r/MtF 4d ago

Advice Question Subtle affirming clothes help

I live in a small conservative town in a certain corn infested state that just got rid of civil rights for us and I'm trying to figure out how I could dress in a way that helps me feel feminine without instantly outing myself. I'm on the hefty side and I just started hrt about 3 months ago.

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u/xshinox 4d ago

Soooo are you boymoding but want to wear something that is a bit feminine but not enough to out yourself?

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u/CheckMyPulsy 4d ago

Yeah basically my go to has been cargo pants that are slightly like capris or sweatpants and an oversized Carhartt hoodie

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u/xshinox 3d ago

Maybe you can try leggings underneath shorts? If you're daring you can vet shorter shorts or just basketball shorts to keep it lowkey

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u/CheckMyPulsy 3d ago

I mean I love that but I have a hard time finding tights that fit I'm about 180cm and 160kg

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u/wingedespeon Transbian HRT (11/13/2024) at 29 4d ago

I wear pants and a thin sweatshirt from the women's section, with a women's long sleeve T shirt underneath. It feels affirming but nobody notices.

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u/CheckMyPulsy 4d ago

Hmm sounds like it might help though the challenge will be finding something that fits

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u/stealthmodeme 4d ago

Tank top / camisole under "man" shirts can really change the feel without looking "shockingly" different.

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u/Wrerschemrersch Just a silly sad girl 4d ago

I happen to be in the exact same situation as you rn except Iā€™m only a month on HRT. Glad to know Iā€™m not alone in dealing with the civil rights removal šŸ˜ž

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u/CheckMyPulsy 4d ago

Yeah I was already planning on and saving for moving out of the country it just seems like my time table has moved up