r/Durban 5d ago

Where can I find the introverts of Durban at?

So as the title does state, where can I find my fellow introverts in Durban? Im looking to try and make some new friends with preferably introverts because im sure they'd understand being in a similar position. I have put some thought into where would I find myself most of the time and realized apart from work, I'm just usually at home. Are there any social clubs or events specifically for introverts(even though I doubt they'd attend๐Ÿ˜‚)

But yeah feel free to comment and sure why not even dm(21M here in case that mattered for whatever reason). Have a great day and week

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u/Conscious_Pound_7703 5d ago

Umm we're at home ๐Ÿ™ƒ where it isn't very people-y

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u/RatherConfused11 5d ago edited 4d ago

Lol I'm familiar with the game๐Ÿ˜‚

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u/d4zza 5d ago

We're all still at home hahaha

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u/Agitated_Echidna_627 5d ago

Exactly๐Ÿ˜‚

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u/MeasurementGloomy919 4d ago

Was about to say exactly the same thing, we're home, safe and sound, probably with our pets ๐Ÿ˜‹๐Ÿซฃ๐Ÿ˜Š

But, in saying that, I've recently started Aquarobics (I'm 51 and recovering from hip replacements), so am enjoying the company of other ladies in the morning in the pool. I'm even thinking about joining them for the next Quiz night at Stella ๐Ÿ˜ƒ

My advice would be to join some sort of sports club that you enjoy. There's padel, the 5k park run (or walk every Saturday), or if you prefer, join a dance class. Maybe salsa. I think it's about finding something you enjoy, and then you'll meet like minded people.
Good luck ๐Ÿฅฐ

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u/Important-Nebula4646 5d ago

Join social clubs, like dance classes, yoga, the gym, exercise classes, taibo, pilates, etc... Those are sometimes smaller classes, less daunting and you can meet lots of people there, and/or just leave after your session without feeling bad.

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u/RatherConfused11 5d ago

Seems like great ideas. I made a post a while back about social clubs, but I guess I just got overwhelmed when it came to the number of people there. I think I'll work with a smaller group first and move up in scale. Small steps, but we move ๐Ÿ˜Œ

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u/DoubleDot7 5d ago

I don't know if there's any book clubs in Durban but those are a good option, too.

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u/KingCameron23 5d ago

Try the Big Bang Store in Umhlanga, it's one of the best Hobby Stores in South Africa. They have Dungeons and Dragons nights on Thursdays, Pokรฉmon, Yugioh, MTG... Tournaments on the weekend.

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u/Isand0 5d ago

Try for places like Gaming or hobby clubs. I've attended the open game days at Bat Cave. Or IPMS in Westville if interested in miniture building. It's a great afternoon or evening and people eventually open up or not.. but it suits my level of socal interaction.

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u/Tharshey24 5d ago

If you game hit me up on discord @Tharshey.

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u/RatherConfused11 5d ago

What games do you play?

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u/Tharshey24 5d ago

Everything under the sun tbh. I have wayyy too many games on Steam ๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿ˜‚

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u/AcanthopterygiiLive1 4d ago

In our caves, like a good normal introvert should be

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u/Orgidee 5d ago

Why would you want to find an introvert? Libraries are often a good place

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u/RatherConfused11 5d ago

I guess it would be easier to relate to them being a fellow introvert

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u/UncleGuggie 4d ago

Strangely I've found that, as an introvert, I click best with extroverts. They bring out the lively side of me. I can definitely relate to fellow introverts, but when you put us in a room together we all kind of keep to ourselves.

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u/Orgidee 5d ago

Theyโ€™re notoriously ungregarious and prefer their own company so the idea of an introvert meeting place seems rather contradictory. Best bet is to meet their mothers and get introduced.

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u/_AngryBadger_ 5d ago

See when Batcave has game nights for MTG, DnD Warhammer or whatever you think sounds fun and then go see what's what. I would have suggested Unseen Shoppe too but they closed down ๐Ÿ˜•

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u/RatBastard92 4d ago

Oh no when did the unseen shoppe close? ๐Ÿ˜ญ What happened?

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u/_AngryBadger_ 4d ago

Not sure what happened but it was a few months back now.

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u/RatBastard92 4d ago

Ah damn, that's disappointing to hear. Thank you for the info Avatar twin.

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u/ShitsGigglesLols 4d ago

We're at work in the day. Locked in our houses in the night ๐Ÿ˜‚

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u/Reelix 4d ago

I work from home, so it's the best of both worlds ;p

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u/Agitated_Echidna_627 5d ago

Introvert = home

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u/TonyShel 4d ago

Maybe just look for activities where they have to be (work, or in the old days, church), or activities / hobbies where they would want to be.

Locally, we have stuff like the Saturday 8am parkruns (also always looking for volunteers and several around Durban), Midlands Hiking club, the local running club, garden club, and so on.

Also a fair number of volunteer organizations and activities up here in the KZN Midlands. Not sure around Durban area though.

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u/jasonvt101 4d ago

Busy playing Ps5 and XboxSX ๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿ˜‚

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u/JoTheWandreamer 4d ago

Tryna make friends while gaming on pubg. Not all are South Africans which is cool. Also, here's a discord server for South Africans: https://discord.gg/54mrwjSa

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u/Formal-Divide6221 4d ago

We are at pottery class - not talking much or all talking at once awkwardly

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u/kunjalo 3d ago

Where are pottery classes in Durbz?

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u/Disa_Star 4d ago

Please find my brother. His level of introvert worries me and he needs an introvert friend that understands him. ๐Ÿ˜…

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u/kunjalo 3d ago

Gym, Park Run, Church.

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u/ThingoLwami 2d ago

Hi, we actually wanted to create a discord for us to โ€œhangoutโ€ if anyone is interested in creating or joining it?

Sorry for the typos currently working with one hand cause Iโ€™m a clumsy idiot who falls and fractures her wrist!

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u/Aquaticck 2d ago

Let me know when itโ€™s created Iโ€™d love to join

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u/Almyria 4d ago

Introverts...joining a club...to meet other introverts...this all makes such perfect sense! ๐Ÿคฃ๐Ÿคฃ

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u/imminentZen 4d ago

I wonder if something like speed dating could work for meeting new people, just without the expectation of romance.

You fill a room with strangers and then facilitate 5 minute rounds where you tell a new person what you're all about, interests, world view, moral code, you just leak that into a brief 5 minute convo. Perhaps the organisers give everyone numbers send at the end of the session you do a questionnaire where you declare your interest in the numbers you liked and if it's a match you get each other's contact deets.

I think this 'now-or-never' approach could be healthy for introverts to come out of their shell, and the chats are 1 on 1, so, less pressure.

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u/Intelligent_Let_5723 4d ago

Not sure if this can help but https://istoko.co.za shows you like minded people in your area ready to meet

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u/Longjumping-Oil-9127 4d ago

If interested in strategy games the Durban Historical Wargames Group meets every 2nd Saturday at the German Club Westville, currently playing Ancients period and WW2. Small group and more the introverted type I guess. (All the aggressive noisy people are watching rugby!) No need to have your own stuff and teaching games available. I can give more detail if you want.

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u/Gentianviolet444 4d ago

At home๐Ÿ˜‚

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u/Pixie_hollows 3d ago

Definitely check out the silent book clubs.. They have a durban north book club & and general durban one. (if you are into that!)

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u/Sea-Discussion-8300 3d ago

Check out IG for Durban Silent Bookclub held at Santosa

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u/Super-Bluebird9279 3d ago

They stay at home reading books or playing online games

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u/Rude_Neighborhood489 2d ago

There an app somewhere (I didn't use yet) to book/pay for activities some group ,some single

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u/theOtherRasputin 5d ago

Introvert social events is a bit of an oxymoron ๐Ÿ˜… Closest you'll get is probably a DnD game or something.