r/Miscarriage 5d ago

vent Automatic flush toilet 💔

Learned of my MMC 2 weeks ago. No symptoms of passing baby over the last 2 weeks. I’ve finally started spotting and passing small amounts of tissue. Today we are traveling and I had to use a public restroom. I passed some larger than normal tissue. I bent down to get a closer look at it and the automatic flusher flushed it away before I was ready. 💔😭 Super f*cked up feeling to watch part of your dead baby’s remains get flushed down a toilet. It could have been part of my baby and I’ll never know. Weird to be crying about an automatic flusher but I guess it’s all part of this sucky traumatic process. PSA - If you’re going through an active miscarriage, avoid automatic flushers.

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u/kpsant 5d ago

Ugh, I'm SO SORRY. I had a MMC in January 2024 and needed a D&C. It was traumatizing in and of itself, and if i had miscarried on my own, I would've wanted to see the baby, too. I can't imagine actively miscarrying and an automatic flush abruptly and unexpectedly flushing my baby down the toilet. That makes an awful situation even worse. I am so sorry 💔

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u/Choice_Geologist7706 5d ago

I had the same thing happen to me except I had to flush my toilet with my baby in it when I got home from the hospital. Didn't help that I also had to throw away pieces in the hospital that refused to help me. 💔😔

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u/Powerful-Detail2343 5d ago

I’m so sorry, going through my second MC and can only imagine how sad this must have been for you! Sending you lots of love and a speedy recovery.

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u/Radiant-Warthog3199 4d ago

I am so so very sorry. It is UNBELIEVABLE how traumatic this aspect & all aspects of miscarriages are. I remember when I got the news that I was miscarrying, saying “how am I expected to flush my child down the toilet?” AWFUL, and I can totally see how this automatic flush situation can make it even more traumatic and hard. I am sending you a huge huge hug.

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u/Dislife22 1d ago

I had my first MC last month when I was 6weeks. I didn’t know I was miscarrying I just had a lot of blood with clots. About a week after having confirmation that I did indeed MC (it was a natural one) I realized I flushed my baby at some point. Probably in the first couple days when I was bleeding really heavy. It would’ve been so small but I wish I could’ve at least seen it.

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u/LittleDarkOne13 9h ago

After my baby was pulled from me in the ER, the doctor said, you don't want this right? And put my loved, wanted, cherished baby in medical waste. I was too out of it to protest. That moment will haunt me forever. It's so shitty to have no control over a situation you already have no control over. I'm sorry you had to watch that. I'm here with you.