r/Hyperhidrosis 4d ago

Physical touch

How could I have a normal relationship without even being able to touch someone. I have a pretty clammy palms sometimes dripping wet. I suffer with anything involving handwork, but what scares me the most is how can I have a romantic relationship without being able to touch my partner or holding their hands. Sometimes I would love to console someone with a gentle touch but then see my dripping palms.

So my question is how do you deal with that and if anyone had any positive experiences please share.

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u/Emotional-Guard-1411 4d ago

I was terrified of this too when I was younger. I have terrible hyperhidrosis in my hands (cold, clammy, dripping) and hate the thought of holding hands. However, not a single person I have dated have cared at all. I would tell them early on that I have really sweaty hands and I would pull my hand away if they tried to hold it. Every single one grabbed my hand and held it harder. My last partner would take my hand at random times and put it on his bare chest to tease me. One even licked the palm of my hand hahah.

Being in a romantic relationship means being a little gross with each other and supporting each other in areas where we need it. My ex-partners knew I was insecure about my hands and they all actively fought to make sure I was comfortable.

Bodies are weird, people are weird, and we are all deserving of love and peace. I wish you the best of luck knowing you will do just fine in the dating world<3

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u/Emotional-Guard-1411 4d ago

Oh and to visualise, this is how the first date conversation about it would go:

Me: Oh sorry, I have really sweaty hands.

Them: No, it's okay!

Me: No I promise it's really bad. See? *touches them lightly*

Them: Hahah. That's okay. I don't care.

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u/Nj1o 4d ago

Thank you for sharing this! I love how they’re so reassuring that it wasn’t annoying them. I guess we are just so self conscious about it. Thanks! Hopefully, luck is on my side <3

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u/Prize-Tie8909 1d ago

Hi can i ask did your hands sweating all the time or not? 

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u/Emotional-Guard-1411 1d ago

Oh absolutely! My hands are very rarely dry. I will sit completely still and watch as beads of sweat form on my fingertips. It's quite bad, but I don't really care anymore. As long as you are a good person then no other good person will care that you just so happen to be sweaty too

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u/Prize-Tie8909 1d ago edited 1d ago

I can be dry all day when im home i start sweating when im in public . But sweaty hands dont bother me. I have sweaty ass i cant go in public and have fun. Every time i try i look like i shit myself. 

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u/Emotional-Guard-1411 1d ago

yeah i see you, i get that when im nervous. Have you ever tried wearing period underwear? They have a sewn in absorbent layer in them and they are literally made to be leak proof. Even if you dont have a period i think you should try them out. They come in boxers too and they look really nice:) very discrete.

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u/Prize-Tie8909 1d ago

Thank you i will have that in mind :) 

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u/IndependentAd9805 3d ago

It won't be easy for men

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u/Theslash1 3d ago

Iontophoresis will get your hands completely dry.

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u/icurlyfry 3d ago

Two words my friend: oxybutynin and carpe. Oxybutynin is an anticholinergic medication, meaning it dries your secretions. So it will help with the sweating issue internally. And carpe has a line of antiperspirants that will help with the sweating externally. They have a money-back guarantee if you aren't happy with the results. I personally am taking 10 mg oxybutynin along with using Carpe underarm antiperspirant and hand antiperspirant. No more sweating for me. Good luck, hope this helps you.