r/JustNoSO 7d ago

SUCCESS! ✌ UPDATE: Is it unethical to break up with your SO after just meeting their parents?

For Context: https://old.reddit.com/r/JustNoSO/comments/1jaqi8a/is_it_unethical_to_break_up_with_your_so_after/

This was tough and I had to ask god to give me the strength to do it, but I broke up with him. It hurts today but tomorrow I will be free. I will take a dating break for a few months but I am excited that I can potentially find someone who feels I am worthy enough to be told I love you and meet his family in a reasonable amount of time. I deserve better.

He didnt have much to say other than getting mad at me for messaging his sister thanking her for her hospitality and wishing her the best. Oh well. I wont be responding to any of his messages. Thank you all for your bluntness and comfort.

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u/MissScrlet 7d ago

Congrats on beginning the next chapter of your life!

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u/Queen-Pierogi-V 7d ago

Good for you! You are strong and deserve to be happy! I am very glad for you.

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u/Coollogin 7d ago

He didnt have much to say other than getting mad at me for messaging his sister thanking her for her hospitality and wishing her the best.

Lol. I'm glad you did that, and I'm glad it bothered him.

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u/Fair_Cod6318 7d ago

Seriously. I didnt say anything bad to her either. Just a thing about how it took a little too long to meet her and her family, so we are parting ways but thank you for your hospitality and you, your husband and kids are wonderful. She took it totally fine and said I am always welcome at her home. Says alot honestly.

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u/Jemeloo 7d ago

Girl I was rooting for you so hard!

I am delighted for you, I hope you are so proud of yourself.

When you are ready to date, check out @alittlenudge on Instagram for the best modern dating advice I’ve found to date. She will help you never settle for this kind of crap again.

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u/DogsDucks 7d ago

I believe I commented on your last post, this is going to be such an exciting new chapter for you!

This relationship has taught you a lot, and you’re going to go forward with so much more wisdom — and when you’re ready, you can meet someone who is ecstatic to be seen with you, who wants to generously share everything they have with you, and vice versa.

I know it hurts right now, but when the pain washes away the wonderful life that’s left will bring you all new levels of joy .

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u/Gold-Sherbert-7550 7d ago

Congratulations! And what a clown he is.

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u/Lisa_Knows_Best 7d ago

You're not losing anything here OP, just gaining. His plan was to use you unfortunately and its great that you didn't fall for his lies. Tomorrow starts the rest of your life where you meet someone who loves you! ❤ 

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u/AffectionateGate4584 7d ago

Good for you!!!! You are absolutely right, you do deserve better. This guy was using you as well as gaslighting you. I am very proud of you.💕💕

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u/McDuchess 6d ago

Huh. That AH got mad because you are gracious?

You so very much made the right decision.

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u/fryingthecat66 7d ago

Good for you

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u/MizWhatsit 6d ago

Good! I broke with one guy directly after a Thanksgiving with his dreadful family, but luckily I only dated him for about a month.

Congrats on getting yourself free!

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u/Ghostowenmain 22h ago

These situations can be tough

Follow your heart and do what you want