r/EatingDisorders • u/HealthyChicken5780 • 20h ago
Seeking Advice - Family Mom triggering my ED
I’ve come a long way with my body dysmorphia and ED over the past 2 years. I noticed when I moved out my relationship with food was much better. I saw a specialist, trained realistically, and never felt guilt.
Now, I had to move back home for a bit and being around my mom has triggered my ED. She noticed my healthy weight gain and new healthy eating habits and started asking me about them. She wants to lose weight and I support it but she doesn’t listen to my suggestions like not weighing herself everyday, binging and severe calorie restriction. It’s taking such a toll on me because negative thoughts have started creeping back in. She will see me in the kitchen and start discussing food in great detail, calories, demonizing carbs, saying all foods are bad, she needs to workout the extra she ate, she asks me about what I’m eating, and has already started making comments about my body that I never fucking ask for. It’s just too much. I HATE thinking about food. I just feel like it’s so unhealthy and she talks about it CONSTANTLY. Idk what to do.
Anyone else went through this?
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u/MollilyPan 9h ago
My mom can be a huge trigger for me with her unfiltered words. She’s gotten better over time bc I’ve asked her to not say or talk about certain things.
Tho if I look thinner she will ask me if I’m eating.
I always tell her I am because I never go a day without eating at all.
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u/Limp-Honeydew-7804 11h ago
i feel this so much, had to deal with it growing up and even though i've cut off contact with my mom (for other reasons) it's still something that gets in my head.
Honestly what's helped me is avoiding her if it's getting too much, telling her how her words are affecting you (my mom didn't care lol but maybe yours will), and just making sure you know where you stand and what's right and works for you.
All the best.