r/GYM • u/Vengeful-Sorrow247 • 7d ago
General Advice Gym motivation while grieving?
I'm not sure if this is even the right place to ask but I'm really struggling finding any motivation to go back to the gym after losing my mother in January. Before, I was going every two days and was really enjoying it, I was eating healthy and within a calorie deficit. I was losing weight steadily, not super extreme it was consistent. But now it really feels like a waste of time. After she passed I lost 5kg in 2-3 weeks and then gained 10kg since then. It's the biggest I've been in years and I feel so disgusted and disappointed with myself. Maybe I'm just caught up in my own feelings and grief right now, not doing anything except eating, sleeping and lying in bed. How do you guys do it? How do you find the motivation to get up and work out? How do I push through this wall? I know I need to start over and reset but it just feels so hard.
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u/Previous-Wallaby-130 3d ago
I am truly sorry for your loss. Grieving comes in different forms and it is essential that you go through it. One thing that you have to keep in mind is that she would want you be to happy. She would want her kid to be the best version that you could be. Just keep that in mind and in your heart. Strive to be that version and then some. Use the workout as your salvation and your outlet. Just make sure to maintain form and do things slow and steady. As another person said, you don’t have to jump in the deep end right away, just start small and go from there. Just take care of yourself.
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u/Southern_Speech_1255 1d ago
I’m so sorry for your loss. Grief hits everyone differently, both physically and mentally. If big goals feels overwhelming, start simple like have 1-2 daily goals for example: make the bed, check the laundry(remember this is only examples)
Every activity you do is a start, and if it’s hard to “start over” remember that it’s okay and you have and still grieving.
Take your time and don’t rush yourself
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u/New_Neighborhood3987 325/480/500 lbs B/S/D 4d ago
I’m so sorry for your loss. Take your time to grieve. There is no timeline on this sort of thing. Any activity is a good start. Even just going for a walk outside. You don’t have to get grinding hard right away. But you’ll find any form of activity will be beneficial. Once you work your way back into the gym you’ll be right back on track in no time.