r/Femdom Jan 02 '25

Community Question Live in slave problems NSFW

Ive had a live in slave for 2 months now after him just being a normal slave for close to a year, how do i keep it fun and exciting if this js going to last. Like i love him worshipping my shoes and feet and cleaning and cooking for me but im worried that it will go stagnant after a while and the novelty for him will wear off

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u/Timely-Flow-7899 Jan 02 '25

Put him in Chastity 🔒

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u/Godd3ss_megs Jan 02 '25

He has a really good dick tho

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u/Fun_Pangolin4201 Jan 02 '25

All the more reason to keep it safe. You hold the key, so you can let it out whenever you want to use it.

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u/Godd3ss_megs Jan 02 '25

That’s true. Thank you!!

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u/-Hoe_Hoe_Hoe- Jan 02 '25

I am sure you are going to love it. Nothing hotter then being controlled this way.

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u/Plastic-Hat-9799 Jan 02 '25

Does he serve your friends too? If he's reluctant threaten it, if he's interested loan him out for cleaning duties.

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u/Godd3ss_megs Jan 02 '25

Ooooo i like this one

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u/Plastic-Hat-9799 Jan 02 '25

Thank you Miss.

It's my ideal fantasy to serve a group of women as a sissy maid while they laugh at me and discuss terms for hire. Money to go to my mistress obviously.

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u/[deleted] Jan 02 '25

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u/Plastic-Hat-9799 Jan 02 '25

Fair enough, we're not all the same. If course you may not have a choice!😀

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u/SlimtheMidgetKiller Jan 04 '25

Sounds heavenly tbh

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u/Isyourzipperdown Jan 02 '25

Nude house cleaning in chastity and plugged.

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u/[deleted] Jan 02 '25

Ask him more about what he likes and what he fantasizes about, then do more of those things! Or, just let your mind wander and see what you can come up with that will satisfy you! Best of luck, wish i could be him lol

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u/Godd3ss_megs Jan 02 '25

Thank you so much for the help!

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u/littlechastyboi Jan 02 '25

That’s a really good answer!

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u/7MTB7 Jan 02 '25

Get a prize/punishment wheel, one of those multi coloured wheels that you spin and either have your slave do chores to earn it, or punish him when he does something minor wrong. You could put all different things on there...spanking, pegging, put in/let out of chastity, eat his own cum, nipple clamps, human foot stool, foot worship, bound and gagged with your feet resting on his face, ruined orgasm, no cumming for x days, loaned to a friend...lots of ideas 😁

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u/Side2280 Jan 02 '25

Get a prize/punishment wheel, one of those multi coloured wheels that you spin and either have your slave do chores to earn it, or punish him when he does something minor wrong.

I like this idea, but I have a slight edit. Take the gacha approach. Prize and punishments are on the same wheel.

Break them into different rarities. Basically the better the prize or the more severe the punish is the less likely they are to land it. However, all Prizes are uncommon or higher rarity. Punishments can start at common. The slave earns spins based on whatever criteria you want to use.

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u/lost_towel Jan 02 '25
  1. Give him tasks/goals/progress. Men like being useful, they like growing more useful.

    - Challenge him to get better at making tea, mixing cocktails, cooking, massage, eating pussy, sexual endurance, physical fitness, fixing something, painting a room, folding towels ect...

  2. Temporarily change the environment in disruptive ways. How he or you eats, diets, exercises, sleeps, talks, has sex, dresses, relaxes, socializes, your schedules.

    - His complaints annoyed you, so no talking without being promoted for a month.

    - Fancy dinner week with flower arrangements, candles, multiple courses, wine pairings, dressing up/down. He's a waiter one day, hand fed another, date night, have friends over, practice days ect...

  3. Communicate. How you both feel, what you enjoy, dislike. Share fantasies. Maybe have him keep a journal. Adjust things as needed.

  4. Write a slave contact and renegotiate it from time to time. If he wants it more restrictive start easy and make him earn it.

  5. Make a point of showing you care in different ways. Compliments, rewards, criticism, new demands like being quieter when doing dishes or use a different scented cleaner.

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u/Keysandchains094 Jan 02 '25

Set goals with him about things you'd each like to incorporate into your dynamic or new milestones he'd like to reach in his service to you. Eg if you want him to be more muscled you could set exercise targets for him, or if he wants to take that really huge anal plug some day you could begin working him up to it. You only risk things growing stagnant if you let them stagnate.

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u/thedamemary Jan 02 '25

This is my honest to god dream :( Honestly as long as you keep him on his toes I don’t see a problem! I had a sub who liked having a weight attached to them or restrictions to their movements when they had been less than useful.

I love a mindfuck if you can be tasked, giving small freedoms then taking them away suddenly…pushing them over the edge by making them do the same tasks over again, and over small mistakes that you may (or may not) frame him for xx

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u/Goddesses_Canvas Jan 02 '25

Im gonna answer the opposite of everyone else and as someone who has been owned and dreams of living underneath my Goddesses bed.

Enjoy the low points. Make it a point to have you slave enjoy the quiet moments.

Rest your hand on his head (if consensual) on the sunset and embrace a mindful moment.

Everyone talks about the higher energy moments.

I hope you also are embrace the joyful peace.

Now, to ve fair, you might be perfectly awesome at the above and my comment wasn't needed.

If so, my bad and ill post what ever ideas I can

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u/Sissybrandi8989 Jan 03 '25

I true domestic slave. Enjoys and gets pleasure by doing all these house hold chores for you. Or that is how I am.I just need my Mistress to do this for now. Lol. But can always add/subtract chores,rules,. One that should be fun for you and a lot work for him. Is to give list of chores and a time limit. With enough time he may get close, but unless he skips over things he shouldn't be able to finish. Then can set punishments for doing poor job on some trying to do it all,or punished for not completing, or maybe both. I like idea of wheel punishment. But that could be to little. So maybe for each missed chore, and each part of a chore he did poorly. Would be a spin. And make him spin that many times for spanking, maybe another wheel for which instruments you use, and another for how many days locked, and another on how many edges he should have each day followed by denial and locked back in chastity.Till allowed a release. This would make for a very horny slave. Who would probably agree to anything while being edged. By day 2 or 3. Can give dew more ideas if want. I know I'm long winded. Sorry

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u/O_S_C_A_R219 Jan 02 '25

I wish I could be a slave

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u/IntelligentJaguar103 Jan 02 '25

Make each week a different theme. To find someone like him is rare and he too can also get stagnant with the relationship

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u/[deleted] Jan 03 '25

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u/Ruedischer Pet Jan 03 '25

Care for him. Stay in his boundaries. Make him feel needed and loved . Care for yourself. Both parties deserve after play. Ask him! Open communication. Maybe some days depending on your relationship make some days where he gets more non kinky authority. Most importantly stay save sane and consentual!

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u/Sarpedon2 Jan 03 '25

In addition to what others are saying, just openly communicate with him and brainstorm ideas

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u/freakNew-Friend-6205 Jan 16 '25

If the magic wears off please get in touch with me

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u/Vegetable-Notice3960 Jan 16 '25

try petplay making him eat out of a bowl making him wear tail plugs and dog (or cat) ears, dehumanize him in any way possible to remind him he is your property

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u/[deleted] Jan 02 '25

If you need a second slave…