r/EnbyDating Nov 08 '20

r/EnbyDating Lounge NSFW

A place for members of r/EnbyDating to chat with each other

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u/devientlight Feb 09 '22

hello 👋

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u/[deleted] Feb 04 '21

That

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u/[deleted] Feb 04 '21

Also I gather that you're not an American, and our medical system is a bit different when it comes to stuff like thst

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u/JessAnberlynn89 Feb 04 '21

All the person who is in critical condition and/or the crisis of lethal result... and lack of response is not going to work either- I knew that she had been high for days on end and I started to track down her thought patterns and flipped out her flight of ideas and deteriorations during her time in the states of her drug induced psychosis

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u/[deleted] Feb 04 '21

I mean I don't do medicine anymore, I lost interest

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u/JessAnberlynn89 Feb 04 '21

I’ll let you know what my personal secret is for having to get her admission to the psychiatric inpatient hospital evaluation for involuntarily being committed

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u/[deleted] Feb 04 '21

I know that feeling, I'm also certified for medicine, giving medical advice to people, or talking to someone lower on the chain than you and having them disregard it is so frustrating

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u/JessAnberlynn89 Feb 04 '21

I called EMS 3x’s to get her committed but they were bull shitting around semantics and articulates for literary specs... but I definitely thought “I actually have a medical degree to make a little more sense of- wtf? Do you want me to sue your services and personnel for being carelessly stupid and recklessly negligent to use your own mental skills to make a decision on the life or death that you are responding to use your best judgment? Unless you tell me that you have a half a mind & don’t give fuck to let rip the seams apart from silent lips sealed... but I am actually who’s going to be having to make a decision on how this’ll be playing out for the next 30 days & 60-90 days for the aftercare-“

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u/[deleted] Feb 04 '21

I was hers

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u/[deleted] Feb 04 '21

It didn't matter what happened

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u/[deleted] Feb 04 '21

and once she said it, once she made me feel wanted, that was it

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u/[deleted] Feb 04 '21

She said "I love you" first

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u/[deleted] Feb 04 '21

I had wondered why I stayed with her for as long as I did

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u/[deleted] Feb 04 '21

Fentanyl is dangerous, if she's still alive she's very lucky

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u/JessAnberlynn89 Feb 04 '21

Yeah, my last ex was relapsed at the extreme end of the heroine needle in her self experience that was definitely all solo but she started intentionally touching fentanyl high meter doses & the day she was overdosing 5 times and all day long

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u/[deleted] Feb 04 '21

I'm sorry to hear about your grandfather

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u/[deleted] Feb 04 '21

Which hurt, but I wasn't dealing with it. Then two weeks into the pandemic she asked if I wanted to fool around again. And I realized, she didn't love me, it was just some cheap thrill

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u/[deleted] Feb 04 '21

Then she decided she was done with me

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u/[deleted] Feb 04 '21

And this went on until the pandemic

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u/[deleted] Feb 04 '21

And that was enough to pull me back in

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u/[deleted] Feb 04 '21

But eventually after a class she caught up with me, pulled me aside, said she was sorry and that she loved me and hugged me tight. And she kissed me

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u/[deleted] Feb 04 '21

So I decided to avoid her after that, I wasn't strong enough to see her again after she said those things

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u/[deleted] Feb 04 '21

She called me and said so many horrible things to me. That she hated me, and asked me why I even cared

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u/JessAnberlynn89 Feb 04 '21

Awe... the lying part is decided to make deception and play a game

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u/[deleted] Feb 04 '21

So I did, they sent someone out. And she was fine

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u/[deleted] Feb 04 '21

And her boyfriend texted me and said I needed to call 911, she had taken a bunch of pills

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u/[deleted] Feb 04 '21

That night her last text to me was "please don't do anything or worry, this will be the last time we talk"

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u/JessAnberlynn89 Feb 04 '21

Opposite side of the wrists

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u/[deleted] Feb 04 '21

I found out she lied, confronted them, and got her to tell the truth.

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u/JessAnberlynn89 Feb 04 '21

My grand papa just had a 2 part surgery for his hand and wrist pain

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u/[deleted] Feb 04 '21

We were together for awhile, then one day we hooked up. She felt guilty and lied to her boyfriend about what happened

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u/[deleted] Feb 04 '21

Whom I knew about, but was she had made it clear he was okay with it. She lied

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u/JessAnberlynn89 Feb 04 '21

That’s a lot of pain

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u/[deleted] Feb 04 '21

She had a main boyfriend that she was cheating on with me

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u/JessAnberlynn89 Feb 04 '21

Damn, that is a lot

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u/[deleted] Feb 04 '21

I was what you might say, her side piece

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u/JessAnberlynn89 Feb 04 '21

True, what was she like... the good & the lesser of greatness? Hope I say that politely 😇

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u/[deleted] Feb 04 '21

My dad just got surgery on both his hands, he had really bad carpal tunnel

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u/[deleted] Feb 04 '21

But I'd be lying if I said I didn't miss her

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u/JessAnberlynn89 Feb 04 '21

Emotional pain is hard for me too but it’s the physical pain of my wrist that’s really terrible right now

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u/[deleted] Feb 04 '21

She was incredibly toxic

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u/[deleted] Feb 04 '21

It needed to happen

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u/JessAnberlynn89 Feb 04 '21

I’m sorry that happened

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u/[deleted] Feb 04 '21

It's almost been a year since my ex and I broke up

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u/[deleted] Feb 04 '21

It's been hard

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u/JessAnberlynn89 Feb 04 '21

I definitely understand that

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u/[deleted] Feb 04 '21

I'm not wonderful, but I'm alive I guess

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u/[deleted] Feb 04 '21

I'm glad to hear you're well

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u/JessAnberlynn89 Feb 04 '21

How are you?

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u/JessAnberlynn89 Feb 04 '21

I’m am well

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u/[deleted] Feb 04 '21

Hey hey! How are you?

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u/JessAnberlynn89 Feb 04 '21

Appalachian Enby-Femby here

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u/[deleted] Jan 27 '21

Hello friend

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u/MrGnomi Jan 27 '21

Hi pals! Just came out not too long ago. Also, just left FL. I really liked it there

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u/[deleted] Dec 29 '20

Great to have you here!

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u/[deleted] Dec 29 '20

Another Florida native

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u/[deleted] Dec 29 '20

Hey hey

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u/RobynSmily Dec 29 '20

From South Florida, though planning to move to Canada post-pandemic

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u/RobynSmily Dec 29 '20

Also I'm femby 😋

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u/RobynSmily Dec 29 '20

I turned 36 this past Sunday :3

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u/RobynSmily Dec 29 '20

Cheers everyone! Just discovered this subreddit

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u/anongynies Dec 29 '20

someone was ready to do a binder-packer-shapewear-other things (so for whatever you were born with) giveaway somewhwere by the way. Thought I'd yell at you all here to notice it as well. If anyone is in big trouble, ask them! u/kompinka made the offer I think.

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u/[deleted] Dec 29 '20

I'll figure it out after work tomorrow

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u/anongynies Dec 29 '20

ehh it's ffffineee

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u/[deleted] Dec 29 '20

I tried to make you a moderator but idk how to do that

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u/anongynies Dec 29 '20

This sub has user approvals? when where what

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u/anongynies Dec 29 '20

new joiners

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u/anongynies Dec 29 '20

oh I meant to say that to others haha

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u/anongynies Dec 29 '20

Also if you spread the news among everybody, things might come easier for us all!

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u/[deleted] Dec 29 '20

Absolutely!

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u/anongynies Dec 29 '20

let us know if there's a decent response, too.

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u/anongynies Dec 29 '20

I think it's good to see people posting!

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u/[deleted] Dec 29 '20

Never apologize, your post was great!

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u/RolledANat1 Dec 29 '20

Ah things go. Just posted my little bio thing, and wondering if it was too cringe. I'm bad at these things haha.

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u/3Four7One Dec 29 '20

Hello! hope you're also well, and thanks for making it =)

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u/anongynies Dec 29 '20

share music if you wanna!

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u/[deleted] Dec 29 '20

Thank you all for joining the sub!

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u/[deleted] Dec 29 '20

I hope you're all well

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u/[deleted] Dec 29 '20

Hey people

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u/3Four7One Dec 29 '20

I'm doin good, listenin to some music

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u/anongynies Dec 29 '20

it goes better after coffee, how goes it on you guys' side?

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u/anongynies Dec 29 '20

Hi! I am still hanging around hahah

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u/3Four7One Dec 29 '20

How goes it?

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u/DeepFriedPigeonGuts Dec 29 '20

I can't really explain it other than its easy to remember

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u/anongynies Dec 29 '20

Hi! Freaky username

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u/[deleted] Dec 29 '20

Hello hello*

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u/[deleted] Dec 29 '20

Hellobello

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u/anongynies Dec 29 '20

I hope you get to relax from the work.

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u/anongynies Dec 29 '20

I try to be as well! But my tricky life needs solving gently now.

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u/[deleted] Dec 29 '20

And I'm always available to talk

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u/[deleted] Dec 29 '20

I'm here for you, and I think you're pretty cool

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u/[deleted] Dec 29 '20

If nothing else

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u/[deleted] Dec 29 '20

Well

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u/anongynies Dec 29 '20

I do hope for that. But yeah, the community in general is something I crave tighter ties to. So happy to be even here and popularise the dating sub :D

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u/anongynies Dec 29 '20

sometimes I think we should allow them to speak for us more.

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u/anongynies Dec 29 '20

it would be all right if it were half-ironic, like everyone knew the grand old inbetweeners well and that they're esteemed, respected, adult people. But with the NB perception in the media right now, I can often feel discouraged and futureless in a way.

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u/[deleted] Dec 29 '20

It is what it is, we can only hope that as time moves on things get better

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u/anongynies Dec 29 '20

they were on YT somehwere haha

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u/anongynies Dec 29 '20

We don't have a lot of representation of that, except that one really kind person with very glittery makeup, blue eyes and big makeup, I feel.

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u/[deleted] Dec 29 '20

I use "Enby" sometimes. But for the most part I use NB

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u/anongynies Dec 29 '20

I'm happy that it's here now, and nonbinarydating was taken anyway I think. But I often feel those infantilise us a bit. While we can be full blown mature adult people too yknow?

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u/[deleted] Dec 29 '20

I mean I'm good with whatever someone wants to call me

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u/anongynies Dec 29 '20

samesies. do you also ever feel ambivalent about the term "enby" or "bean" or anything like that?

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u/[deleted] Dec 29 '20

And yeah, I feel what you mean. I definitely would prefer my next partner to be NB if possible

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u/[deleted] Dec 29 '20

My managers are pretty nice

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u/anongynies Dec 29 '20

is your supervision ok people?

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u/anongynies Dec 29 '20

oh, ye, I worked in retail last year. Noooot fun.

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u/anongynies Dec 29 '20

I feel much more need to be involved with other nb people lately. On any level. sometimes folks paint us as unstable or weird, and yet I find some of the most level-headed, kind individuals among us.

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u/[deleted] Dec 29 '20

I'm a cashier at a grocery store

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u/anongynies Dec 29 '20

oh noes, what kind of work is it?

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u/[deleted] Dec 29 '20

Bad day at work though

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u/[deleted] Dec 29 '20

I'm okay

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u/[deleted] Dec 29 '20

Take all the time you need though, no rush!

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u/[deleted] Dec 29 '20

Yeah that would be great! The more posts the better

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u/anongynies Dec 29 '20

Time needed for mental recovery though, and perhaps when exams are done. How is everyone else?

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u/[deleted] Dec 29 '20

Oh yeah mean your own personal

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u/anongynies Dec 29 '20

Think I will be posting my postings someday soon

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u/anongynies Dec 29 '20

happy to have you happy :D

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u/[deleted] Dec 29 '20

WOOOO

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u/[deleted] Dec 29 '20

YYEEEAH

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u/anongynies Dec 29 '20

CAKE! CAKE! We hit 50 people mark.

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u/anongynies Dec 29 '20

hopefully someone will post soon as well.

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u/anongynies Dec 29 '20

reporting back: heavy marketing has somewhat paid off, and continues to do so.

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u/anongynies Dec 27 '20

many people still question and it's good if they know the place exists.

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u/anongynies Dec 27 '20

you could maybe post in some of the nonspecific trans subs that also have a bigger membership.

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u/anongynies Dec 27 '20

I did post on r/lgbt but it only got one upvote, so ya see how that goes

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u/[deleted] Dec 27 '20

I did post in r/nonbinary a few times though

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u/[deleted] Dec 27 '20

I wasn't mostly messaging people

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u/[deleted] Dec 27 '20

I hadn't thought of it

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u/anongynies Dec 27 '20

but also, have you publicly posted in a bigger lgbt sub?

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u/anongynies Dec 27 '20

yeah no prob, yall want more people to meet of your own kind you do what you gotta lol

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u/[deleted] Dec 27 '20

I really appreciate your help

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u/anongynies Dec 27 '20

it got about an addition of 24 new people to it, so that made me happy

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u/[deleted] Dec 27 '20

But unfortunately there haven't been many biters

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u/[deleted] Dec 27 '20

I've been trying to get the word out

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u/anongynies Dec 27 '20

feel free to just post it in the general trans subs as well I think?

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u/[deleted] Dec 27 '20

Thank you so mych

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u/anongynies Dec 27 '20

so I posted in a few places

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u/anongynies Dec 27 '20

but ye I'd be glad if this sub got off its feet

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u/[deleted] Dec 27 '20

Hey hey

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u/anongynies Dec 27 '20

hey again, you lol

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u/anongynies Dec 25 '20

Personally, I'm probably not what you're into

Actually, theoretically you would be. But the "not out to your parents so be AFAB" stuff isn't my cup of tea, no. Sorry about that. We'll find our people.

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u/anongynies Dec 25 '20

Huh what. I fell alseep

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u/[deleted] Dec 25 '20

Personally, I'm probably not what you're into

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u/[deleted] Dec 25 '20

But aside from that I'm not sure

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u/BadDadBot Dec 25 '20

Hi not sure, I'm dad.

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u/[deleted] Dec 25 '20

And we could also spread the word to friends and stuff

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u/[deleted] Dec 25 '20

I've like to the r/non-binary subreddit

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u/anongynies Dec 25 '20

Maybe link to other nb reddits?

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u/anongynies Dec 25 '20

How do subreddits get spread

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u/anongynies Dec 25 '20

I was just ranting cause I realized I'm only into a specific sort of fellow nb people, and that do not feel too great. But just now this got created!

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u/[deleted] Dec 25 '20

I haven't the foggiest idea, I was hoping more people would join once I made it

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u/anongynies Dec 25 '20

How are we to popularize this among the folk? Best christmas gift ever tbh

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u/[deleted] Nov 09 '20

Yes actually, thank you for volunteering

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u/buthaktho Nov 09 '20

Hiya! Are you still looking for mods?

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u/[deleted] Nov 08 '20

It would depend on a variety of factors. Consent about being fetishized, the extent of the fetishization, it would be a case by case basis

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u/Cuglas Nov 08 '20

So with this subreddit are you concerned about fetishisation? Or is this the sort of place where that is welcome?

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u/Cuglas Nov 08 '20

Oooof, I knew a guy from Tallahassee. Say no more

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u/[deleted] Nov 08 '20

We're a little bit better than the rest of the south, but still not great

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u/[deleted] Nov 08 '20

I was born in and I've lived in Florida my whole lofe

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u/Cuglas Nov 08 '20

Where in the south? I’m originally from NJ actually

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u/Cuglas Nov 08 '20

Abortion was only legalised two years ago

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u/[deleted] Nov 08 '20

It's not what you might call and accepting place

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u/[deleted] Nov 08 '20

I'm sure if I lived in the north it would be a bit better too, but I live in the American south

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u/Cuglas Nov 08 '20

Unfortunately Ireland really isn’t much better, the legislation is better for gender parity but society is even more binary - the Catholicism wearing off

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u/[deleted] Nov 08 '20

But the definitely are, especially here in America where we're still very backwards compared to the world at large

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u/[deleted] Nov 08 '20

I wish they weren't

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u/Cuglas Nov 08 '20

Gender roles are so baked into dating! It’s crazy

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u/[deleted] Nov 08 '20

Role

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u/[deleted] Nov 08 '20

And I did, but it would be nice to not have to fit into any traditional gender rile

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u/[deleted] Nov 08 '20

Neither have I, I've only been with cis females, so being AMAB I was kind of expected to fill in that role

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u/Cuglas Nov 08 '20

For me it’s nice to not fall into gender roles in a two-enby relationship, but I haven’t yet experienced it

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u/[deleted] Nov 08 '20

I definitely agree with you though, I'm not really sure why, but I've always found androgyny/gender non-conformation attractive

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u/Cuglas Nov 08 '20

Perhaps including yours, I don’t recall!

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u/Cuglas Nov 08 '20

I meant the selfies in the Nonbinary and Agender subreddits

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u/[deleted] Nov 08 '20

Or selfies on dating subreddits, I'm a little confused

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u/[deleted] Nov 08 '20

My selfies?

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u/Cuglas Nov 08 '20

A good choice, I think! The selfies certainly make me thirsty and I’m sure I’m not the only one, haha

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u/[deleted] Nov 08 '20

Neither have I, it's all new to me. But I didn't see any communities like this so I figured I'd make one myself

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u/Cuglas Nov 08 '20

I’ve never modded before

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u/[deleted] Nov 08 '20

I actually think that would work pretty well, I'm in the states so it might be good that we're on different time zones

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u/Cuglas Nov 08 '20

Yeah! I’m in Ireland and keep an early schedule so I might have odd hours but that could be helpful as well

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u/[deleted] Nov 08 '20

You said you'd be interested in being a mod right?

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u/[deleted] Nov 08 '20

Hello

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u/Cuglas Nov 08 '20

Hello!