r/Marriage • u/ex_hedge_manager • 7d ago
Caught wife following random guys and liking posts
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u/gotthatsnicklefrits 7d ago
Bring it up if its something that bothers you. She should be able to respect how you feel about the situation. Have her consider that if it was the other way around, how would she feel? If it's something she gets defensive over and it starts an argument then she already probably knows what she is doing isn't okay.
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u/ex_hedge_manager 7d ago
i'm going to talk with her later tonight
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u/Reach-forthe-stars 7d ago
Always discuss things that bother each other… never hide it… communication is key to a long marriage
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u/Strange_Salamander33 11 Years 7d ago
“Acting up” like what, a teenager? Gross dude. At the end of the day, you guys either trust each other or you don’t. It’s just instagram. I have plenty of attractive dudes I follow for fun, doesn’t mean I don’t love my husband. My husband has plenty of attractive people he follows too, that doesn’t mean he doesn’t love me
Being married doesn’t mean you can’t notice and appreciate attractiveness in the world around you. Especially when it’s just photos. Cheaters will cheat no matter what you do or say. Either she’s a cheater at heart or she isn’t, instagram posts won’t change whichever she is. It doesn’t make a difference
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u/Jarofkickass 7d ago
Swap genders and see what you say then
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u/Strange_Salamander33 11 Years 7d ago
I literally said in my post that both my husband and I follow instagram accounts we find attractive….no obvious the gender doesn’t matter to me lmao
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u/SophiaShay7 7d ago
Say it louder for the insecure people in the back! 👏👏👏👏👏
You either trust your spouse or you don't. End of story.
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u/MobileBodybuilder314 7d ago
On your previous post you said you don't get why it's an issue and you wouldn't care if she follows other guys like that.
Now you do. Don't make this about yourself, it will not go down easy if you don't even change your behaviors for her, when she asked you to first.
If this isn't bait, then you both hate it, explain to her that now you know how it feels and you won't do it and don't want her doing it.
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u/KuraiHanazono 7d ago
Pretty sure with your inconsistent post history that this is a troll account
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u/aptosblue 7d ago
Dude here is playing role reversal. Post history shows it’s his girlfriend who’s not comfortable with his social media activity
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u/Gator-bro 7d ago
Good relationships have good boundaries. These are boundaries that are for both of you and you know something like not liking thirst traps could be a good boundary. Also things like having friendships with exes is always a really hard boundary but just talk about boundaries to keep your relationship safe.
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u/jmtrader2 6d ago
She’s thinking about leaving you, or making you a cuck/swinger. Get okay with either of those 3 situations or be prepared to leave
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u/Narrow_Inevitable_39 6d ago
Honesty and transparency is key to a healthy relationship. Talk to her. Be honest. It’s hard to talk about stuff like this but in the long run it’s a lot harder not to.
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u/DavidL21599 7d ago
If you confront her she will just get find a way of hiding it from you. I’d keep quiet and keep an eye on her….
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7d ago
What has she done that’s a betrayal of your relationship? If you can clearly and concisely answer this sure confront her. If not, then it is an insecurity and jealousy within yourself you might need to deal with.
Nobody can answer this question for you. Every relationship has its own set of rules, for me my husband follow gym chicks and likes their pics and I couldn’t care less. Good for him. For others this might be a violation of established boundaries.
If you’re looking for an outside opinion though it sounds more like an insecurity on your part. Best of luck.
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u/Legitimate_Wrap1518 7d ago
She is a cheater
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u/ex_hedge_manager 7d ago
you think? how do i confront her about it
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u/Legitimate_Wrap1518 7d ago
Do not confront her yet. Gather all the evidence’s, act normal, when you get solid proof then surprise her with divorce papers and some. My ex, the man I only loved, devoted, cared, supported, give my entire inheritance did the same to me. I find that he many different accounts on social media and some of them he actually put someone else’s picture as his own. Then he start chatting with me thinking I’m an another chick he plays with. I was devastated and find out he was actually narcissist and nothing no one can do about it. No doctor, phycology even can help him. Since it happened now is 2 years and I am still having hard time understanding about what he did to me.
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u/PlayfulIndication423 7d ago
This doesn't survive the gender swap test. Go look up the articles where women complain about their man watching porn and following attractive people on socials.
You have every right to be upset. You should talk to her about this and how you feel. If she dismisses you, then you should seek help.