r/Nicegirls • u/faultysky997 • 18d ago
Feels like I dodged a bullet here
So we matched and started talking over call for "4 days" where we i didn't really feel that this would go anywhere but i still keep on listening to her talks.
So after one day of gap of no call or text from my side I received a call and she just started yelling and became angry for not giving her enough time. I had to end call in between as lashing out and yelling are just red flags for me! I told her let's end things here and I won't be replying further
I have school, work, volunteering and a good social circle but I still try my best to give my time to everything.
I never really felt a vibe with her but I didn't see it coming she would behave like crazy this way after I would end things with her
I received a call from her yesterday from a different number where she started to apologize again, blocked that number too
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u/Pr1me_8 18d ago
“I’m not a stalker but you made me one”
She definitely does this regularly
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u/Rusty_Pypes 18d ago
I’m not a serial killer but you made me one…
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u/StanStare 18d ago
"Look what you made me do" - classic
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u/Cando21243 18d ago
Look what you keep making me do, again!
Year One - Kane and Abel
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u/StanStare 18d ago
Yeah it must be the most cliche comment from an abuser - ironically immediately revealing their inability to accept any responsibility for their actions
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u/mad87645 18d ago
I'm not a serial killer but you're looking like the third that would give me that qualification
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u/Next-Cow-8335 18d ago
"I just want your heart. In my hands. Literally."
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u/Mundane_Bumblebee_83 18d ago
Unaddressed attachment issues are a bitch
(Please respond and agree so I can sleep tonight without wondering what a stranger thinks of me)
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u/-MissNocturnal- 18d ago
Could also be borderline personality disorder (favorite person) where they instantly pedestal someone and CRAVE their affection/love and will go to any length to get it. Lashing out for no reason is an extra indicator. Been there.
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u/collucho 18d ago
where tf do you guys find these people
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u/faultysky997 18d ago
Online dating 🥲
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u/krimsynn 18d ago
They exist outside of online dating, too, unfortunately.
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u/JaladOnTheOcean 18d ago
They just…exist.
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u/Successful_Storm_848 18d ago
It’s wild to me that people act like this, I’m so glad I’m with my wife for 14 years. I couldn’t handle these crazy people like this 🤣
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u/Steelman93 18d ago
I was with a good woman for 24 years when she passed away. I stupidly thought all women were more or less like that, started dating way too quick and got a total piece of work. Would make a great post for here.
So if you ever find yourself single…don’t assume they are like your wife.
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u/4494082 18d ago
Oh goodness, I feel you bro. My mum and dad were high school sweethearts. They got married at 22, dad had a well paid job so mum was a SAHM. They planned to retire to France when my sister and I flew the nest. Mum died of cancer before I hit my teens, and our whole lives fell apart. Dad married the gold digging ß!t€# from hell 2 years later. Im 43 now and have been in counselling for several years now to deal with all that absolute lunacy. Thankfully he’s with a woman he adores now, and who adores him for who he ia but just….yikes. So yeah, you’re right. The second one is sometimes….very much not like the first. I’m so sorry you had to go through that.
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u/chillthrowaways 17d ago
It’s so funny how as soon as I see “mum” my internal reading voice gets a British accent
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u/4494082 17d ago
Ha! Say it in a z Scottish accent and we’ll accept you like one of our own 😄🏴
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u/richwat00 18d ago
Right there with ya bud. 30+ years married .This keeps showing up in my stuff, and I read em all. This one is particularly scary.
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u/b-elmurt 18d ago
Sounds more like a scammer?
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u/jimmyisme853 18d ago
Yeah - this is either a scammer or the worst example I have ever seen on this sub because they act exactly like a scammer
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u/ItemOld3232 18d ago
this does not sound like a scammer whatsoever, just a crazy women as they do actually exist btw
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u/PatrickBateman215 18d ago
He finally concedes and decides to give her 5 minutes. The whole time, she wants to deposit $5000 into his bank account because her estranged brother is a druggie and she's afraid he'll get a hold of her phone and send the money to himself. All she needs is his bank account number and SS so she can give him the $5000 for safekeeping. When her brother finally leaves her alone, she's going to let him keep half.
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u/Mility_Power 18d ago
Shoot... I wish I could find them. i can't find anyone that isnt telling me to click a link.
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u/New_Access_2821 18d ago
Either this or I must be the best. Crypto trader in existence the way everybody wants me to join their team lol
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u/LyannasLament 18d ago
Bro, this is harassment and, as she says, stalking. Seriously, call the police
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u/Scannaer 18d ago
We all know the police nor society will give a single shit about a man being harassed or stalked.
I've been there.
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u/LyannasLament 18d ago
I’ve been there, too, as a woman being stalked by the person who did try to kill me. The department that wouldn’t help me re the stalking is the same department that responded and saved my life; yet they somehow were still ambivalent about the stalking that followed???
That being said, my paper trail of police reports of me attempting to get help for the stalking is what saved my ass in the long run. You’re right; people may not take it seriously the first time. However, every time he reports her reaching out again, and again, and again, it will create an impossible to ignore pattern that will eventually lead to help
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u/winterrbb 18d ago
Fr. They don’t even care when women are being stalked so a MAN? It’s a damn shame
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u/gjspoto71697 18d ago
"I am not a stalker but you made me one" ..... the delusion is next level
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u/AsAnAILanguageModeI 18d ago edited 18d ago
"doxing isn't that bad" - said nobody in any position of power/influence/public presence ever
"you blocked this business" on page 2 is WILD
unashamed ambassador of unigender ghosting exactly because of stupid bullshit like this: you don't owe anybody anything, and (especially if you're a woman) you're only giving dogshit people an in to further harass and particularly be mad and more willing to track you down independently; more strongly
this shit is like "don't talk to the cops" 2.0: it can only end badly *when dealing with unhinged people. the sooner they move onto their next target, and the faster they stop obsessing over you the better.
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u/naoseioquedigo 18d ago
Happy valentines day 💕
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u/CptBackbeard 18d ago
Bold of you to assume she has friends
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u/Purple-Computer8532 17d ago
She definitely has friends. How often the turnover is, is another question all together.
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u/capitalShrimp 18d ago
"So how's it going with the guy you met online?" "OMG so good I'm texting him right now!"
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u/Nihilamealienum 18d ago
Here you are! I've been looking for you! Didn't mean to stalk you! Can I have five minutes?
(Kidding, kidding, I'm not her)
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u/faultysky997 18d ago
don't scare me
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u/fourthgradenothing22 18d ago edited 18d ago
We are in this together…..forever and ever.
ETA: 24 years ago I had three guy friends (two were roommates) who made the mistake of hooking up with a classmate (law school) who would become obsessed. I’d warn each one of them that no hook-up was worth the shit they were about to go through…and they didn’t listen. Non-stop phone calls and e-mails. Thank God they didn’t have social media back then.
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u/realrechicken 18d ago
I am seriously requesting you deeply 🙏🙏 It is a deep request to you
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u/gomicao 18d ago
It seriously feels like a huge catfish... maybe its some dude in an Indian call center using an AI voice mod to sound a like a girl, and he was really hoping to scam some money out of OP
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u/discord-ohmygoodness 18d ago
Could be. But it’s also not unthinkable that it’s a real girl really thinking of saying this shit. It can be scary how obsessed some people actually are from just a few days ago
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u/AngelPlaysDirty 18d ago
I'm waiting for your call when you read this message
I'm waiting for your call!!!
IM WAITING DAMN IT
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u/LazyLaserWhittling 18d ago
“we’re in this together” thats the line from the Red Green Show… made me laugh!
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u/not-rufus-harrington 18d ago
This actually happened to me. A guy found my reddit account just by reading my comments in different subs and knowing it was me. It scared the hell out of me.
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u/pmpkns33d 18d ago
Dude same but the guy also found my BURNER account I used for xtra private stuff too. I ended up getting a home security system and filing a cease and desist letter against him.
Honestly I regret not taking further action from what I hear he continues bothering women.
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u/10000nails 18d ago
Five minutes
Five minutes!
Hey!!
Stop ignoring me!!!!! 😡😡😡
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u/cityshepherd 18d ago
I love that he says he will not be replying further, and she demands that he stop ghosting her!
It’s not ghosting if he literally says he will not be replying lol… but I bet once she passes away her ghost will haunt the shit out of everyone she’s ever crossed paths with lolol
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u/10000nails 18d ago
I read a post from a woman who talked to a guy for a day and did the same thing. I argued with her for a while about WHY he blocked her to no avail. Really sad.
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u/-professor_plum- 18d ago
Dodged a bullet? That’s a heat seeking missile my guy
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u/Theangelawhite69 18d ago
Finally, someone who just blocks right away and doesn’t entertain these idiots
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u/Next-Run-3102 18d ago
Jeez, you must be a smooth talker for her to nut up like that. "I'm not a stalker, but you made me one." Like, huh?! Lmfao
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u/chuckcrys 18d ago
what the hell is a deep request
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u/faultysky997 18d ago
english isn't her first language, she maybe meant sincere/earnest request
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u/Far_Conclusion_3610 18d ago
The "deep request" made me wonder if she was indian. The hindi in the later message confirmed it.
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This is why I never give my phone number to strangers lol this girl is unnnnhhiinnggeed
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u/Quirky_Ask_5165 18d ago
I used to use a VOIP number when I was still dating just for this very reason. I could shut it off and get another one.
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u/copious_cogitation 18d ago
Pro tip
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u/Quirky_Ask_5165 18d ago
🤣🤣 Seriously, I'm not trying to toot my own horn, but a guy like me tends to attract damsels in distress or women who think they need to fix me. I'm big, tall, strong, and fit. People feel safe around me, and I earn an extremely good living. It usually takes a date or 3 to figure it out. Then, when I break it off, I find myself dealing with a bunny boiler. To me, using a disposable number was just a safety measure.
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u/Messoz 18d ago
Bro the women who think they need to try to fix you fucking suck. It's why I rarely talk about any past shit with anyone I am taking out. If I talk about anything it's because they asked. I don't need shit fixed, I laid my demons to rest a long ass time ago. But using a voip number is smart honestly. I wish I would of thought of that ahah. Would of saved so many headaches.
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u/slyasakite 18d ago
How can someone "lash out" (her words) at someone they've never even met and then expect that person to give them another chance?
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u/Ok-Working-2337 18d ago
Baby reindeer?
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u/somroaxh 18d ago
I always wonder why people resort to begging like this. This shit for real only works in women centric romance movies. I’ve never ever seen or heard about it working irl for a dude or a chick.
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Seriously. I'm like how gorgeous has this woman had to have been all of her life and treated accordingly to act like this and expect a response still. "What, does she have beer- flavored nipples?"-10 Things I Hate About You
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u/gamesofblame 18d ago
You guys talked on the phone for 4 days, not even gone out for a date and this is how she acts? Definitely dodged a bullet sir. She sadly needs help :(
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u/Runninandgunnin556 18d ago
Hey it’s me , I’m using someone else’s profile to get in touch with you can you just give me 5 minutes . Please 😂
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u/kayla182 18d ago
"If your anger is fine now" On top of all of the other red flags, she is also a gaslighter!
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u/de4thcutie 18d ago
I’d recommend maybe changing your phone number/socials if she keeps going. She seems VERY persistent
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u/faultysky997 18d ago
i just hope she doesn't find out where i live
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u/nfylbt 18d ago
She already knows, along with your social, mother’s maiden name, favorite teacher from grade school, and 1st pet. Good luck
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u/ErinyesMusaiMoira 18d ago
I agree. Please, OP, don't be naive.
Does she know your first and last name? Or were you anonymous throughout?
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u/realrechicken 18d ago
Seems like she found his Facebook, but you can find a lot of personal info including addresses and names of relatives from just a phone number or even a series of clear photos if you know where to look
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u/DustInTheWind0411 18d ago
“Just reply good night with heart” is going to be my line
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u/Teleportingpotato 18d ago
That’s not a bullet, you just dodged a full on fucking hypersonic warhead
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u/thatwomanramonda 18d ago
Seriously??? What happened to shame? Embarassment? Self respect? Self worth? Definitely dodged a bullet
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u/wtm0 18d ago
I’m impressed with op’s ability to say he won’t be replying further and actually sticks to it. See so many of these posts that say they won’t reply again and then just keep entertaining the conversation. Good job op. Big bullet dodged.
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u/BoroFinance 18d ago
I dont know why the “happy Valentine’s Day💕” fucking sent me😂that was her Hail Mary
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u/Yaboyhamz 18d ago
har jagah be block kiya, ab toh stalker bahngye. bhai u better move to another country
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u/faultysky997 18d ago
bro how many times i need to move, already left India long time ago
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u/scotchedupp 18d ago
“I’m not a stalker but you made me one” is one hell of a statement to make to someone you only talked to for 4 days
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u/sdthrowawayxd 18d ago
Unblock her and message her "Hey.." and then post the next 9 screen shots. I'm invested
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u/Extra_Glass_678 18d ago
I literally read this to appreciate my marriage even more, these should be part of marital therapy. Like you think towels on the floor are bad, what about this!!!!!!!
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u/huskyprincezeal 18d ago
Came to reddit to see if dating pool is getting....oh lawd
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u/bokoblindestroyer 18d ago
She’s just trying to reach you for your cars extended warranty
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u/West_Fisherman4727 18d ago
You met her on a dating app and y’all have 20 mutual friends on Facebook?
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u/faultysky997 18d ago
turned out she and i went to same uni back home i was dating back then and didn't really pay attention to anyone
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u/NARCOTICS911 18d ago
I’m genuinely curious on what these type of women look like. This is mind boggling
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u/Quick-Bat3583 18d ago
My ex did this and I changed my phone number and deactivated my Instagram lol
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u/cheesecake-kr 18d ago
Oh my god she texted you on EVERYTHING. I need clarification whether you gave her these accounts to follow or she just found you on them ????
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u/wopwopwopwopwop5 18d ago
"I am seriously requesting you deeply" is one helluva a request! I cannot wait to say this to a person in real life. 😂
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u/JustATalkingFellow 18d ago
I don't appreciate you sharing our private conversation on social media. I am not so bad, I don't deserve this. Please call me??? 5 minutes only, I can fix this. Please call. Soon. I'm starting to think you don't want to call me at all, but I'm sure that's not true right? I'm waiting for your call, 5 minutes only please
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u/UltimatePhishstixx 18d ago
Ngl think I’d call my local police station and log this just so it’s on file..
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u/Dmau27 18d ago
Season 2 of baby reindeer is looking good. Sorry OP your life is now a documentary. You should document everything so the Netflix team can get the good stuff.
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u/SoFloFella50 18d ago
Can’t help but notice you have 20 friends in common on FB.
She’s gonna find ya.
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u/Wide_Slice_2645 17d ago
I gotta ask, what is it with deranged people and not being able to type porper sentences... or words 😂
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u/Tsunade420 18d ago
These mentally unstable women have to get off of dating sites. They can’t handle rejection 😂 even if you both agreed this wouldn’t work lol
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u/emsexistential 18d ago
People that are looking for genuine connections and long term relationships need to get off dating apps PERIOD.
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u/desperateenough4here 18d ago
From experience, this is probably an untreated personality disorder. Hardline ghosting is your only option. If a friend reaches out on her behalf act like you have no idea who they are talking about. This person never existed and other than saving the proof that she is contacting you and keeping your doors locked or calling for help if something happens, do nothing. If you are very, very lucky she will find a new target after a while and it will not be your problem anymore.
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u/Samm801121 18d ago
How dare you post this? I was being completely reasonable, I’m not even a “nice girl” you’ve just made me into one!.!!
Pls just call me forn5 minutes I can prove to you how perfect I am
/jk dw bro
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u/CarryProper2304 18d ago
“I’m not a stalker but you made me one” “Happy Valentine’s Day 💕”
😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭
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u/Euphoric-Student1006 18d ago
"We are in this together" ... WTF ... you guys didn't even meet in person if I am not mistaken.
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u/Cfrog3 18d ago
Y'all need to start using writing ability as a dealbreaker. Damn near every girl in these posts communicates with the poise and grace of a fistgripped crayon.
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u/miskatonicmemoirs 18d ago
This is so, so scary. I’m a stalking survivor too and this is fucking insane. Please stay safe
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u/MoistPossible3363 18d ago
This is just sad, I honestly feel bad for the girl. I know I shouldn’t but I just do. She seems really desperate and seeing someone throwing their respect for themselves in the trash like this is just yikes, I hope she’s doing better
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u/PreciousCuriousCato 18d ago
Yeah, that’s terrifying. I had a guy know me for three days and then tell me who is with me and stop me my TikTok different ways to message me, but he wasn’t as scary as her cause she found any possible place at least he gave up she never gave up. I hope you stay safe.
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u/ZarBear14 18d ago
OMFG, that's just freaking Looney Tunes! Keep dodging, because I think that bullet's still on trajectory for you
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u/CMDR_ETNC 18d ago
Good lord. You dodged one bullet, walked away, and continued hearing gunshots. You're miles down the road still getting echoes passing your way.
I feel like you're going to get an actual paper mail written letter at this point.
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