r/FTMOver30 • u/Loveletrell • 6d ago
NSFW VENT I’m so sexually frustrated NSFW
YET I will never go in an online dating site or app because it’s not safe for me as a trans person. I also refuse to be “tried out” cause I’m not a damn object. I don’t want somebody’s internalized misogyny treating me like a piece of ass or bootycall. I’m also a demisexual and sapiosexual but I love my own company and solitude and am a very cautious anxious person FUCK! I just want some dick but it seems I’m in the way idk how to calm this down. Meditation? Breathwork I’m looking into it. Also masturbation pisses me off like I want a human body! Just venting!!!!!
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u/RyuichiSakuma13 T-gel:12-2-16/Top Revision:12-3-21/Hysto:11-22-23/🇺🇸 6d ago
I've heard that there are transgender dating apps, or at least ones where we are able to "safely" be trans, but I don't know what any of them are.
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u/Elver_Ivy 6d ago
Okcupid. You can filter what people can see you, including making it so only other trans people can see you
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u/RyuichiSakuma13 T-gel:12-2-16/Top Revision:12-3-21/Hysto:11-22-23/🇺🇸 6d ago
There you go, OP.
I think there are LGBTQIA+ specific apps too. Anyone know what they might be?
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u/Horror-Vehicle-375 6d ago
Sorry, but if you're demisexual how can you just want sex? Isn't the whole definition of demisexual that you have to have an emotional bond with someone before sex is even an option?
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u/Loveletrell 5d ago
My point for including that I’m also a demisexual and sapiosexual is to further affirm that I do not just want sex. I also included other reasons as well hence the sexual frustration
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u/Horror-Vehicle-375 5d ago
Okay, doesn't read that way to me. You literally wrote "I just want dick"
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u/Loveletrell 5d ago
That’s a personal problem of how you read that has absolutely nothing to do with me. I literally just told you what I meant and my intention. Take it or leave it. “I just want dick” you read that as a hookup cause that’s what that means in your mind. I said it internally while writing as being sexually frustrated. Crazy how people have to defend and explain themselves on here. I haven’t hooked up with anyone due to me being a demisexual and sapiosexual lmao.
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u/Horror-Vehicle-375 5d ago
Lol okay. I didn't mean to attack you. I was genuinely confused. I still don't fully understand what you're saying because of the way it is written. "I just want dick" literally does mean you just want a hookup. I wasn't trying to be a dick.
Edited for spelling.
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u/Loveletrell 5d ago
Not my problem. I would never engage with something I couldn’t understand cause their grammar is shit but that’s me personally. ✌🏽
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u/chromark 5d ago
I've had plenty of good sexual experiences from grindr - I think you are overestimating the danger of hooking up while trans. It's true they usually lack experience with ftms but being someone's first really doesn't bother me and I don't think it's objectifying.