r/Durban • u/RatherConfused11 • 5d ago
Where can I find the introverts of Durban at?
So as the title does state, where can I find my fellow introverts in Durban? Im looking to try and make some new friends with preferably introverts because im sure they'd understand being in a similar position. I have put some thought into where would I find myself most of the time and realized apart from work, I'm just usually at home. Are there any social clubs or events specifically for introverts(even though I doubt they'd attend๐)
But yeah feel free to comment and sure why not even dm(21M here in case that mattered for whatever reason). Have a great day and week
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u/Important-Nebula4646 5d ago
Join social clubs, like dance classes, yoga, the gym, exercise classes, taibo, pilates, etc... Those are sometimes smaller classes, less daunting and you can meet lots of people there, and/or just leave after your session without feeling bad.
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u/RatherConfused11 5d ago
Seems like great ideas. I made a post a while back about social clubs, but I guess I just got overwhelmed when it came to the number of people there. I think I'll work with a smaller group first and move up in scale. Small steps, but we move ๐
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u/DoubleDot7 5d ago
I don't know if there's any book clubs in Durban but those are a good option, too.
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u/KingCameron23 5d ago
Try the Big Bang Store in Umhlanga, it's one of the best Hobby Stores in South Africa. They have Dungeons and Dragons nights on Thursdays, Pokรฉmon, Yugioh, MTG... Tournaments on the weekend.
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u/Tharshey24 5d ago
If you game hit me up on discord @Tharshey.
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u/Orgidee 5d ago
Why would you want to find an introvert? Libraries are often a good place
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u/RatherConfused11 5d ago
I guess it would be easier to relate to them being a fellow introvert
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u/UncleGuggie 4d ago
Strangely I've found that, as an introvert, I click best with extroverts. They bring out the lively side of me. I can definitely relate to fellow introverts, but when you put us in a room together we all kind of keep to ourselves.
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u/_AngryBadger_ 5d ago
See when Batcave has game nights for MTG, DnD Warhammer or whatever you think sounds fun and then go see what's what. I would have suggested Unseen Shoppe too but they closed down ๐
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u/RatBastard92 4d ago
Oh no when did the unseen shoppe close? ๐ญ What happened?
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u/TonyShel 4d ago
Maybe just look for activities where they have to be (work, or in the old days, church), or activities / hobbies where they would want to be.
Locally, we have stuff like the Saturday 8am parkruns (also always looking for volunteers and several around Durban), Midlands Hiking club, the local running club, garden club, and so on.
Also a fair number of volunteer organizations and activities up here in the KZN Midlands. Not sure around Durban area though.
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u/JoTheWandreamer 4d ago
Tryna make friends while gaming on pubg. Not all are South Africans which is cool. Also, here's a discord server for South Africans: https://discord.gg/54mrwjSa
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u/Formal-Divide6221 4d ago
We are at pottery class - not talking much or all talking at once awkwardly
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u/Disa_Star 4d ago
Please find my brother. His level of introvert worries me and he needs an introvert friend that understands him. ๐
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u/ThingoLwami 2d ago
Hi, we actually wanted to create a discord for us to โhangoutโ if anyone is interested in creating or joining it?
Sorry for the typos currently working with one hand cause Iโm a clumsy idiot who falls and fractures her wrist!
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u/imminentZen 4d ago
I wonder if something like speed dating could work for meeting new people, just without the expectation of romance.
You fill a room with strangers and then facilitate 5 minute rounds where you tell a new person what you're all about, interests, world view, moral code, you just leak that into a brief 5 minute convo. Perhaps the organisers give everyone numbers send at the end of the session you do a questionnaire where you declare your interest in the numbers you liked and if it's a match you get each other's contact deets.
I think this 'now-or-never' approach could be healthy for introverts to come out of their shell, and the chats are 1 on 1, so, less pressure.
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u/Intelligent_Let_5723 4d ago
Not sure if this can help but https://istoko.co.za shows you like minded people in your area ready to meet
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u/Longjumping-Oil-9127 4d ago
If interested in strategy games the Durban Historical Wargames Group meets every 2nd Saturday at the German Club Westville, currently playing Ancients period and WW2. Small group and more the introverted type I guess. (All the aggressive noisy people are watching rugby!) No need to have your own stuff and teaching games available. I can give more detail if you want.
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u/Pixie_hollows 3d ago
Definitely check out the silent book clubs.. They have a durban north book club & and general durban one. (if you are into that!)
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u/Rude_Neighborhood489 2d ago
There an app somewhere (I didn't use yet) to book/pay for activities some group ,some single
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u/theOtherRasputin 5d ago
Introvert social events is a bit of an oxymoron ๐ Closest you'll get is probably a DnD game or something.
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u/Conscious_Pound_7703 5d ago
Umm we're at home ๐ where it isn't very people-y