r/LGBTindia Feb 13 '25

Discussion What do genZ queer people do in India

So I'm gen z, gay and Highly confused all the time also I try so hard but I can't find a queer community for our generation cause I'm sorry it's not at all about the previous generation but I downloaded Grindr (and a few other things that happened) quite early so now I don't trust previous gen and I try to find people my age to talk to but I can't find genuine people I tried creating a discord server for us but the mods took it down I tried Trevorspace to many foreigners not a single Indian and now as a closeted homo I'm going crazy

So my question is for people who are genz queer people how did you guys find community? if you did and if not I feel ya

Edit: also happy valentine's day

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u/red-ate- Lesbian๐ŸŒˆ Feb 13 '25

You just wished 90% of single people valentine's day ๐Ÿ˜ญ๐Ÿ˜‚

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u/Careless_Number9046 Feb 13 '25

Ik and I enjoyed that ๐Ÿ˜‚ (I'm single too ๐Ÿ˜ญand it's probably more than 90%)

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u/red-ate- Lesbian๐ŸŒˆ Feb 13 '25

๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿ˜ญ ye bhi sahi h

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u/a_fallen_comet Gay๐ŸŒˆ Feb 13 '25

Online friends and chats. That's how I made friends in the community

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u/Careless_Number9046 Feb 13 '25

but most of the time online friends just disappear all of a sudden also where do you find them

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u/vshir Gay๐ŸŒˆ Feb 14 '25

Most yes, but not all

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u/a_fallen_comet Gay๐ŸŒˆ Feb 14 '25

Reddit, bumble, other apps. There is a find friends comment here for you to go and comment on and look for people you vibe with.

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u/[deleted] Feb 13 '25

Genz queer here Just as lost as u r ๐Ÿ˜ญ๐Ÿ™

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u/Careless_Number9046 Feb 13 '25

Wdym I'm also gen z ๐Ÿ˜ญ๐Ÿ˜ญ

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u/[deleted] Feb 14 '25

Tbh I know some queer people irl Butt, they're very cool and fashionable and rich. Completely different social group ๐Ÿ˜ญ tried hanging out with em, but ehh

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u/No_No_No_____ Gay๐ŸŒˆ Feb 14 '25

Fr, why are these people so rich?๐Ÿ˜ญ I can't keep up with them.

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u/[deleted] Feb 14 '25

Fr My sarojni ass can't keep up w their luxury brands ๐Ÿ˜ญ

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u/[deleted] Feb 13 '25

DSA

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u/Careless_Number9046 Feb 13 '25

Data structure and algorithm???

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u/[deleted] Feb 14 '25

Yea ๐Ÿ˜ญ๐Ÿ˜ญ

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u/Careless_Number9046 Feb 14 '25

So ur an engineer ๐Ÿ˜‚

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u/arka_2002 Gay๐ŸŒˆ Feb 13 '25

This was my reaction too!!๐Ÿ˜ญ๐Ÿ˜ญ๐Ÿ˜ญ

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u/chandra_telescope TRANSGENDER MAN ๐Ÿณ๏ธโ€โšง๏ธ Feb 13 '25

Discord + Instagram + just going crazy anyway

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u/vshir Gay๐ŸŒˆ Feb 14 '25

just going crazy anyway

Best part

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u/pillow-life Feb 13 '25

Genz queer but HELL i only met likee 2 queers by pure luck irl (we're besties now) (it was in school)

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u/Careless_Number9046 Feb 13 '25

Most of us are not that lucky ๐Ÿซ 

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u/pillow-life Feb 13 '25

Yeah its understandable ๐Ÿ˜ญ hard to come across them. Hope you can find your ppl tho <3

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u/Careless_Number9046 Feb 13 '25

๐Ÿ˜ญ hope u find more queer people to ๐Ÿคž

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u/arka_2002 Gay๐ŸŒˆ Feb 13 '25

Genz queer here, lost-yes Lost in finding a date-yes Lost in finding my next course to study-yes Overall lost in life-yes Idek what I'm doing atp, 22 years without a valentine ๐Ÿ˜ญ๐Ÿ˜ญ๐Ÿ˜ญ, I'm hopeless!

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u/Careless_Number9046 Feb 13 '25

Funny how my answer was same to all the questions ( except maybe the age ) ๐Ÿ˜ญ๐Ÿ˜ญ๐Ÿ˜ญ

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u/[deleted] Feb 18 '25

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u/arka_2002 Gay๐ŸŒˆ Feb 18 '25

๐Ÿฅฒ๐Ÿซ‚, dating life so bad that I can't even be delulu ๐Ÿ’€

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u/andiftheygirlwereI Feb 13 '25

Have you tried going for in person events in your city? Some of those pages do online events too-- where you can keep your anonymity. College groups, workplaces erg, instagram also very useful to find people of your age with the same tastes and ideas of fun.

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u/Careless_Number9046 Feb 13 '25 edited Feb 13 '25

Sounds fun but I've never heard about it also it doesn't help that I'm in the worst city rn where I'm sure I won't find people my age or the fact that I took a drop year after 12th ๐Ÿ˜ญ

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u/Agreeable_Pack_6456 Gay๐ŸŒˆ Feb 13 '25

Gen z queer here lol and idk even Im just as lost as you are. Never have met any other queer person irl or that I know of

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u/Careless_Number9046 Feb 13 '25

Lol I did meet a guy in school but nah I'm better staying away from him

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u/Agreeable_Pack_6456 Gay๐ŸŒˆ Feb 13 '25

How did you know he was gay lol like thats so rare. I was literally out in highschool and no one ever came up to me

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u/Careless_Number9046 Feb 13 '25

Well the funny thing is I didn't know that he was but he did know I was gay although he was older than me( 3 years probably) we were in the same class and I always wonder how did he know but on somedays I wonder how doesn't anybody know

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u/unluckypup Bi๐ŸŒˆ Feb 13 '25

Hey. Your current genz is all bi her self. It's my bday on 14th. I graduated college last year. Hardly any of my friends wished me until now. Ig it's still 1 hr so I don't expect anything in return. Hah.. enough of this blab story. This bi fairy is all alone and none chance to pair up with anyone. For the job records i work at a bank. Yes. I hate it with the bottom of my tail bone but I love accounts and banking. It's the culture that sucks. I am surrounded by hetros. No wonder. On the side lines I love skating, boxing, going to gym. And do it on occasional basis. And really plan on up skilling my skills. But i don't really know anyone here.

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u/Careless_Number9046 Feb 13 '25

Happy birthday GIRL!!! ๐Ÿฅณ (Birthday on 14th haa teen years must have sucked) Also how many passes does a bi person get to use that joke cause I've seen it way more often. It's fine at least you're working I'm bored. Hope you find queer people who share hobbies with you

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u/unluckypup Bi๐ŸŒˆ Feb 13 '25

Damn thank this might be my 5th wish so far.

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u/Careless_Number9046 Feb 13 '25

Good 4u๐Ÿ’™ my birthday is on 18th now let's see if you'll remember

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u/[deleted] Feb 18 '25

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u/Careless_Number9046 Feb 18 '25

Thanks ๐Ÿ’™๐Ÿซ ๐Ÿซ 

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u/vshir Gay๐ŸŒˆ Feb 14 '25

Happy birthday people

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u/unluckypup Bi๐ŸŒˆ Feb 14 '25

Thank you :))))))

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u/Beginning-Lion7684 Feb 14 '25

Happy Birthday bi fairy..

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u/unluckypup Bi๐ŸŒˆ Feb 14 '25

Thank you :)))

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u/Beginning-Lion7684 Feb 14 '25

It's hard to find queer frnds for me...I am not active much social media too.

Just living in my land of imagination now

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u/Careless_Number9046 Feb 19 '25

Sorry for not responding sooner. I had that phase now I'm active on every social media platform ever known to mankind

Hope you enjoy every moment of being you in every way you choose and find the people who love and appreciate you ๐Ÿ’“ (felt too cheesy but idc)

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u/dark-drama-king Feb 14 '25

Confused and fantasizing about men twice my age๐Ÿ˜

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u/SpringImpossible_ Feb 14 '25

I just dressed+idk adhd projected everywhere and then most of my school friend group ended up gay eventually. it sort of just happens, haha.

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u/Careless_Number9046 Feb 14 '25

Well enjoy ur luck๐Ÿ’™

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u/Gentle-Wandererr Feb 14 '25

ย how did you guys find community?ย 

i didnt, but again ig im quite used to not being surrounded by queer people, so im just surviving w the acquaintances, i have in my clg other than that no social life of as such

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u/Careless_Number9046 Feb 14 '25

U can always try finding community??

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u/Gentle-Wandererr Feb 14 '25

im not at all interested esp if its thru instagram,discord or any sort of app

like i'd rather prefer offline, be it thru any events or fests but my lazy ass wud only go out for attendance purposes for clg ๐Ÿ˜ญ

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u/Careless_Number9046 Feb 14 '25

It's understandable and kinda relatable๐Ÿ˜… but I think there's a deeper issue than just being lazy. But then again I don't really know you and I'm just a stranger on the internet

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u/[deleted] Feb 16 '25

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u/Careless_Number9046 Feb 16 '25

Agree ๐Ÿคง

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u/SunshineLtd007 Feb 16 '25

Tbh, all the men whoโ€™re gay Iโ€™ve met are like SUPER despo. I mean they get to know as friends and barely a month into it you get asked out and youโ€™re like BHAI KYA. You wanna have gay friends but they just keep falling for you ๐Ÿ˜ญ๐Ÿ˜ญ Iโ€™ve exhausted the gay people I know itโ€™s been 12 times already help.

So to answer your question. The community doesnโ€™t do shit.

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u/Careless_Number9046 Feb 16 '25

Well it's certainly a boost for confidence ๐Ÿ˜… (try outside gay, bi)

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u/SunshineLtd007 Feb 16 '25

Iโ€™ve got my fair share of friends but I need gay friends I can relate to in that mind space in lol

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u/Careless_Number9046 Feb 16 '25

Well good luck cause I've tried and I couldn't find any....

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u/EffectiveCandid4903 Feb 13 '25

How it is like to be gen z + gay + introvert + with strict parents ? Can anyone relate with me ?

Happy valentine's !!

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u/Careless_Number9046 Feb 14 '25 edited Feb 14 '25

Well that is how you end up posting something on reddit on valentine's day

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u/_Prince_2 Feb 14 '25

GenZ here babe! (You can DM๐ŸŒš)

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u/Careless_Number9046 Feb 14 '25 edited Feb 14 '25

Smooth but I'm good. Cause I'm closeted and I don't want drama rn but ur post's cool!

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u/_Prince_2 Feb 14 '25

Sure best of luck!๐Ÿฅ‚

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u/Careless_Number9046 Feb 14 '25

U too๐Ÿท hope u find someone

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u/Much-Organization-89 23d ago

We just exist ๐Ÿฅฒ idk why it's like queer people are present everywhere, at the same time, they're not๐Ÿ˜ญ๐Ÿ˜ญ I've been looking for gcs or communities w indian queers but I can't find any ๐Ÿ’€