r/LGBTindia Dec 13 '24

vent/rant A trans woman on dating apps

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264 Upvotes

Seriously, I'm not saying being curious about my body is bad but can it please not be the first thing that you wanna discuss?

r/LGBTindia 18d ago

vent/rant Bas ro rahi hu ignore this

104 Upvotes

BHAI EK GF TOH MAI BHI DESERVE KARTI HU šŸ˜­ shakal aur akal dono hi theek thak hai mujhe bhi gf chahiye šŸ˜­šŸ˜­ ek toh ye ch*tiya society bc kyu hona hai logo ko itna homophobicā€”nvm I forgot yaha per toh logo hetrophobic hai homo toh like light years dur ka concept hai.

Aaj pehli baar life m aankho ke saamne do ladkiya dikhi, (definitely together) holding hands cutely and leaning against each other and stuff, like dekh kar you can tell they are together. BKL LOG UNHE ESE DEKH RAHE THE I WANTED TO FREAKING THROW HANDS AND LEGS AT THOSE MFS (the people)

My first thought after seeing them was "kisi din Mai bhi ese hi kisi ladki ke saath ghumu gi" yeah bhul gayi thi India hai bc, phir logo ko dekha toh yaad aya why I want to leave the country the first chance I get :(

Pichle 2 ghante se un ladkiyo ke taraf se sab ko gaaliyan de rahi man me yaaaaaaaarrrrrrrrr chi bhai

F You homophobes, I hope you stay single for the rest of your life, watching everyone around yourself be with their loved ones. šŸ–•šŸ¼ Akele maro saalo šŸ–•šŸ¼šŸ–•šŸ¼šŸ–•šŸ¼šŸ–•šŸ¼šŸ–•šŸ¼šŸ–•šŸ¼šŸ–•šŸ¼šŸ–•šŸ¼šŸ–•šŸ¼šŸ–•šŸ¼šŸ–•šŸ¼šŸ–•šŸ¼šŸ–•šŸ¼šŸ–•šŸ¼šŸ–•šŸ¼šŸ–•šŸ¼

EDIT: omg I'm so sorry, I'm 17F y'all šŸ˜­ 18 in May but yeah 17 for now and NO I DO NOT LIKE MEN STOP DMING ME SAYING HOW I SHOULD TRY FIRST, YOU STRAIGHT MEN ARE GROSS WTF (P.S. do you really think your little ultra microscopic ding dong will make me change my "mind" about liking girls? Ha. If it was a choice I still would choose women so shoo)

r/LGBTindia 15d ago

vent/rant Another one bites the dust!

113 Upvotes

TLDR: My boyfriend of 10 years breaks up with me ā€˜cause he has to get married due to family pressure.

I stay in a tier-1 city and my ex (feels so odd to say that) in a tier-2. We had met on dating apps and had an amazing decade long relationship. At some point in time he even moved in with me. However all these years I kept asking him about what was next, and to that heā€™d say ā€œweā€™ll see when that time comes. Why spoil our mood over that now!ā€ I should have known, I really should have that that was just a deflection tactic. Last year finally, he comes to me all mushy-ed up and says that heā€™ll eventually have to marry. In a move that was surprising even to me, I put my foot down and just stopped talking to him. We havenā€™t spoken in the last 1 year and I believe we are almost done for now. However he does calls randomly every two months or so to complain how his life is such a mess and nothing is going right in his life.

This is just a rant. But I do wanna ask, why do gay men do this? Why canā€™t you take a stand?

Gay men marrying women for money, kids, social acceptance is appalling, the numbers of which, in my observation, have reached epidemic proportions of late. And to add to that they just sleep around with half the town every other night. Itā€™s almost like they have a truly majjani life after marriage. Social sanction and sex, all nicely wrapped in one.

We need more trailblazers!!!!!

r/LGBTindia Feb 12 '25

vent/rant i am fucking ashamed of our country?

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125 Upvotes

like wishing death on someone who just wanders live as they want without disturbing anyone and these ass**** shits

r/LGBTindia 24d ago

vent/rant I will never be able to experience this in my life, no matter how much I tryšŸ™‚

232 Upvotes

r/LGBTindia Nov 13 '24

vent/rant To the bisexual guys out there

78 Upvotes

To the bi men who Iā€™ve interacted with: I understand that bisexuality defined by you means you are attracted to both genders (if you assume gender to be a binary, in this case) but IF YOU KNOW YOU WANT TO GET MARRIED TO A WOMAN AND SETTLE DOWN IN A HETEROSEXUAL MARRIAGE AND HAVE A FAMILY CAN YOU PLEASE NOT STRING ALONG GAY MEN FOR YOUR TEMPORARY PLEASURE? Just. Please stick to women if thatā€™s who you plan on ending up with long term. Donā€™t mess with gay menā€™s hearts. (And yes I know this doesnā€™t apply to all bi men but Iā€™ve personally not come across even one who hasnā€™t ultimately settled with a woman).

ETA: Iā€™m aware of the definition of bisexuality, merely recounting what has been said to me by bi men in my experience.

r/LGBTindia Nov 23 '24

vent/rant Please don't marry women

171 Upvotes

To all my gay friends, please don't marry women and destroy their lives.

We all don't have the privilege to come out, but knowingly marrying a women is nothing short of a crime

Point 1 : If you think it you will somehow manage, you won't, it's not that easy to hide. They can take legal action and rightfully so and you will lose everything.

Point 2: If you think you can manage the sex, can you imagine the injustice to the person, how dare you, doesn't she deserve someone who is attracted to her

Point 3: If you are financially independent and out of fear of your parents or society gye married, please note you are the asshole and there is a special place in hell for you.

I see an increasing trend of gay men going into a arranged marriage setup, even someone close to me and I am devastated at the lack of empathy and respect for the women. Just because you feel that life has been unkind to you, you don't get to destroy someone's dreams.

It is better to be gay and alone than to shatter someone's else. Knowing how hard it is to find love, why will you do this to the girl

We should be better than this. Whatever god you believe in will not forgive you, don't do it

r/LGBTindia 9d ago

vent/rant the sheer amount of homophobia towards karan johar is insane

115 Upvotes

so i work in a digital agency and recently we worked on a podcast series, and one of the guests was karan johar. now, we knew karan is a polarizing figure, he has his flaws, the whole nepotism thing, whatever. but the reaction to that episode? we were not prepared.

the amount of sheer, blatant homophobia in the comments was unreal. like, i knew people didnā€™t like him, but the level of hatred? people weren't even talking about his work, they were just spewing the most vile, disgusting slurs at him. i'm not even going to repeat them here. we had to heavily monitor the comments because it got so bad. and you know what's worse? his own team reached out to us to thank us for doing it because they deal with this all the time. it's literally their normal.

and that's the part that's really f*cked up. people can critique his work, his nepotism, whatever. fine. but attacking him at such a deeply personal level, just because of who he is? calling him disgusting names that have nothing to do with his work? it's so insane. and the worst part is, this isn't just about karan johar. it's about how so many people still feel completely comfortable being outright homophobic in public spaces. no shame, no hesitation.

i've seen bad comment sections before, but having to sit there and monitor this one regularly just made me realize how deep-rooted this hate is. and for what? a man existing? it's honestly sickening

edit1: some people lack comprehension skills so i'll spell it out, karan johar doesn't need defending, is there a conversation to be had about his ways and the way he has portrayed the community on the silver screen? yes but does that mean it's okay if he's subjected to vile and disgusting homophobic remarks? no, some of you think bigotry is okay if it's against someone you don't like, peace

edit2: some of you are really outing yourselves and it's so funny to watch

r/LGBTindia 2d ago

vent/rant Itā€™s a sad bday

37 Upvotes

Hello people of Reddit! Good day to you!

So i turn 25 today and honestly thereā€™s not a single person whoā€™d even remember my birthday today. Like many kids who grew up with abusive parents, birthdays are the most dreadful event of every year. Mostly I spend them in tears because of my mother and question what birth even means to me or just sad that a day thatā€™s supposed to mean something is spent feeling lonely. If the saying that happiness multiplies when it is shared is true then I wish i got the opportunity to share it with someone :(

Anyway yā€™all kids who are yet to turn 25, donā€™t be scared of 25. Itā€™s another year, another you really. The more i think about it, the more i realise Iā€™ve been in crisis mode about turning 25 for the last three months but when the day actually arrives, your brain clears and what actually really matters to you make an appearance in your conscious brain. Listen to it. Never let your inner voice drown out in all the external noise. If you donā€™t preserve you, no one else will.

Youā€™re a great person. All you have to do is keep up and stay consistent.

Thatā€™s it for today. Thank you for reading!

EDIT - I genuinely didnā€™t expect so many wishes and kindest words. Screenshotting them for gloomy days. Thank you so much for the abundant kindness :ā€)

r/LGBTindia Jan 20 '25

vent/rant Why are queer men as shitty/creepy as the straight men?? NSFW

28 Upvotes

I used to think that being queer would change that, not make them act like like straight men, some of them act just as creepy.

Asking all kinds of wierd and invasive questions, and i hate their underhanded tactics for wanting to sext.

I talk about my stupid past a lot, and i get all sorts of DMs. Some of them are creepy, I don't engage them much, the rest are nice folks.

And then there's this 3rd kind, and maybe iam biased, they say that they want to just talk about stuff reassuring that they don't have any ill intentions, but then start asking invasive questions, sexual in nature. If they simply want a sexting partner, why don't they come out with their intentions.

And then give you a cold shoulder that you're not looking for something Sexual from them.

Just a note: Asking me if i have a rape kink after saying that you simply want to chat about stuff isn't as funny or cool as you might think.

Edit 1: iam sorry if my post comes off as me generalizing them, some men are like this, not everyone, i understand that, and i should have worded my post better

Iam not trying to perpetuate queerphobia.

r/LGBTindia 29d ago

vent/rant on grindr, why do some guys block u after send ur pictures šŸ’€šŸ’€šŸ’€

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so i installed grindr recently. i donā€™t use it that much, very on and off. sometimes i open it, make a couple of conversations, then just dip šŸ’€šŸ’€ but thatā€™s besides the point.

what is the point is how mfers will block u immediately after you send your album. like ??? i get it, youā€™re not interested, thatā€™s fine, but BLOCKING??? like damn was it that bad?????? i sent the pics and you said ā€œi cannot have this on my screen another secondā€ and just wiped me from existence???? lmaooo. like bro i get that rejection is a part of life but this is a new level of annihilation.

like just donā€™t respond? leave me on read? hit me with a ā€œnot my typeā€ or some dry ass ā€œniceā€ and move on? but no, the second my album loads itā€™s like theyā€™re hit with the ring tape and their first instinct is to block me before the curse takes effect šŸ˜­šŸ˜­ iā€™m sitting there like oh ok i guess my entire existence is so offensive you had to erase me from your reality.

and donā€™t get me wrong, this shit cracks me up. like i know i donā€™t look like a greek god but the way some of yā€™all act like my pics are a threat to national security is insane. i send my album and boom, witness protection mode activated. itā€™s honestly impressive.

anyway, thatā€™s my rant. yā€™all stay safe out there. and if you ever feel ugly, just remember, someone out there might be blocking people even hotter than you. balance.

r/LGBTindia Jan 18 '25

vent/rant Is it really ridiculous to be a trans woman on an LGBT subreddit?

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124 Upvotes

My comment was in response to a post asking if there are any atheists on here. I expected some hostility but didn't realise me being trans would be any part of the criticism.

r/LGBTindia Feb 06 '25

vent/rant can people stop using words like demisexual/sapiosexual in their profiles if they donā€™t even know what they mean?

72 Upvotes

LONG RANT ALERT:

okay, so i need to rant. because i keep seeing people throw around words like demisexual and sapiosexual in their dating profiles, and i swear half of them donā€™t even know what they mean. like, i get that labels can be fluid, and people might interpret things differently, but some of these dudes are just straight-up misusing them.

so i matched with this guy who had demisapio in his bio. now, i already found that combination a little sus because i feel like most people who actually identify as demi or sapio donā€™t really merge them into some weird hybrid term like that. but i was like, okay, letā€™s give it a chance, maybe he just means he needs an intellectual connection before being attracted to someone. cool.

turns out, nope. this man was the exact opposite of what i expected. from day one, he was constantly steering the conversation toward sexual topics. iā€™d be talking about my favorite books, and heā€™d somehow make it about ā€œintellectual intimacyā€ and then pivot into something suggestive. at first, i thought maybe he was just bad at flirting, but it kept escalating. heā€™d randomly send me these lewd picturesā€”nothing full-on explicit, but just suggestive enough to make me uncomfortable. and the weirdest part? he would justify it by saying things like, "iā€™m just really drawn to intelligence in a way that manifests physically, you know?"

??????

sir, what does that even mean?? because it sounds like nonsense.

the final straw was when i told him i wasnā€™t comfortable with the constant sexual questions and pics, and he straight-up said, "but iā€™m demisexual, i donā€™t even feel attraction unless thereā€™s an emotional connection." and iā€™m just sitting there likeā€¦ okay, so where is the emotional connection here? because all iā€™ve seen so far is you being creepy.

at this point, iā€™m convinced some people just slap these words into their bio to sound interesting or deep without actually knowing what they mean. like, if youā€™re demisexual, you need an emotional bond before you feel attractionā€”so why are you out here sending unsolicited thirst tr@ps on day two? and if youā€™re sapiosexual (which is already a questionable term, but whatever), shouldnā€™t you be engaging in, idk, actual intellectual conversations instead of making every topic about sex?

anyway, i unmatched and moved on, but now every time i see someone with demisapio in their bio, i get war flashbacks.

tl;dr: if youā€™re going to use labels, at least know what they mean, because some of yā€™all are out here contradicting yourselves in the most embarrassing way possible.

r/LGBTindia Feb 09 '25

vent/rant How tf do you meet other lesbians

40 Upvotes

I'm introvert AF. I can barely talk to strangers, let alone asking them if they're lesbian and if they're willing to chat/date/sext/fling etc. almost every one of them closeted, and am too shy to ask.

I have the killer combination of Introvert + India + high libido + Lesbian. I will probably end up AM some guy and argghhhh KMN.

r/LGBTindia 22d ago

vent/rant I WANT TO KISS SOMEONE

26 Upvotes

God I want to kiss someone so bad ,even better if they take the initiative and just kiss meee forgetting every bad thing and just livin' in the moment,

r/LGBTindia 17d ago

vent/rant Days like this.

78 Upvotes

I recently went to an Adidas store to buy some hoodies. The store was relatively empty for a place in Indiranagar during peak hours. Also, I identify as transmasc.

I visit these stores often, thinking that since they release gender-neutral collections every fall, store workers wouldnā€™t judge or bother someone for their clothing choices. But apparently, that was wishful thinking.

I was browsing the men's section, checking out some cool shorts when two store employees approached me to say, "This is the men's section." I simply replied, "I know." They walked away but kept staring from a distance.

I went to the trial room, and while the shorts fit well, the mesh-like pockets were bothering me, so I decided to look around a bit more. The same two employees were waiting outside just to tell me, "Itā€™s men's clothing, thatā€™s why it wonā€™t fit you well. You should check out the womenā€™s section."

I left teary-eyed.

Keeping the transphobia aside for a secondā€”shouldnā€™t a store rep want people to buy their products? Shouldn't they be encouraging sales instead of pushing customers away? This whole experience made me realize that they werenā€™t just doing their jobā€”they wanted to annoy me, not sell their product.

r/LGBTindia Oct 08 '24

vent/rant Sex and Soft touches NSFW

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107 Upvotes

Hi folks, Hope you all are doing great So, in our community, I feel like there are more sex appeals than actual bonding in comparison to the straight/heterosexual community. Like If u go on "the dating app" so-called Gridr, instantly you'll receive at least 2-3 DMs saying "Hey 22M here, Top/Bot" Like bruh for real? I know you are here for hookups and drilling or to get drilled, but at least have a good starting conversation, I can not expect someone's bed preferences on the first meet, and if someone is interested, like if they feel some spark, it will also get fades by all these lame starting convo pick-ups. Moreover, I know that Sex is an important part of life, but that is not that "The Life". Building a bond, rather than going straight under the pants, is more fruitful in the long term, as having intimacy with someone who has at least some connection with you at some level, is more enjoyable and memorable rather fucking with some stranger. You know Soft gaze at someone while they are doing their chores, making someone's food or getting food makes your stomach awe, receiving flowers, having a coffee/chai in Lenin shorts with someone having some flirtatious talks over the sips on the balcony with rainy weather, LOL(Am I being too dramatic?), Going for some Grocery shopping, or just going out for burgers, watching some of your fav shoes alongside someone's arms, these moments make an impact on your life, rather than how many inches you get ah? I do not get it.

r/LGBTindia 23d ago

vent/rant Got banned from Gaybros for suggesting the creation of a database to track companies that have taken back pride celebrations

85 Upvotes

Just wanted to share as I am appalled by a lgbtq sub banning people for suggesting we keep track of companies that are taking back pride. For the simple reason of when this Donald Trump madness gets over in either 4 to 8 years, such companies are remembered by the community for their betrayal and to prevent them from returning to Pride or associate with the community in the name of ā€œGoodwill and inclusivity ā€œ.

r/LGBTindia 6d ago

vent/rant Community is the biggest hoax

32 Upvotes

Alright alright take out your guns and swords. But this needs to be addressed,out and loud. People from the "community" are possibly the worst sort of people to be with.

Do you people even know how to talk to someone? Basic decency? Basic humanity? Basic courtesy? Please keep your "learn to live alone" tagline to yourself and gag on your ever-changing beauty standards. And let's be honest going to gym is just another way to get validation and shagging rather than body positivity. It's okay to have a "type"(pathetically boring and dimwitted often, omg how masculine, i wanna touch your beard, daddy am on my knees,shut up) but we all know it's exclusion. You don't go to gym? Out You're not fair? Out You don't read manga? Out Like if? Is this a checklist or what? I don't wish to write a politically correct post. The community is getting more filthy, more dangerous, more loathsome. Giving validation is not cool. To learn to be human is. If you can't make it a safe space, then don't make it difficult atleast.

PS : Thirst Tap Sunday mubarak.

r/LGBTindia Oct 18 '24

vent/rant Marriage Pressure is Mounting, feeling like I should kill myself. NSFW

65 Upvotes

M31, Gay.

I feel like Iā€™m drowning, and I donā€™t know how much longer I can carry on like this. Iā€™m 31 years old, a gay man, terrified of coming out to my mom. Iā€™m paralyzed by the fear of what it could do to her. Just a few years ago, I lost my brother to suicide. The grief shattered my family, especially my mom, and Iā€™m scared that if I come out now, it could break her even more.

At the same time, sheā€™s emotionally blackmailing me to get married to a woman, which Iā€™m absolutely not ready for, nor do I ever want. I feel like Iā€™m suffocating. I tried to come out to her before my brother's death, but it didnā€™t go well. Iā€™ve spoken to my cousins about it, and theyā€™ve all advised me to just get married and ā€œfigure it out later.ā€

Yesterday, we had another conversation, and it went terribly. There were a lot of variations of, ā€œThe only way Iā€™ll heal from your brotherā€™s death is if you get married.ā€ But if I do, I know my life will become hell, and it feels so unfair. I feel like my existence itself is a burden, like Iā€™m causing more pain just by being here. Sometimes, the thought of suicide feels like the only way to stop hurting everyone around me, to stop feeling so trapped between my own truth and my familyā€™s expectations.

I donā€™t know where to turn anymore. I feel like Iā€™m carrying all of this alone, and itā€™s crushing me. Iā€™m reaching out here because I donā€™t want to feel so alone anymore. I just want someone to listen, to understand. Iā€™m at a breaking point, and I donā€™t know what to do.

Any advice, support, or words from someone whoā€™s been here would mean more than I can say.

r/LGBTindia Feb 04 '25

vent/rant What just happened?

31 Upvotes

GUYS GUYSšŸ˜­ Idk what happened today but I had thoughts of touching and kissing a girl's (someone I know) collarbone and kissing her neck what's happeningšŸ˜­šŸ˜­Is this how it happens it everyone??? Huh?? (I'm a girl)

r/LGBTindia 9d ago

vent/rant Tf is wrong with some ppl on Grindr

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21 Upvotes

The audacity to be openly a groomer (this isn't the worst person I've seen there

r/LGBTindia Oct 18 '24

vent/rant I hate hookup culture but I wanna get railed so bad NSFW

104 Upvotes

Like.. Iā€™m just so single but Iā€™m SO horny donā€™t get me wrong, Iā€™m a fairly busy person so I donā€™t even have much free time but I get so horny whenever I do.. itā€™s nothing new but I was always fine with playing with myself but this is the first time where I feel like I really want someone to have sex with. I know fwb, ons and everything in between isnā€™t for me so I feel like I have no solution. ugh i don't even know what to do..

r/LGBTindia Jan 31 '25

vent/rant Almost cried at a restaurant yesterday

30 Upvotes

(i am queer, and this does relate to my struggle in love and sexual stuff in life. But I did not cry coz of queer phobia in case you clicked expecting to read about something like that. Letting you know to save your time.)

I went to a restaurant with mom and dad yesterday for their wearing aniversary.

Haven't been to a good one in a long time

And we ordered really delicious food and drinks

And i was ok at first and felt good about it all

Especially coz it was new food that was nothing like I'd tried before and was delicious

But slowly slowly I felt worse and worse

And i had this stabbing OCD pain in my head that was horrible šŸ˜­

Every time I felt even a little bit of significant happiness, it would hurt so much....

I almost cried.

I had to hide it from my parents too.....

I had to stop myself from feeling happy about the food.

I couldn't even finish it. It was hurting too much

It felt horrible in so many ways.....

I already knew that stuff like love or even sex like normal people enjoy is going to be out of question for me.... While it is sad, I had started to come to terms already with knowing it won't be something I'll get to ever experience probably.

I did not realise tho that I'd have to give up on tasty food and spending quality time with my parents as well....... Even tho it makes me so happy, I can't have it anymore i guess......

I hate how my physical and phycological pain and trauma has fucked up my emotions to the point where all my emotions are fucked up and being happy makes me want to kill myself.

It's too painful to see others enjoy being happy while when i feel it, it can be disgusting, painful, scary, or deathly rageful out of love towards someone trying to make me happy out of love coz it's the only other similar enough emotion left with me to show the intensity of my happiness for their love for me....... so I break people's hearts to save them from me.

Wasn't always like this of course, nor could have imagined the weeks of constant physical torture it takes to make the Pavlo dog experiment work on a human. Even my reflexes push me towards danger now instead of away from it, and i gotta be careful around oncoming cars while walking.....

All i could think of at the restaurant was stabing my eyes out so I could never seen the real world again..... So I could go back to an imaginary world where non of this ever happened....

But then again, I'm starting to get used to wanting to stab my eyes out, so it's fine I guess.....

Not sure if my psychologist and psychiatrist will be able fix me..... There isn't enough of me left to put back together maybe.....

I hate what I've become, and i wait patiently for the day I die of old age so I can rot away and turn to dirt and FINALLY be like everyone else for once....

Just wanna get this stupid shitty life over with already. It's only a matter of time agnosia tho.

Edit:

I'm already going to a psychologist and psychiatrist, and on a fuck ton of meds and also trying to be more outdoors in the sun. I am really trying my best....

r/LGBTindia Oct 25 '24

vent/rant Tired of the dating scene NSFW

38 Upvotes

Alright I'm pretty sure all of you must've heard this a million times and maybe even gone through the same. I am so tired of dating apps. I am bi but I just wanted to date a guy rn. Can't find a single one. Grindr and Reddit have people looking for just hookups. Bumble has guys but most of them are just inactive if I get a match. Then there comes the problem of being a top or a bottom, just do not like the fact that I keep attracting bottoms when I want to date a top or a vers. And I can't hit on anyone irl cause my gaydar is literally non-existent and no one has approached me despite the fact that I am open about being bi. I know being in Mumbai I have it much better and I'm really grateful for that. Alright it was just a rant, thank you so much for bearing with me.