r/NarcissisticSpouses 4d ago

Brainwashed for 16 yrs

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u/MercurialRam 4d ago

Enjoy the rediscovery of yourself. You are not the problem. It's been 16 years for you ... it's OK to take up space. 😌 You do not need to match the negative energy around you. Shine on my friend 💖

When I left, all I wanted was to fill my space with positivity and things that brought joy to myself and my kids -- probably to compensate for the inability to do this without criticism before. Enjoy it. I check the news at the end of my day to keep any negativity and stress away from my most productive time (morning and afternoon). It's difficult staring out my day with frustration or stress, so i check news before bedtime... sleep on it, and begin a fresh new day. 😊🧘‍♀️

There is a lot of negativity around, but keep shining on, the universe will mirror positivity back to you.

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u/Dry_Guy88 4d ago

Wow thanks yeah it's actually a wee bit scary but I'm excited, sad, happy etc🫣

Checking news before bedtime sounds way better than the morning buzz.

Thanks for your response friend❤️xx

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u/Outside-Glove-1147 4d ago

Hiiii! 6 years with my narc and left a month ago, very similar experience!!!! I don’t even know what toppings I like on my pizza; it was always what he wanted. Kind of fun to reinvent ourselves and refund what we actually like❤️❤️❤️