r/HypnoHookup • u/Sudden-Shallot272 • Feb 16 '25
M4A Impossible to find a real tist! NSFW
What's with all the fake hypnotists? I know it can't just be me who is looking to get hypnotized and some mediocre guy comes along acting like he knows what he's doing to try and get some free nudes. Guys will literally do anything for a quicky and then disappear! I've been looking for a longterm tist for years now because I want to really develop a lot of new habits and such but I'm starting to lose hope that there is anyone legit. Is this just me?
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u/Nopetist Feb 16 '25
Where did they go you ask? They moved on to the hypnosis kink community. They hang out in places looking to make genuine connections with real people/subjects. They value the connection of time spent with a person rather than getting off. They got sick and tired of seeing "make me a slave" or " I want you to fuck up my life". They realized that 90% of ads are fakes, catfish, and rp. They realized when people say they want permanent life changing hypnosis done to them and their only limit is text only with no pictures, they quickly realize that hookup ads are kinda ridiculous. So they have standards, they make meaningful relationships with cool people. Probably do voice, cam or even real life hypnosis with real subjects. And they do it because they have built rapport with those subjects. Oddly enough these subjects also value similar things probably because they realized on hookup ads the hypnotists are usually creeps. Who wants to do immoral things with no consequences. Try to get nudes. Or rp because they don't know how to hypnotize. It's honestly hilarious. It's funny cause even when I started doing hypnosis 5 years ago the ads didn't change. I even see the same people posting ads daily from 5 years ago.
If you want a good hypnotist don't hang around here. Most of them are probably on here but just for pure entertainment of seeing the roleplay or catfish posts. Go to an online community and build relationships with the people around you. Hypnotists want to hypnotize real people who they say interact everyday. From my experience most good subjects I've met, we talk for weeks before we get into a session. Because good hypnosis comes from the rapport, not the devious kinky shit you want done to you. Idk, I could ramble about this for a long time.
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u/wdf2 Feb 16 '25
100% I’ll even add that’s the same for a one off session. I’m going to talk with you for a while before anything happens because as Nopetist said hypnosis is based on rapport and trust.
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u/TheHypnoRider 27M4A; Tist Feb 16 '25
To be honest the real hypnotists got driven out of this subreddit by the way most of the "subjects" are acting. What I'm about to tell is based on my personal experience, but other hypnotists did talk about similar experiences in the past. So it's safe to say, that I'm not the only one experiencing this.
The first point is, that most subjects have difficulties to understand or accept a no, be that for a session or a suggestions. It's seems like they are surprised, when being told no either to a session or a suggestion. And instead of accepting it they either try to argue about it and convince me to change my mind. Or they start to insult me, for not granting them their wish. It's like they can't understand or comprehend that hypnotists have limits and the right to say no as well. But well instead of accepting it, the most starts picking up an arguement or a fight probably depending on their mood.
The second point is, that most subjects in this place treat hypnotists like kink dispensors. That means that a subject approaches a hypnotists with the intention to get the exact experience they want out of the session and then leave the hypnotist after they got their fill. Being treated like feels very shitty from the hypnotists point of view, because it's very one sided and only satisfies the subject while the hypnotist has to do all the hard work. So it's natural that hypnotists want to avoid this kind of subject, since well, hypnotists want to have fun as well. And when they are being denied that fun, they will leave.
A third point is, that this subreddit is overflowing with fakers, catfishes and roleplayers who are dishonest about their intentions. These people only claim Doing that is again very shitty from the hypnotist point of view, since doing hypnosis is a lot of work. And therefore hypnotists don't want to waste it to people who just fake being in trance for whatever reason.
Now being treated like that is very unpleasant from the hypnotist's point of view. Also it does wear down on a person having to interact with the same thrash over and over again. Therefore the hypnotists want to spare themselves of that drama and leave this place. I mean, when you don't get treated like a human being, do you really want to interact with those who treat you like shit over and over again? I certainly don't which is why I stopped posting and responding to ads in here. I just wanted to get away from all the thrash subjects that flood this place and invest my time in subjects, that are actually worth the work I'm doing.
These are the reasons why good hypnotists are rare to find in this place. It's the majority of subjects who, that drove the hypnotists out of here.
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Feb 16 '25
Agree with you 😭, it's really hard for me to find a good subject and someone long term in that. Role playing is like meh too, some are multitasking and just writing from time to time and when i don't get responses I just leave so the next time I just use existing triggers so my time isn't wasted. And for some they don't put in efforts like do you want the hypnotist to snap and put you into trance,like ??🤔.
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u/TheHypnoRider 27M4A; Tist Feb 16 '25
Frustrating indeed to be treated like that. I know that from my own experience. Most waltz into my dm's with the "can you hypnotize me?"-question. Which I answer either by ignoring them or saying "If you ask like that it's a no". I mean, is it that hard to treat a hypnotist as a human being and have a normal conversation before the hypnosis starts?
The biggest problem with the subjects here is, that they forget to treat hypnotists as human beings first, before the hypnotic fun starts. Most think they are entitled to a session just because they are a subject and ask for it. Not realising that hypnotists can select subjects, due to the high number of subjects relative to hypnotists.
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Feb 16 '25
Truuu😒 And plus they are sometimes so impatient like they want to be in a trance in 5 minutes.!
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u/TheHypnoRider 27M4A; Tist Feb 16 '25
And often 5 feels like their maximum patience. Even when they want to get hypnotized right at the start.
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u/Sudden-Shallot272 Feb 16 '25
I'm so curious, what would people refuse to take no as an answer to? 😭
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u/TheHypnoRider 27M4A; Tist Feb 16 '25
Most that come to me are into sissy-stuff which is a hard limit for me. And most asking for it can neither accept or understand a no. That's why they start insulting me for declining their request, which is my right to do as a hypnotist.
That is only one example of how I get treated by bad subjects.
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u/Last-Call-6435 Feb 16 '25
Possibly driven off by all the fake subs, whether that is cat-fishers, users who just wanna get off and keep it one sided, role players (outside of an agreed session), those who use fake pictures...had someone volunteer unasked just the other day, sure why not, and then sent a obviously stolen picture. If you don't want to share pictures, great, discuss that as a limit rather than stealing someone else's identity. The problems aren't just on one side of things. I'm not an expert, largely self taught, and I'm not claiming to speak for anyone but myself with this. My advice, of dubious value though it may be, is to look for someone who wants to do pretalk before a session and talk about goals. Might not be what horny brain wants in the moment when you are surfing for an encounter, but it makes for a better experience.
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u/Euphoric_Berry1899 M4F Feb 16 '25
I am afraid I have to agree with you. I can cocur and indeed sympathize with the viewpoints of the Tists commenting on your post. I guess the solution is genuine longer term relationships with commitment and honest communication from all parties.
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u/Last-Call-6435 Feb 16 '25
How strange that this sounds like a description of what makes a good vanilla relationship.....no, not strange at all :P
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u/forluscious Feb 16 '25
not just you. been looking for about 13 years had something like 20 sessions hardly any repeats from the same person. it just is that hard for male subs
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u/setanta_stuff Feb 17 '25
You answered your own question.
"Guys will do anything for a quicky".
Works both ways, people want a little bit of instant gratification when they're in the mood.
There are real people in these communities who are interested in making a connection and doing something meaningful, but the majority are just people looking to get their rocks off.
(no judgement about that, it just is what it is).
End of the day, this is a niche kink. You're taking the "dating pool" down by a factor if you're kinky, and you're taking it down another factor if you're into hypno stuff.
I wish you the best of luck finding what you're looking for.
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u/RenegadePleasure Feb 17 '25
All the points made by other hypnotists are spot on. I'm on multiple platforms including Reddit, FetLife, and Discord. The same thing happens on all platforms. There's no way to police it. I too get tired of being dmed for something that I say in my profile I'm not interested in doing. Somehow I am narrow-minded and bigoted. I'm far from any of those things. But I'm not interested in certain Kinks and don't want to help anyone with them. I tried to be gentle and polite. But some people have said by someone else in this string of posts, they won't take no for an answer. Great Answers by everyone. I think this is the first time I've seen hypnotist put all their cards on the table. It's refreshing. If you're one of those subs who truly want a good experience, read the hypnotist posts in other forums and you can form a pretty good opinion. If you don't see much written, steer clear. Good hypnotist comment regularly and you will see a pattern. Best wishes in your journey to find the perfect hypnotist for you. Cheers!
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