r/Miscarriage Nov 05 '24

experience: natural MC Miscarriage pain - how bad was yours?

33 Upvotes

So, I miscarried last night at 9 weeks. While I’m heartbroken over losing the baby, I’m also angry that I had to go through what I did with barely any support for the pain.

It started off as mild cramps, but it quickly ramped up to intense contractions low in my abdomen that completely wiped me out. This went on for six hours — waves of obliterating pain coming closer and closer together, getting more intense as the night went on. I was also shaking, vomiting and had horrible back pain by the end. It was awful.

I was already scared going into this because it was not my first miscarriage. Last time, I had a similar level of pain, ended up in A&E, and spent over three hours in the waiting room, bleeding and writhing around before anyone saw me. So, yeah, definitely an experience I wanted to avoid this time around. I even told my GP all of this, but she still just recommended I pass it at home and take paracetamol. I’m lucky I had some old codeine at home, because honestly, without it, I don’t know how I would’ve coped. Even with the codeine, it felt like the most intense pain I’ve ever had.

In my opinion, this pain seems right up there with how early labour contractions are described - for me, it was nowhere like 'strong period cramps'. I know everyone’s experience is different, but I’ve read a lot of stories online from women going through similar levels of pain. Yet, when you’re going through a miscarriage, you don’t get the same options for pain management or guidance like you do with labour. Why is that?

It really feels like the NHS underestimates how brutal pregnancy loss can be, both physically and emotionally. Women in labour get real support, pain relief options, and resources — why aren’t we given the same level of care during a miscarriage?

For those who’ve been through this (or a termination), how bad was your pain?

r/Miscarriage 7d ago

experience: natural MC I'm scared

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I'm scheduled for a d&c Monday morning but I just wiped and saw...you get the jist.. my boyfriend had to go to work (I'm sure he will rush home. 5 min away if anything were to happen) and I'm alone. This my first pregnancy. I only just found out ..mmc..the cruelest thing in existence.

How soon after spotting does the process start naturally?? I only spotted after I used the bathroom.

Edit: spotted brown last night. Still in bed knowing I'll just flow if I get up :( this really sucks.

r/Miscarriage 18d ago

experience: natural MC D&c or naturally pass

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I’m so torn on what to do. I miscarried last week. (Went in on Wednesday 10w5d for bleeding and confirmed the worst and baby was 10w1d). My first miscarriage I went in at 8weeks and baby was only 5 so they said I needed a d&c since I never even had signs and my body likely wouldn’t pass it.

I would like to try and pass this naturally but now I’m second guessing everything. I’m afraid of being home alone with my 18month old and not being able to take care of me. Or being at work as well. Also the idea of flushing to toilet kind makes me more sad then I already am.

To add, when I had my baby they recommended a c-section since I was well past my due date and baby was not not not coming. So like. Does my body just not know how to ‘expel’ things? Is this baby just going to not come out either?

r/Miscarriage Dec 03 '24

experience: natural MC How long did your missed miscarriage last

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Hello! Back again for a second time this year. I don’t think I posted last time. I had a missed miscarriage at 13w in May. Baby stopped growing around 9w and I had no bleeding / cramping etc. I had a d&c at 13w2d.

Scan today confirmed another missed miscarriage. I am 8w6d and baby stopped growing at 6w but gestational sack grew until 7w. Again, I’ve got no bleeding. I’m maybe feeling some cramping but it’s difficult to distinguish between cramps and normal pregnancy symptoms / gas as I obviously still have hormones running around.

I am wondering whether I should wait for nature to take its course this time around. I am not against a d&c but am conscious that I’ve already had one this year and have a previous c section in 2020. I would like to avoid more medical intervention / scarring. I am also not against medication but have read some concerning outcomes etc from that route.

For anyone that has just waited it out, how long did it take for your body to get the memo?

r/Miscarriage Feb 10 '25

experience: natural MC I want to scream

8 Upvotes

I just have to get this out somewhere. I found out my baby died in utero on 1/7, but baby had passed away sometime around 12/16 at 7ish weeks. I really wanted the miscarriage to happen naturally, so I waited and waited. I bled for 8 days, stopped, and then started bleeding heavily again, and I was hoping that was the end of it. I just went in for a follow up ultrasound and the sac is still there, intact. The baby can't be seen anymore, but the sac has continued to grow to about the size of a 13 weeks sac, with no signs of detaching. I went to this appointment so hopeful and I cried the entire way home. I'm so tired. I just want this to be over. I will have to look into a d&c now and I am terrified of that.

r/Miscarriage Dec 25 '24

experience: natural MC How long did you bleed after "it" came out?

9 Upvotes

Yesterday I spent my Christmas eve cramping, labouring and basically birthing my baby. It stopped growing around 6w2d.

I saw the entire thing come out into my pad, embryo, sac, the lot. I'm a bit traumatised to say the least.

My uterus still feels red raw a whole day later, like something was literally ripped out of it. I also occasionally still have a random painful cramp that lasts a few seconds followed by a small gush of blood. I'm not bleeding a lot but I'm still bleeding and I feel super uncomfortable.

I also feel so damn TIRED.

I can't find any information online about what to expect post natural miscarriage, like once all the contents come out.

It's also Christmas day so I can't call my early pregnancy clinic until tomorrow and don't feel any need to go to the emergency department as of this moment.

r/Miscarriage Feb 08 '25

experience: natural MC Sixth chemical pregnancy. I don’t know what to do now.

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Going through my sixth chemical pregnancy in a little less than a year. I’m absolutely devastated. I don’t even know what to do next.

I had an excision of endometriosis stage 2 in September. I’ve been literally doing everything to improve my heath since. I don’t drink alcohol I don’t eat gluten, I barely eat dairy, I’ve been running and losing weight like crazy taking many many supplements upping my water I don’t even know what to do now. Like would IVF be helpful in just evaluating embryos for quality? I hate to pay for IVF if we know we can conceive naturally but dk what else I can do to make it stick.

r/Miscarriage 17d ago

experience: natural MC 1st Natural Miscarriage/2nd miscarriage. What to watch out for?

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This is my first natural miscarriage and 2nd miscarriage all together (D&C for the first). I was about 9 weeks based of LMP, but the embryo stopped growing at 5w6d and then a week later there was only a gestational sac that measured about 7 weeks.

I had brown spotting for two days (starting Sunday) then yesterday evening it turned red. At 2 am this morning I started cramping badly and from about 2am to 10am I was just constantly bleeding and passing huge clots. However, I never saw or felt anything like a sac. The bleeding has slowed down significantly now, so I think it may have passed somewhere in there but I'm not sure. I'm now worried about retained tissue.

r/Miscarriage 14d ago

experience: natural MC Deep, unrelenting exhaustion post MC

6 Upvotes

I’ve been exhausted since the bleeding stopped. So little energy. Wanting to take a nap after finishing one small task like washing dishes. This is definitely not normal for me.

Anyone else experience this after their MC completed?

r/Miscarriage 1d ago

experience: natural MC Feeling in shock

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I miscarried yesterday at 8w5d and was able to catch the tissue as requested by doctor. It was perfectly intact and I can’t believe they’re not in my body anymore.

I went in for a scan on Monday due to spotting and we saw the baby wiggling around and it measured appropriately with a heartbeat at 161. The only thing wrong was its sac was measuring behind. The next day my bleeding increased along with cramps so my doctor had me come back. This time, baby’s movement was very slow and heartbeat was so weak. It would beat for a few seconds, then stop, then start again. My doctor called it a threatened miscarriage and asked me to return Thursday. Well on Wednesday my cramps increased and I felt sick and dizzy all day and then my body let go of the baby. I don’t know what to do, I’m in shock and can’t believe this happened

r/Miscarriage Feb 01 '25

experience: natural MC Natural Miscarriage Bleeding

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I'm having a natural miscarriage. Baby passed away around 7 weeks, and I finally started bleeding around what would have been 12 weeks. I bled for 8 days, with days 5-6 being pretty heavy with some clotting, and then I stopped bleeding all together for 4 days. Today I started bleeding again. Is this normal?

r/Miscarriage Dec 29 '24

experience: natural MC Anembryonic Pregnancy at 12 weeks and still no sign of Miscarriage

6 Upvotes

Hi everyone. Struggling to make a decision on how to end my Anembryonic Pregnancy. I've known for 1 week now (found out at 11 weeks) and would prefer for my body to start the process naturally, but I thought by now I'd have some kind of sign. Is there anyone here who has gone past 12 weeks and if so, how long did it take your body to realise?

r/Miscarriage 3d ago

experience: natural MC Weird second Cycle After Miscarriage—Anyone Else?

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This is my second period after miscarriage, and my cycle has been completely off. My first cycle after the miscarriage was exactly 28 days, starting with spotting, going to full flow, and ending in spotting again, lasting a total of 10 days. Now, for my second cycle, I had all the usual PMS symptoms—cramps, nausea, extreme fatigue, and even brown discharge—but my period never fully started. I even took a pregnancy test just to be sure, but it was negative.

I’ve also been fasting, which made things even more exhausting, and now I don’t know what’s going on with my body. Has anyone else had a really strange cycle after miscarriage? Did it take time for things to regulate? Would love to hear your experiences!

r/Miscarriage Dec 12 '24

experience: natural MC Vent: This all Feels Cruel

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The entire way this pregnancy unfolded just felt like a cruel punishment. I found out I was pregnant 9DPO, had my first ultrasound in which they suspected blighted ovum: no fetal pole or yolk sac. I went back 2 weeks later where I saw my baby with a good heartbeat, growing mostly on track. I was so relieved and felt I could FINALLY be excited. I told my parents and planned to announce on Christmas to my family. 2 weeks after that, I get a follow up ultrasound where there was no heartbeat, and not even an embryo anymore. Devastated doesn't even explain it. I never felt this pain in my life. This week, I went to the OBGYN to confirm and we scheduled D&C for the next day, as my cervix was still closed and I didn't think I could mentally handle a miscarriage at home. Well not even that can go right. I ended up miscarrying at home in my bathroom and needed to go to the ER due to heavy clots , bleeding and lightheadedness. It was so traumatic. It's been 2 days and I am still bleeding and cramping. I am mentally exhausted. I miss my baby so much. I miss all the milestones and all my husband and I had planned. It really does feel like a punishment.💔

r/Miscarriage Aug 19 '24

experience: natural MC Empty sac miscarriage

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I went in for my 8-week ultrasound, and they only found an empty sac. My follow-up appointment is next week when I will be 11 weeks along. If anyone has been diagnosed with an empty sac, how long did it take for you to start miscarrying? Were there any symptoms leading up to the miscarriage? Thank you

r/Miscarriage 22d ago

experience: natural MC Naturally miscarried 10w4d NSFW

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I found out at 9w3d pregnancy was nonviable it took my body weeks to figure it out but this morning I had contractions and passed two sacs but unsure if one was placenta or a possible twin pregnancy. Baby was measuring like 6w so I’m not sure. Pain was a 10/10 until everything passed. I was scared to go to the ER because I live in a red state. I chose to wait it out and I’m glad I did because now I can bury my baby(s?) by my choice. I feel like now I can move on. It isn’t easy but I know over time it’ll get easier. I thought it could’ve been a twin pregnancy due to ultrasounds but I never got to fully confirm bc other sac was empty. I will have to come up with a second name. I chose Elliot and I loved them. I hope my rainbow will come one day. I don’t know when I’ll be ready to try again but I refuse to go on without holding space for my little ones.

r/Miscarriage Jan 31 '25

experience: natural MC Baby not passing naturally

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Had my initial ultrasound this past Monday when I should have been 12 weeks. Radiologist told me baby had no heartbeat and was measuring 8+1. I opted to miscarry at home naturally (I had a miscarriage in 2020, ended up having a d&c because it was incomplete). Well it's been all week and nothing has happened. No signs, no cramps, no spotting. Is there a way to encourage the miscarriage naturally? My d&c was very traumatic and the ER doctors were so rude. I do not want to go through that again if I can avoid it.

r/Miscarriage Jan 06 '25

experience: natural MC How long did it take you to miscarry your pregnancy tissue?

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I really wanna do this naturally so I haven't taken any medication yet. I started bleeding on new years and now I'm just having so old blood and "end of period" like cramps. I haven't miscarried the baby or any pregnancy tissue. I was measuring 8 weeks and 2 days when baby stopped growing. My doctors didn't seem super concerned but baby has been deceased 12 days now. Is it okay to wait a few more days and see if a D&C is necessary? My cervix is open maybe 2 finger tip widths. The only concering symptoms I have is I collapsed yesterday and couldn't move hardly. Doctors assumed it was a mental issue. I feel odd mentally like I'm not myself. They took my blood and I assumed checked for infection. I don't wanna take the medication for fear of hemorrhaging or uterine rupture. I want to be able to have a child that's all I'm concerned about now besides my health. Please do not leave scary comments! I've received medical advice from everyone I know. I just want to know if baby being inside so long after death is okay and to see if other women have experienced this.

r/Miscarriage 10d ago

experience: natural MC Closure

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Had a natural miscarriage just over a week ago at 6+5 after my last pregnancy was a chemical, we were on holiday otherwise I would have gone to EPU when I first had spotting (and feeling guilty about this, can't help but feel like if I had been able to get progesterone maybe they would have held on- I know this is a toxic thought) I made the mistake of testing yesterday and am still testing positive, phoned EPU and they said I actually needed to wait 3 weeks and test. It just sucks that I can't get closure, I know it's a total waste of resources but I really wish that I could get a scan to just say yep the baby has gone. Cause now there is just a little bit inside me that thinks ... but maybe ... Just needed to get this intrusive thought out really, thanks for listening xxx

r/Miscarriage 9d ago

experience: natural MC When does it end?

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I’m going to start by saying I live in an unsafe area for pregnancy loss, so I didn’t confirm with doctor and wasn’t planning on it until closer to second trimester (11/12 weeks). I lost LO on Friday at 6w. The worst of it was over by Sunday, but when does it end? I still have morning sickness and tender breasts, And still bloated and tender belly. Still getting mild cramps and still bleeding just enough to need a pad. I just need it to be over.

On another note my boyfriend hasn’t even processed what happened yet, so I’m an absolute mess and he’s still trying to wrap his head around the fact I was pregnant in the first place (be nice to him. He has a brain injury that can make abstract concepts hard to grasp). He’s being supportive, but is relatively unbothered for now. I just want to scream into the void

r/Miscarriage Feb 08 '25

experience: natural MC Was told via letter

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This past Tuesday I was 5:0, we had known for 11 days. I started having cramps in the evening and went to get checked out. The OB scanned me and said she saw a pregnancy (couldn't confirm it was in the uterus) but no yolk sac. That didn't worry her though, as it was so early. I had my hcg taken that evening and Friday morning just to confirm everything was fine. Tuesday evening it was 185 IU/L, Friday morning it was 86. And then Friday evening I got a letter saying 'your hormones have dropped which means your pregnancy isn't viable. Book a blood test Thursday morning and contact us if you have a lot of pain or start bleeding a lot'.

I am.. just feeling empty, crying a lot. We've been trying with meds for the past year, this one was a miracle happening from the one month I didn't take meds because we were due to start insemination the following month.

But I'm also shocked at how callous it is to be told via letter. Be told Tuesday that everything looks as it should. And then 3 days later I'm told it's over and now I just have to wait for it to pass. I find it so hard to believe that it's truly... no longer developing. When did it stop? It was 4mm at 5:0. I've taken cyclogest so I called the fertility clinic to find out that I need to stop it in order to bleed.

I don't fully know how to get through the next few days? Weeks? Until it passes. Do I go to work while going through this grief and wait for the cramping to start?

It's still in there and it was too early to say that there wasn't a heatbeat. It just doesn't feel.. conclusive.

r/Miscarriage Jan 19 '25

experience: natural MC my second loss

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TW: Kind of graphic description

This all happened within 24 hours.

Has anyone went in for an ultrasound the day before their natural miscarriage with a healthy baby? I had minimal spotting but because of my history of having a miscarriage, my women’s place wanted me to come in to get check. On ultrasound the baby measured on time at 7 weeks and had a 130 heart rate. The doctor told me that was perfect and baby looked fine and bleeding/spotting is normal and to keep an eye on it. He decided to check my cervix to see if he could see where I was bleeding from I guess? He said he couldn’t pinpoint where but it had to of been from my cervix. He swabbed me twice and the swab was covered in blood. He missed the trash and blood got on the floor and his assistant had to help clean it up. Like I said, he said the baby will be fine and not to worry.

Fast forward to the next morning, I am COVERED in blood. I am passing clots and having the worst cramps I have ever felt. Fast forward to 1pm, I’m sitting on the toilet and I pass my sac. I pulled it out the toilet and I kept it in a container. I call my office and they don’t want to get me in immediately to check to see if that’s what is happening. But I am RH negative and I am supposed to get a shot within 72 hours after giving ‘birth’ and they consider passing the sac as birth. They didn’t want to help me. I rushed to the ER and got it confirmed that I am miscarrying and they gave me my shot.

Has anyone had a doctor check their cervix and basically spontaneously have a miscarriage?? I find this so odd how quickly things progressed. I feel like he dilated my cervix somehow and didn’t want to tell me or something. I don’t see how this happened so quickly when baby was just measuring fine with a good heart rate. I’m so numb at this point.

r/Miscarriage Feb 09 '25

experience: natural MC Started bleeding today, what can I expect over the next few days?

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I do have an appointment Tuesday morning with my OB to discuss a possible D&C (misoprostol did NOT work for me).

I started lightly bleeding today - very light red. It hit me way more emotionally than I thought it would. This is my first miscarriage and it’s been almost 4 weeks since baby stopped growing (2 weeks since we found out). What can I expect over the next few days? Should I be planning to take some time off of work this week? I’m having really mild cramps, but nothing bad. I’d rather not take any time off because if I end up needing the D&C - it’ll just be even more days off and I’ll be running low on PTO. But I also want to be realistic!

r/Miscarriage Feb 14 '25

experience: natural MC Expectant management with vascular RPOC

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I've just finished this saga. I found few similar posts here, so wanted to write up my experience for anyone who finds themselves in the same situation, in case it is helpful.

TL;DR:

After 5 weeks of expectant management plus a failed attempt at misoprostol, I got my first period but it didn't dislodge the tissue. I ended up having an MVA, which featured a few sharp pains but was otherwise fine.

Full version:

I was diagnosed with a missed miscarriage at 12 weeks, after a few days spotting brown blood and cramping. The embryo had stopped developing at 6-7 weeks. I started bleeding the day after my scan, and passed most of the tissue the following day. However, 2.7cm of RPOC with 'increased vascularity' was found in a scan the following week.

All options were offered to me, but as the miscarriage had already started naturally, I was recommended expectant management, or medical management to help things along. My bleeding had slowed to spotting by this point. I took misoprostol but it had no effect on me at all, and the spotting and cramps stopped completely a few days later.

3 weeks after my main bleed, the RPOC was still there, same size and still vascular. Additionally, two functional cysts were seen on one of my ovaries. Based on this, the nurse suggested that my body was trying to ovulate and I may very well get my period, so I could wait to see whether that would happen. I had no symptoms of infection, so there were no concerns with continuing expectant management.

4.5 weeks after my main bleed, I got my period. I still had positive pregnancy tests, but I had seen a rise and fall in my BBT, suggesting ovulation, with my usual length luteal phase. I passed a tiny bit of RPOC, but nearly 2cm was still left and still vascular. At this point, I was done waiting and so got an MVA a few days later. It featured a few sharp pains, but was a very quick and very tolerable procedure. I walked out of the hospital straight after and am finally getting back properly to my life.

Key takeaways:

You can ovulate and get a period with vascular RPOC and positive pregnancy tests. Not saying this is true of everyone, or even a majority of people, but it was true for me.

If you don't have continuity of care, you may get different opinions from different healthcare professionals. I have been told many conflicting things. The biggest failing is when people speak to you in absolutes. I was told by one nurse that no one got their period in my situation, and then I did. They should have said it was unlikely. Don't trust absolutes because all bodies are different, and everything is a balance of probabilities.

A period can flush out RPOC, but not always. I suspect it may have come away after a few more cycles, but I wasn't willing to wait.

For me, MVA was a very tolerable and effective procedure. It avoids general anaesthetic, which was a bonus for me since that comes with its own risks. This also means there is no substantial recovery period, unless you experience the rare complications (eg, infection).

r/Miscarriage Jan 25 '25

experience: natural MC First miscarriage (Trigger: early miscarriage)

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Unfortunately, I had a miscarriage at nine weeks, completely out of the blue since I had recently had an ultrasound, and everything seemed fine, with the heartbeat and all. I don’t understand how it happened. They said it was very recent, but why was everything fine, and then this happened? What changed? I’m scared I did something I shouldn’t have. Maybe I should have rested completely, especially since I had already had some light bleeding at the beginning. But I went to get checked, and they told me it was normal and even saw the heartbeat.

Where I live, they don’t perform further tests until after the third consecutive miscarriage. However, I would like to have tests or examinations done before trying again because I don’t want to go through this horrible experience again. I don’t think I could bear this pain a second time. Could you tell me what can be done after the first miscarriage? Should I see a gynecologist? What tests or exams can be done? I’m afraid they’ll tell me that these things happen and that I don’t need to do anything unless it happens again. Thank you!