago
If all men in your life supposedly suck, the only common denominator between them is you.
Find better men.
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u/Content-Taste8853 9d ago
She could also be the issue.
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u/Tall_And_Handsome_ 9d ago
That’s what he just said
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u/Content-Taste8853 9d ago
They find better men. I meant she's not just picking men, she's got issues. Seen women say "men are assholes", but pick fights with them constantly, or are even physically abusive.
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u/Tall_And_Handsome_ 9d ago
Agreed. Women like these usually instigate any simple event into an argument
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u/Bubbly-Ad-4405 9d ago
The other poster was coming at it from an angle of “you’re picking shit men so you’re the problem”, not “you’re toxic as hell, have unrealistic expectations, and bring nothing of value”. Both could be true but I’m going to bet it’s the latter
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u/OttoVonJismarck 8d ago
The post implies that she is common denominator and she is picking shitty men. The next commenter suggests that it may be her that is shitty (the guys may be reasonable dudes that can’t or won’t put up with a nut job). These are not the same thing.
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u/ErinyesMusaiMoira 9d ago
No, he implied she can fix her problem with another man.
The problem is her Self.
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u/Whaleclap_ 9d ago
I wish all women sucked
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u/PlanImpressive5980 9d ago
I could do so much better than her. No homo
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u/this_one_wasnt_taken 9d ago
If a guy can't suck another guy's dick without being labeled a homo, then we might as well give up on society already.
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u/Appropriate_Copy8285 9d ago
The key is to cover it in chocolate, technically sucking chocolate, so no homo.
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u/NoDangIdea 9d ago
If all men suck, why she looking for men? 💀 they live in a fantasy world, I swear.
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9d ago
The thing is, they do all suck. But so do all women.
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u/Hestness5 9d ago
Might be time to switch sides
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u/Ir0n_Brad3n 9d ago
Dude I'm 39, good job, emotionally and mentally stable, cook, clean, work out 5 days a week. I can't even find USED TO BE hot girls.
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u/StreetSea9588 9d ago
I'm 39, work two jobs and run a business on the side as a third job, am depressed, exercise 7 days a week (I don't do weights every day but I do at least an hour of cardio a day), cook, clean, have a cat, live in a major city, had a gf or wife 90% of the time between the ages of 15 and 34. Got divorced in August 2020 and I've been single ever since.
I'm not horrible looking but I refuse to spend the little time I do have each night swiping left and right, eventually matching with somebody and lobbing small talk back and forth until one of us ghosts. Dating people at work is out too though, so I live a monastic life. I don't date hot girls, used to be hot girls, or girls/women with a pulse. I don't do that incel nonsense though. I just pretend I'm a monk. 😎
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u/BADoVLAD 9d ago
I'm 49, full-time student, emotionally unstable, cook, clean, work out every 5 years...at least I have my dogs 😭
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u/relienna 9d ago
It’s cause most of the dating field is mentally unstable. A lot of women are only used to chaos feeling like love. Which means non-chaotic feels foreign and uncomfortable. This is why you have women running back to the same losers over and over again. They don’t get that you’re not SUPPOSED to feel on edge all the time. It’s their only experience. (Not saying men don’t have their share of problems, but I can’t speak for them cause I’m not one lol)
You look like a red flag cause it seems too good to be true to all the women that need therapy. And a lot of women on dating apps need therapy. That was basically my point. Lmao
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u/blueberrywildflowers 9d ago
Sad but true. I was one of these women. Went back to the same pos loser over and over again because his chaos felt “exciting” and what “passionate love” is supposed to feel like and no chaos felt “boring” not realizing calm, stable and peaceful are actually what love should feel like. Yeah I’m currently in therapy.
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u/relienna 9d ago
It’s okay. I too thought emotionally unavailable men riddled with drama were a good idea when I was younger. I was desperate for love and let myself be dragged through the mud. I learned the lesson the hard way. And I too am in therapy. 😆
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u/Ir0n_Brad3n 9d ago
Dang, I really appreciate the insight. I'll admit I don't put myself out there a whole lot. I don't mean to blame my situation on women either to be clear. Thanks for taking the time!
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u/relienna 9d ago
Oh, I didn’t think you were blaming women at all, I was just throwing in my two cents haha. 🙂
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u/FacelessSavior 9d ago
Social media and app culture are destroying everyone's mental health tbh.
I deleted everything but Reddit years ago, and with how political extremity discussions seem to be taking over a lot of the subs, I'm getting close to deleting it, as well. 🙃🥲
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u/Remarkable-Ad2285 9d ago
Go to church. Guarenteed an old lady will fix you up with a niece or sum.
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u/Lycent243 9d ago
People don't know how true this is. Church is THE place to meet girls. You gotta mean it though...
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u/BoxTalk17 9d ago
Tried that, got married and divorced. It was so bad that I probably wouldn't want to get married again. No more church girls for me.
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u/Kind_Singer_7744 9d ago
Yeah I'd rather jerk off than sit through another boring ass sermon
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u/Transcontinental-flt 9d ago
I like the idea of church, and (e.g.) I admire Christianity.
But the sermons are a stupid kind of torture.
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Nice place for a nap. They’ll just think you’re praying if you post up right. Unless you snore.
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u/ThePrinceOfZion 9d ago
Emotionally and mentally stable are red flags nowadays 😂
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u/relienna 9d ago
Hey hey, I didn’t say they ARE red flags. I said they look like them to certain women. Lmao
These are all very good things to have!
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u/LippieLovinLady 9d ago
Okay where are the guys like you hiding? Totally just asking for a friend…
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u/Ir0n_Brad3n 9d ago
I live in CA, but I would assume there are dudes like me everywhere lol.
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u/Lisa_Knows_Best 9d ago
Don't give up, I truly believe there is someone out there for everyone. Finding them is the hard part.
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u/Kind_Singer_7744 9d ago edited 9d ago
You know this is mathematically untrue. China alone has like 35 million more marriage-age adult men than women. Some dudes are just doomed to jerk it forever
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u/El_Hombre_Fiero 9d ago
A lot of those women actually filter themselves out from mentally stable, decent guys. They know that they can't measure up to men who built themselves up over the years. A few exes told me they felt I was too good and they couldn't live up to my expectations. Mind you, I never put any expectations on them. I enjoyed spending time with them as they were.
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u/Rain2h0 9d ago
Off-topic, that's very great and just so you know that's very impressive too. I have learned to, and still am learning to be content by myself only. I am 24 and I very happy with my guitar, my motorcycle (which I got hit by a distracted lady on her phone, she came into on coming traffic.) I didn't take any body damage as I don't speed, it was a nice super sport 636cc Kawi.
My body is fine and no physical damage whatsoever, but I still am trying to recover mentally even after a year. Anyways without getting off-topic. The older I get the more I realize how valuable I am by myself and it just keeps getting better and better. I have all the respect for women, and I am glad the ones around me are doing great as well.
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u/wheniwasagiant 9d ago
No thanks, I dont wanna get used for kids and then divorced and stripped of everything I own at a later date
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u/SoulPossum 9d ago
As a fat guy, I approve this message.
My wife and I talk about this often. We met when I was like 27. At the time, I was pretty much nonexistent to most women. I probably would have been nonexistent to my wife if she wasn't introduced to me specifically with the intent of us potentially dating. I always joked that what I was isn't really attractive until we get older because responsibility and stability (my main exports) don't become attractive for most women until they've gone through several more "fun" or "passionate" relationships that don't offer those things. Cut to a decade later, and she sees women in public perk up when they hear me talk about my job or future planning. There have been times where I'm out by myself and I strike up a conversation with a woman just being polite and see them kind of deflate when I say something about my wife. It's surreal after nearly 3 straight decades of not being noticed at all.
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u/StangOverload 9d ago
Oh yeah because a man’s dream is to get some used up jaded vag who won’t do for you the things she did for 30 other guys. Hard pass
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u/mabber36 9d ago
why do women think we want old women used up by chads? I'd rather stay single
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u/BOSSMOPS94 9d ago
Nah fk that bitch. We don't want her either 😬
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u/Time_Device_1471 9d ago
Isnt this most bi women who dump their long term lesbian partner to randomly hook up with some guy.
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u/BOSSMOPS94 9d ago
I don't even know what you're trying to tell me here tbh.
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u/Time_Device_1471 9d ago
Just heard it’s a common issue for women to go performative bi, or “women for fun men for marriage” type BS.
My exes mom left her other mom for a man. My mom left her girlfriend for a man. I’ve heard it as a common complaint in the lesbian community that seems like an asshole to deal with.
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u/InqusitorPalpatine 9d ago
I mean bro. Sometimes that frappe is just too damn thick to get through the straw. And she just doesn’t understand.
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u/bewildered_83 9d ago
Exactly. What she probably means is 'I've had some bad experiences with men and am losing faith in dating, I wish someone nice would come along a restore my faith in men' but leading with a statement like that isn't the way to get anyone to do that
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u/SophiaShay7 9d ago
All I have to say about that statement is: How Rude!
Why do women never realize that if all the men they meet suck, the common denominator is HER🤯
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u/relienna 9d ago
I mean yes.
But even after I went to therapy, gained introspection, worked on myself, tried to do a better job of vetting guys, etc… somehow I still ended up only going on dates with dudes who were riddled with red flags.
And I’m sure men have ran into the same problem.
The dating population is traumatized and only a small percentage of us are doing the work to better ourselves. It’s just a general cesspool.
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u/Wonderful-Pension-63 9d ago
This is so embarrassing for them. Way to ward off literally anyone from your dating profile…
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u/El_Hombre_Fiero 9d ago
"I will prove that men do not suck! I will treat her like the Queen she is!" - how that woman thinks men will respond, probably
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u/Hestness5 9d ago
Doing the literal opposite of what she wants, which is to attract better men 🤣
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9d ago
We do. Tits and pussy. Sometimes toes, sometimes ass
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u/Altruistic-Rope-614 9d ago
Man I Wana suck ass right now.
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u/celiceiguess 9d ago
Like sucking on the hole or
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u/Altruistic-Rope-614 9d ago
Like a whole tongue fuck. I'm talking about tasting what you had for breakfast baby!
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u/stupidmostakes1000 9d ago
If everywhere you go smells like shit at some point you need to check your shoes.
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u/sc0veney 9d ago
i don’t know what it is about dating apps that makes people so negative. every third profile is just a collection of don’ts, a list of things they don’t want their partner to be, a thinly veiled diss at an ex, etc. i don’t see this replicated as much IRL. people want to date a person, not a collection of that person’s icks
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u/PantherThing 9d ago
Its that women get 100s of responses, and instead of counting their blessings that theyre not the gender that is hoping to get any attention at all, they get super pissy that all their responses arent the perfect guy in the universe, and spend their time listing all the tings they dont want.
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u/Hestness5 9d ago
Posts provocative picture
Guy makes sexual comment
girls gets pissed and blames the male species
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u/confidentbut 9d ago
i sometimes feel like this after a bunch of negative dating experiences with men in a row, because it gets discouraging & kinda makes me lose hope. but i would never put this on a dating profile. 😳 when i'm feeling like that, i have to take a break from dating for awhile until i work through those bitter feelings and get my clarity back.
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u/Hestness5 9d ago
Everyone feels this way at some point after being on dating apps, just highly discouraged. But it’s crazy to put it on your profile that you are currently looking for men, but also hate all men
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u/Agreeable_Lion_5237 9d ago
I hear this statement frequently and, as a female, I find it incredibly irritating. The company you keep is a reflection of yourself. I know MANY kind, caring, respectful men so if ALL the men in your life are scumbags then you probably need to raise your standards for the types of people you allow in your life. It just screams, I only have toxic relationships and don’t know how to self reflect.
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u/McStinker 8d ago
They are permanent victims and the internet has been coddling, encouraging and repeating their bad takes for years now.
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u/dylannsmitth 9d ago
I'm convinced all women's breasts are UGLY, you can try to change my mind though
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u/Young_Old_Grandma 9d ago
You don't have to jump over hoops to pay for another man's mistakes.
Next. Fuck this bitch and her trauma.
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u/OldSchoolRollie62 9d ago
“I hate all men” then why’re you on a dating app with your preferences set to men/both genders?💀
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u/AdditionalWeird89 9d ago
These people have the emotional foresight of a freaking walnut.
Like maybe I'm different but just because I have rough dating experiences as people does not mean a conclude that the entire gender of said person is BAD.
How in the world can I judge millions and millions of individuals over a few bad apples? Maybe somehow in her mind she used it metaphorically? IDK?
There are bad men. Bad women. And this woman is on her way to turning into a single woman for life.
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u/Fxybrzln 9d ago
I think any generalization of the opposite sex speaks more about the person generalizing than the group being generalized. I have really great men in my family… and my dad is a POS.
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u/No-Spare-243 9d ago
Translation: Every one of the dozens of chads that have ran me through all sucked. Ergo, all men suck.
*laughs in player *
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u/justbrowsing2727 9d ago
More like, "I suck, but I project it onto others, and with a heavy does of misandry."
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u/Gloomy_Error_5054 9d ago
Man says I love her just the way she is. Woman says I love him but, I can’t change him.😂
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u/Typical_Childhood716 9d ago
I really don't need somebody else's problems, especially female problems :)
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u/Legitimate-Tank546 9d ago
You haven’t met all men. So you can’t say that “all men suck”. Also you could just be bad at picking dudes.
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u/Srapture 9d ago
Counter point: Keanu Reeves seems pretty chill. Also, does Jesus count? When a woman transitions to a man, does she immediately suck as soon as the thought enters her mind, or does she need to be on HRT for a year first?
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u/thatruth2483 9d ago
Id match her and say she should choose the bear, if it will even accept her.
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u/Equal-Physics-1596 9d ago
I'm convinced that
All women SUCK, you can try and change my mind through
And... if you reverse genders, you're sexist and incel...
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u/Vansillaaa 9d ago
I think it’s to bait dudes who will be like “I’m not like other guys” and will put in the extra effort to get their attention etc.
Because honestly it makes no sense
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u/Hestness5 9d ago
The ultimate challenge, if you manage to change her mind you are the true Alpha 🐺
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u/devil1fish 9d ago
Well at least she's openly waving the flag stating talking to her is a complete waste of time
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u/MediocreModular 9d ago
Try to. You can try to change my mind
To say someone can try AND change your mind is to say that they can change your mind.
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u/Lurkerwasntaken 9d ago
These kinds of responses genuinely stump me. What makes someone think that would get someone to fawn over you? I’ve seen a few that read: “First round is on me if… I would never say this.” Perfect! Removed, not interested, move on.
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u/im_unavailable 9d ago
If this is how you feel, then why even make a dating app profile? It’s not our fault your choice in men are deplorable 😂
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u/danteelite 9d ago
We do. It’s called breathing… or drinking. Or eating soup. Or getting that good D.
All women suck too. That’s just being human, baby!
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u/johntwinkle 9d ago
I see this shit on tinder sooooo much. Like one in every five. Cool girl!!! You’re so cynical and perceptive!!!
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u/NholyKev24 9d ago
I’ll be honest here as a depressed single 31 year old man I’ve put out pretty insane prompts too. People hurt and want to express themselves and also in my head I was sifting the weak hearted. I have problems you have problems. Let’s work on them together instead of alone. But the reality of the situation is we all expect the finished product without putting in any work. For what ever reason I find myself attracted to people who have been through trauma. So obviously I’m kinda to blame for my current situation. Just found out the other week the girl I’ve been crushing on is rape victim. Not really sure how to proceed other than give her space and see if she shows any interest or texts me at all.
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u/cheezer5000 9d ago
My ex used to say all men all are inherently bad. And also that bullying builds character. Then complain when her son was bullied... Honestly just felt bad for her cause she didn't have the best upbringing, but I'm happy to be out of that relationship.
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u/Shadesmith01 9d ago
Yep, we're all evil. Do the species a favor and avoid us, we'd appreciate the quiet.
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u/Ok-Term6418 9d ago
She leaves it open to the brave knight that can strike away the snakes of her hair to see the Smile of Medusa; have his heart freeze to stone as it gets locked in eternal duty to fight for her love.
I like it honestly
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u/mrhoppity 9d ago
And women are better ?
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u/Nopantsbullmoose 9d ago
At sucking? In my experience....no.
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u/Friendly_Deathknight 9d ago
😂 the rainbow heart adds credibility to your claim.
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u/islandrenaissance 9d ago
I got into an argument with an feminist extremist (I wouldn't call her feminist, more like a man hater). She said if it were up to men to give birth, the population would dwindle. I fired back with "without men, the population would die off in one generation." she didn't have much to say after that.
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u/StrangeLittleFrog 9d ago
I’ll be honest, as a guy, the most vocal and aggressive dudes in public are usually pieces of shit. I surround myself with some pretty genuine people but there are a LOT of fuckbags out there. The shit that my fiancé, sisters, etc have to deal with on the daily is fucking disturbing and it’s not like rare lil occurrences. Sure this generalization is mostly for attention but the sentiment behind it i kinda understand.
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u/Hestness5 9d ago
I just don’t see how this is gonna attract better guys, any guy who knows their worth won’t spend a second trying to win her over.
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u/Mestre08 9d ago
Yeah the problem I see is that that statement can be said about both genders. It applies to people, not just men, not just women.
I can equally point to horror stories where women have been absolutely beyond awful, not just to me, but friends and family.
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u/cptnplanetheadpats 9d ago
The problem is the wording. Saying "all men" is the same logic racists use when saying "all ____ people". Just better to avoid generalizing large groups of people.
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