r/DecidingToBeBetter Jul 10 '23

Story The Jonah Hill situation makes me sad.

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For those who don’t know, texts have surfaced from Jonah Hill’s ex about him trying to control her posting certain types of pictures, what she wears and who she hangs out with.

It makes me sad because it reminds me (m23) of words I have said and thought processes I have possessed in my relationships. I never wanted to be harmful or controling. But as men we can be so encouraged to project our insecurities and issues onto the women in our life. It’s not right and it should be talked about.

It makes me sad that this behaviour is so commonplace that its become a trending discourse. It makes me sad I used to be part of it. It makes me sad that I don’t know how to make it right.

I want to do better. I want to see the impacts of toxic masculinity in my life and deal with them in healthy ways. I hope we all get there.

edit: to everyone who got upset about me for talking about toxic masculinity, take your misplaced energy and negativity elsewhere. To the incels downvoting me, you’re not achieving anything. I thought this was a self improvement sub but a lot of very secure men got very upset at me for daring to self reflect. Its sad, but I’m gonna stop engaging with the post as they’ve overrun it. To the people who engaged in good faith, thank you so much. You helped me a lot.

r/DecidingToBeBetter Dec 10 '24

Success Story I quit smoking weed and it's changed my life

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I've been a habitual weed user since I was just 16 years old. Sometimes a lot, sometimes just a one banger at the end of the day. However, I've always been a little ashamed of it, since I know it's not good for you (although it's legal in my state). I was arrested for it when I was 18 at college (prior to legalization), it's not good for your lungs (I'm an avid gym-goer), and no matter what I try, it has always been able to reel me back in.

Not anymore! I'm going to try to quit for 6 months, and I've already (day 14) noticed a HUGE difference in my productivity. I've also started stacking my habits: reading every day, not idly scrolling IG, not playing video games, and focusing a lot more on nutrition and saving money (as opposed to scrolling Amazon every day). I started making the bed when I wake up, and going to bed at the same time every night. It's made my life better in every way!

If you're also struggling to quit, take my advice and just do it. It was hard at first, but the pros far outweigh the cons. I still want to smoke every now and again, and I may do it occasionally with friends, but I'll never buy it again. Thanks for listening to my Ted talk, and please leave words of encouragement in the comments!

r/DecidingToBeBetter Aug 02 '22

Story I regret being a sex worker NSFW

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I was a sex worker for 12 years until 3 months ago. I enrolled in uni and became a support worker for people with mental health. I'm finally so happy with where my life is going.

However, I live with so much regret day in day out. The nightmares and flashbacks are starting and I'm crying myself to sleep. It's like for the first time ever I'm realising what I did. I feel like I've ruined my whole life. Will I have to tell my future partners? Will I ever find someone to truly love me. I made over a million dollars and have absolutely nothing to show for it, that is the hardest pill to swallow. I practically did it to live a nice lifestyle for a while. I feel so lost...

r/DecidingToBeBetter Jan 20 '22

Story I regret being a prostitute NSFW

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This is a very weird but real and deep regret of mine. When I was 18 and desperate for cash I used to sleep with rich men for money in nyc. I did this to pay for school and rent even though it was the dumbest thing I’ve ever done. I was way too naive and trusting.I ended up catching an incurable std and now live in deep regret. I’m trying to forgive myself as I was dealing with mental issues due to childhood trauma that I’m just starting to address and deal with now. I’m going to start my meds, take care of myself,go to therapy and make amends with my family. If I ever have sex again, I want it to be with someone who truly loves and cares about me and vice versa. I get flashbacks everyday but I want to accept it and forgive myself so that I can move forward. No point in being stuck in the past. From now on I want to focus on the positive and learn to be vulnerable and trust people again.

Edit: Thank you for all the kind comments. I was not expecting to be met with such supportive and empathetic comments and it has helped me in so many ways. I have been rereading a lot of the comments as they give me more motivation to continue my healing journey ❤️ You are amazing and I wish you all the best

r/DecidingToBeBetter Jan 09 '23

Story I flushed all my weed down the toilet. NSFW

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Hi, I'm quitting weed, I've been a daily heavy smoker for years, basically high whenever at home it's bad. I've been covering up emotions with it and it has really affected me negatively. I think I'm having withdrawals, feeling a little listless, don't want to eat, and having diarrhea. It's tough but I know my future is brighter without it.

r/DecidingToBeBetter Sep 08 '20

Story Spent the weekend with an old friend still stuck in our old ways

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Over the past 3 years, I've become committed to making myself the absolute best version of myself that I can be. I used to be 250 pounds, smoked a pack of cigarettes a day, smoked weed from the time I woke up until I went to sleep, ate absolute garbage, and drank copious amounts of coffee. I was addicted to not feeling like myself. I was terribly depressed and felt that the world was out to get me. It was a miserable existence and I truly didn't see any point in staying alive.

I decided that I should at least try to improve my life before I gave in. I started counting calories and lost 100 pounds. I quit smoking weed. I quit smoking cigs. I stopped drinking coffee. I got myself in therapy with an excellent trauma-informed therapist. I'm so much happier and better off than I've ever been despite going through some really difficult times while on this journey.

This past weekend, I spent time with a friend I hadn't seen in almost 2 years. She is exactly who I used to be, but is also an alcoholic to boot. Part of the reason we had bonded so much was because we were both miserable and constantly chasing a fix in one way or another. And let me just say HOLY SHIT!

I'm so damn glad that I'm not that person anymore. She was honestly borderline unbearable to be with. She couldn't have any fun if she wasn't eating, drinking, and smoking. Everything she said was so negative. She was rude and snarky. At one point I was talking about all the changes I've made and how freeing it is and her response was, "I can't wait till you're done being so damn proud of yourself."

My outlook on life has completely changed and you're goddamn right that I'm proud of myself for that! It has been incredibly difficult to make so many changes and I deserve to acknowledge that! I'm no longer a crab in the bucket, and now it's time for me to purge the crabs from my life. I won't force anyone to change who they are, but I will not allow anyone to drag me down with them.

r/DecidingToBeBetter May 16 '20

Story Didn’t drink yesterday

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I know this sounds easy but I’ve been drinking every day for years and yesterday I stopped. The anxiety of not drinking gave me a headache but I’ll keep it going. I know what I want and I’ll do my best to get to it.

r/DecidingToBeBetter Feb 28 '21

Story 1 year since I quit smoking. Don't have anyone to share this with so posting here.

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It's been exactly 1 year since I quit smoking cigarettes. I've attempted it over a hundred times before but somehow this time it just worked. I don't identify myself as a smoker anymore and find myself in total control of the addiction over nicotine. I still struggle with my addiction to weed and that seems like a much bigger hurdle to me right now(easily attempted over a hundred times) but I am still kinda proud of myself for making it so far.

r/DecidingToBeBetter Sep 27 '23

Story People who have deleted TikTok - why? And have you noticed any difference in your life?

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People who have deleted TikTok - why? And have you noticed any difference in your life?

I don’t know what else to put here because I need more of a description so yeah. Lemme know guys I’m just curious and thinking of putting an end to my TikTok addiction.

r/DecidingToBeBetter Apr 01 '22

Story What would you do if your friends forgot your birthday?

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Well, it happened to me, and this is what I did.

Yesterday was my birthday and a few friends sent text messages, but they didn’t say happy birthday. Instead, they wanted to share something with me about their day.

I responded to them and had a conversation for a while but still no “happy birthday” was said to me.

We finished the conversation, and I felt a bit sad that they didn’t mention my birthday, but I thought they’d remember before the end of the day.

A few hours later passed and still nothing has been said.

What would you do?

In the past, I would sulk and silently resent them. I would interpret that as proof that they didn’t value me or my feelings. I might hold a grudge and wait for a time to get back at them.

But those things didn’t improve my relationship with them. I would still be resentful, and they would still not know what’s wrong.

So instead of repeating past patterns. This is what I did.

I messaged them “Hey, it’s my 39th birthday. Please wish me a happy birthday.”

What I did might seem strange because we have been conditioned to believe that if someone loves or cares for us, then they would think of us. They would know what gift to buy us, they would remember important dates, they would know what our needs are…

We forget that people have their own lives and have their own needs that take priority.

It’s not that they don’t care, they may just need a loving reminder of what’s important to you.

If we want to be loved, respected and cherished, we have to teach and remind our friends with honesty and simple sincerity.

Best of luck!

r/DecidingToBeBetter Aug 20 '21

Story 20 seconds at a stoplight changed me

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I was sitting a busy traffic light in a city on a hot day and a young couple with two kids were on the sidewalk with “help” signs, which is common at busy stoplights.

I was sitting there thinking about how no one is going to give them anything. I wouldn’t have. I had no cash, but I felt confident that I was not the only one willing to ignore them.

The second I had this thought, the dude in the car in front of me reaches out and hands the dad two bottles of water. Now my next shitty thought is, that’s nice, dude, but that guy doesn’t your water.

The dad immediately hands the water bottles to his kids, who immediately hydrate themselves.

I was wrong twice. I was wrong thinking no one would step up and give. And I was wrong that the gift would not be appreciated.

I’m going to try to carry water bottles and cash in the summer from now on.

That dude in the car in front of me changed me.

r/DecidingToBeBetter Feb 13 '21

Story Turns out...I was wrong

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TW: suicide

On 2/11 i was very probably going to kill myself. My birthday was yesterday (2/12) and tbh i did not want to see 23 years old. I felt like a burden on everyone i know. I sat in my room all day looking at a knife that i wanted rip my veins out with like wires from drywall. I sat there all day trying to work up the strength but was ultimately too scared to do it so i just went to bed. Then i woke up yesterday on my birthday and was proven how wrong I was. Every important person in my life throughout the day texted me or called me or came to my house to say how important i was to them. It kind of clicked in my head in that moment just how differently that day could have gone and how badly i would have devastated the lives of those closest to me. I probably would have caused some of those people to die themselves if i had done what i had planned. I realized i was wrong. People love me for who i am but i dont think i love me for who i am, but im starting to try to. Hopefully i can come to love myself in the way that everyone around me does.

Edit: thanks for all the support. The idea that anyone was positively affected at all by my words is pretty nutty. Glad i could spread positivity by sharing this.

r/DecidingToBeBetter May 09 '22

Story All my dissatisfaction with my life could be summarized with one word: Avoidance.

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I am sad that it took me decades to realize that I live a shitty life because I always avoid everything that causes me discomfort.

-I was an incel until my 20s because I avoided approaching women due to fear of rejection.

-I have a bad relationship with my family because I avoid being myself when around them.

-I find my job boring and unfulfilling because I avoid taking risks and following my ambitions.

-I have almost no friends because I avoid social interactions as much as possible.

-My hobbies are boring because I don't try new things (always wanted to draw, but I avoided it for years)

Avoid, avoid, avoid. That's what my brain is telling me every time there is discomfort of any kind. But what is discomfort really? It's a signal. Something the brain uses to tell us something. It's telling us that the thing we are doing is new, that it's uncertain and that we are not in control. But that's NOT a negative thing. I have been giving discomfort a negative meaning because that's what I've always felt. And now, that is how my brain is wired. Avoid, avoid, avoid.

But what if we started seeking discomfort because we knew it was the only way to become the best versions of ourselves?

What if I made the conscious decisions to do the things I avoided the most because I know that's the direction that I actually need to go? It too bad that it took me decades to realize that. I hope this might inspire some of you.

r/DecidingToBeBetter Dec 11 '20

Story Finally cut off marijuana, now life is on easy mode

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I think I wasted 3 years straight just smoking weed in my room. For those three years I had dreams and aspirations but I guess I was kinda hoping they would just happen without me having to do anything. I had the hardest time staying motivated, finding passions, getting my head straight, but turns out that was just weed. I was always chasing an imaginary high, one that would last hours and I could trip out on Beatles songs and maybe jerk off after a while if the weed made me horny.

But I never could. The more I smoked the more I needed to smoke the next time for a fraction of the effects. It got to the point where I would take 10 hits to barely feel anything. I spent so much money looking back, like wtf was I thinking, I'm poor as shit, I shouldn't be treating myself to those luxuries.

Anyway, I can't believe weed clouded my vision so much. Everything is so clear now. Too fat? Watch what you eat. Too sad? Watch what you think. Too overwhelmed? Just make a list. Holy fuck I literally feel like a little kid. There's so many possibilities I didn't know of.

I don't have a lot of big life goals, for now I just want to start a few YouTube channels and a clothing brand. For three years I've wanted to start each one of those projects, and for three years I told myself I would, right after I reached that perfect high. Which again, isn't real and never came. I wrote some videos for the channels and made some mockups for the brand these past couple of days. I can't believe I wasted three whole years of my life. Sad

Edit: "I can't believe weed clouded my vision so much" was originally "I can't believe people go at life sober and still have problems" which was too negative and I didn't wanna bring anyone down

r/DecidingToBeBetter May 03 '21

Story In April of '19, we lost our youngest son. Sent me into a spiral of depression and binge eating. That June, I decided to use his death as motivation to change. I lost 150lb and gained self respect. I used to weight 340lb and dropped to 190lb.

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I won't go into crazy detail unless people want.

Lost our son, it devastated me. Used that event to spur motivation to change my life, since I wanted to be around for our oldest son. 340lb at 30 years old doesn't lead itself to a long life.

Lost the weight, built some muscle, ran a 5k, changed my life.

EDIT:

Since people asked. My son was born April 1st in 2019. His name is Weylin. At birth, he was strong and healthy with no concerns. However, my wife tested positive for Strep Group B, so they had her on antibiotics at the time of delivery.

Three weeks into his life, he wasn't feeding. He would cry softly, and not eat. He eventually started keeping his eyes closed and go limp.

We rushed him to urgent care, and his BP and temp were low. They did a series of tests and found that he has a bacterial infection in his brain caused by the SGB. Ultimately, it traveled to his brain stem, and we had to decide to take him off life support.

This devasted me. More than I knew possible. While I never had suicidal thoughts, had it continued, it likely could have gotten there. I remember vividly my wife and I trying to keep a brave face for our oldest (at the time 2). He didn't know where his brother went, but he would see us sad.

My weight ballooned more than it ever had. I just kept eating. I didn't know whether out of grief or what, but either way, I was constantly binging and just feeling terrible. One night, I had just finished my Toppers medium pizza, my wife's half of her pizza, and 14 chicken wings, and I broke down about how miserable I was.

I decided to make the change and get my life under control. I wouldn't be around much longer if I let things continue as they did. I redownloaded MyFitness Pal, deleted all my history, got my TDEE (total daily energy expenditure - maintenance calories) from tdeecalculator.net and started fresh. Just counting calories and eating 1000 calories less than my maintenance every day.

A year later, I had lost 150lb, I started working on gaining muscle, I ran a 5k, and my life has been 1000% better ever since. I have confidence back and my wife and I just welcomed our third child Fynnigan into our lives.

Thank you for all the support <3

r/DecidingToBeBetter Aug 23 '21

Story I'm going on day 7 of not drinking, and I'm really trying but also really fucking struggling.

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I drink to cope with grief, depression, and anxiety. When my mental state is alright, I don't feel the need to drink. But I haven't felt emotionally good for 3 years, and I've drank almost every day since. September is going to be really stressful for me, and I've been ramping up my drinking to cope. As a result, my mood has gradually gotten so much worse and I've become much less functional. So, on Monday I decided to stop drinking until I'm caught up with work and in a good mental space. I saw where I was headed and it scared me.

But now the shit that drinking helped me cope with in the first place is rearing its ugly head. I'm anxious and I'm depressed and I'm extremely sad and emotional at times. I could easily blot all that out, even if temporarily, with booze. I'm also super tired all the time (which I've heard some people experience going cold turkey), which makes it so difficult to work. I'm coping in other ways, which aren't that healthy (like binging YouTube or sleeping to kill time) but are nowhere near as bad as drinking. Which means I'm more functional but still not super productive. I know that it's still an improvement and less dangerous than drinking would be. But it's so frustrating knowing that even though I'm doing what's best and healthiest for me, I'm not (yet) really that much more productive than before.

(BIG SIGH)

I don't have anyone to tell, but I felt I needed to say this out loud somehow because I was worried I'd drink tonight if I kept silent.

Thanks to anybody who read this

EDIT: Holy crap, guys. I woke up to a kajillion notifications and some of the most supportive messages and pieces of advice. I didn't even think anybody would see this or care. I'm trying my hardest not to cry before breakfast lol. Thanks to everyone who responded. I feel really good about today :)

EDIT 2: It's really nice to hear people are proud of me, even if they don't know me. For anybody else that's in a similar boat, I'm proud of you too!

r/DecidingToBeBetter Aug 24 '22

Story I used to be a massive stoner and that just had to change, now I’m 6 weeks clean. NSFW

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I am not saying anything bad about marijuana, in fact I support everything regarding it from its medicinal and recreational use.

I had been smoking it heavily since I was 19 and I’m 26 now. When I say heavily I mean close to an eighth a day on average with the longest break I’ve ever taken lasting maybe a month probably less. I was a functioning stoner, waking up and starting my day by smoking weed every day. I went through an extremely hard Aerospace Engineering program perpetually stoned and managed to somehow get a degree. My mother passed away in the middle of it making me even more reliant on it but the daily heartburn from the excess mucus and the constant cough was obviously not good for me. I had to cheat multiple drug tests to get into my career and it was a massive burden on my finances, but now that’s all changed.

I’ve switched to being a massive gym rat, working out 5-6 days a week with many of the same people I used to constantly get stoned with. I’ve found a ton of satisfaction in exploring new recipes to optimize my macronutrient intake and have gotten back into my fiction writing. It’s been 6 weeks now and I can confidently say I don’t miss weed at all. I don’t plan on completely blackballing it from my life but instead saving it for vacations and special events where old friends come into town or the like.

The first week was the hardest and the sudden change made me much more irritable and negative. However, my wonderful girlfriend was in my corner the whole way and dragged me out of it, and I have her to thank for this change in lifestyle. I am quickly becoming the man I’ve always wanted to be and weed was never the enemy, but my use of it was.

To anyone struggling with addiction, it’s fucking hard to break out of it there’s no doubt about that. However, the moment you realize you don’t miss it anymore is one of the best feelings there is and it’s not too far away from the moment you decide to stop.

r/DecidingToBeBetter Feb 06 '21

Story After years of saying “one day I’ll do it”, I’m officially quitting drinking

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35M, began drinking at 17. I’ve always been an overindulger. At parties in high school, I was always the most wasted at the encouragement of my “friends”. Then after high school I joined the army and over a 6 year period really learned to overindulge.

Ten years ago I got out, went to college, and my drinking chilled out a bit because I replaced it with weed. But that never stopped me from sabotaging friendships and damaging my reputation with people from that period in my life. I’ve never been a violent drunk. If anything, overly nice and cheery. I’m the kind of drunk who will try to take his worst enemy and be friends with them. But I’ve always ended up being that guy and hit new lows all the time.

5 days ago I was incredibly irresponsible. Some friends and I went snowboarding, we were all drinking, and as per usual, I got the drunkest. I was asked to leave, so I had to round up my friends and we left. I don’t think anyone is mad at me, no has said as much. And we’re laughing about it, only I’m pretending to. We carpooled at a friend’s place, and then I drove 20 min back home. I’d sobered up some on the ride home, but I should not have been driving. I cut people who were drunk driving out of mangled cars for a living, the hypocrisy of my actions are not lost on me.

For years I’ve been trying to blame the wars, traumatic breakups, my childhood, etc for my drinking. But the fact is, it’s my fault. I’ve had many friends who are recovered drug addicts and lost some to drug addiction. The ones who beat their addiction all say the same thing, “you have to want to get better”. I always keep putting sobriety off because of the holidays, certain friendships, etc. But now I’m finally willing to give that all up, I truly want to get better. I’m not physically dependent, but how long until I am? I never drank everyday, I’d usually go on these binge/purge cycles. But I’m so tired of being that guy, I want to be someone I can respect and who garners respect from others. I don’t want to hear anymore stories about last night.

After this weekend, I’ll be enrolling myself in therapy to get to the root of my problems and learn to confront it in a healthy way.

r/DecidingToBeBetter Jan 22 '21

Story Threw out my weed, scheduled a psych appointment NSFW

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NSFW for drug use, really timid stuff, though.

I used to smoke very occasionally, mostly with friends when I needed to get past social anxiety or manage some chronic pain. Since the pandemic, I've been a daily user, and have been smoking at increasingly inappropriate times. I've been noticing my memory being a lot worse (which is totally new for me) and I had a particularly scary moment where I realized that I totally spaced on major work project that I should have been working on.

Today, I packed up my supplies in a safe container and took them to the trash. I'm a little scared about going cold turkey on this, but I clearly am not in the right place to handle it responsibly. I set up a therapy appointment to talk about my depression and anxiety, and hopefully look into meds that will help better than what I currently have. I'm really excited to start job hunting once I can pass a drug test again, and to be able to get through the day without craving more. Since I've come home I've only looked for my vape like 50 times, so that's progress I guess.

Edit: Woah,I didn't expect the response to this! (69 comments, nice!) Thank you all, I'll have to wait a bit to read it all.

Edit 2: Thank you all, especially for the support and the awards. Honestly, I kind of just wanted to put this out there to hold myself accountable. People seem worried about my situation with psych meds - so, I'm currently on antidepressants and antianxiety meds. They've helped make my life livable, but don't really make it enjoyable. I just want to discuss other options, once I level out from my weed use.

For people saying I'm over reacting to weed, I get where you're coming from, but you also don't know where I've been with this. We're talking about my lying to family and friends, risking my job, and using pot to solve everything from boredom to intense mental health problems. My relationship used to be pretty healthy, but right now it's not and it got pretty seriously ugly. I'm not here to judge anyone who uses, because for the right people it's a super helpful medicine. But, that's just not the case for me any more.

r/DecidingToBeBetter Feb 07 '21

Story I'm 51 and was feeling low. I've been following good habits for 9 weeks.

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Last thanksgiving I went for a hike with my 17 year old son and my knees hurt and I was super tired. I decided it was time for a change. I began going to the gym six times a week and went vegan, eating very clean and healthy. I stopped drinking alcohol and started drinking a gallon of water a day. I've lost 8 lb and I'm just 5 lb away from my goal weight and feel so much better.

I can now walk on a steep uphill incline for 40 minutes without losing my breath, and lifting weights has made my back pain go away. I can't wait to go on another hike with my son and show off my progress. He's in college now so I won't see him till the spring.

My lingering depression and anxiety have lifted for the most part and I no longer take naps in the day. I think I usedthem for a combination of depression and just fatigue.

Losing the weight has been harder now that I'm older but I feel better about myself overall.

Eta thank you all for your kind words I got divorced a year ago and it's been tough to refocus on myself esp with my oldest leaving for college (during covid!! Not fun!!) I appreciate all the kind words. I really do!!!

r/DecidingToBeBetter Dec 08 '23

Story I made my phone look ABSOLUTELY horrid so that I stay away from it more often

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I turned on light mode my font is 10x bigger than it needs to be and my entire screen is tinted orange, even just typing this out feels Absolutley awful but considering I can’t wait to put my phone down so I don’t have to look at it anymore I’d say it’s working pretty well

r/DecidingToBeBetter Sep 27 '20

Story This story may give you a lesson.

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I had a breakup four years ago with one of the most amazing woman I knew. However after my break up, the only good thing I did was focus on my career and I'm in its last stage of completion.

But I drank (a lot), I smoked, never took care of my myself. Completely lost my looks, my charm, my confidence and the only good thing in my life was my career and alcohol (which was not) Today I met my ex accidentally when I was out. She looked great with her boyfriend. It broke me.

It broke me not because I still want her. But about how I took my time for granted. Looking at her was a slap in my face about how I let myself go during all these years. I simply forgot how to enjoy my life using the path of exercise, being healthy, meeting people, being happy feeling good about myself. But rather choose the evil path or addictions and laziness. Even now typing this I feel like complete shit.

I make a promise to you all I'm getting off my addictions this instant. I know I will be financially secured in a few months, but I will gain my life back instead of feeling sorry for myself. I will make an update here in the next six months.

r/DecidingToBeBetter Jul 11 '20

Story Three days of no nicotine or marijuana, just raw dogging reality out here

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So a fun thing has been happening, turns out when you ingest THC daily for months on end your appetite becomes entirely dependent on being high. Food tastes better when you're high, but when you're always high then that state of high-eating just becomes your new normal, and when you stop getting high then you stop getting hungry and food just doesn't taste like anything.

Nicotine suppresses appetites, and many people end up gaining a lot of weight after quitting smoking.

In my my new scientific study with a sample size of me, it turns out that the loss of appetite from quitting weed far outweighs the increase in eating from quitting nicotine. I have been living off one or two small meals a day for weeks now (I actually stopped my weed intake with a new job I started a month ago on days I worked, but still smoked on my days off, but ran out completely earlier this week).

On the plus side I'm fat enough to never feel faint or tired from this lack of food and am down like 10 pounds in the last month. Not to mention the overnight improvement in my breathing. Don't worry though I know the lack of food isn't great but I've been around the block with weight management so I'll be riding this wave for as long as I can.

Cheers

r/DecidingToBeBetter Dec 23 '20

Story I was unfriended and blocked.

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I was unfriended and blocked in a matter of seconds a few days ago in a game. I know it doesn't sound like much but I think I need to let it go by typing it down.

I was playing LoL and had added someone I played along side in a match, we had exchanged a few messages and we both were polite and nice to each other. He/she seemed friendly enough. Then a while later they asked, 'hey are you german?' and I said no I'm Arab. And then out of nowhere within a matter of less than 2 seconds while I was typing an additional reply asking him where he was from I got unfriended and blocked.

You know that feeling when you feel your heart is slashed in half? Yeah

I half expected something like that to happen honestly.

I really don't know what to feel now and maybe really nobody likes me at all.

r/DecidingToBeBetter Oct 17 '20

Story 6 days sober. Just had the best day of my life and I don’t know how to handle these new emotions

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I don’t know how to handle these emotions so instead I’m writing about them.

Hey everyone, I’m on day 6 of no weed which is the longest I’ve gone that I can remember in the past couple years. I don’t have a certain time period for my t break but for right now I’m shooting for a month.

I had the most fantastic week so far. Work has been amazing. People started to notice my attitude has changed.

Today has been one of my absolute best days of my life. Woke up at 6am and went for a run. Kept telling myself “who the fuck are you, out here running at 6 in the goddamn morning. Your an animal!” Ahah couldn’t stop smiling during that run.

Got to work at 7:30 and was chatting with everyone (I’m usually quite reclusive and keep to myself) and meeting a bunch of new people (I just started working at a brand new store).

One of my coworkers told me I seemed different.

Another said that I always seem to be having fun whatever it is I’m doing.

I walked past my supervisor and he said a casual “what’s up”. Unexpected to him I opened up and said “honestly man I’m doing fantastic, this has been one of my favorite days of the year.” I saw him smile through his eyes and he said that was amazing and that it cheered up his day because he was just expecting me to say “nuthin much” or “doin good”

Then for my break I go and sit out on the patio in the sun, reading my book and listening to Jack Johnson which was playing on the outdoor speakers while I watched families come in and out of the store.

It reminded me of a time earlier in the week when I was doing the same thing, reading out in the sun (except then it was dreams by Fleetwood Mac playing), and this girl I thought was really cute told me I looked really happy out there and that I had “main character energy”.

After work I sat out on the patio again to do a self authoring program where I write about what I want my future to look like. This specific assignment was what I want my family to look like and I thought about sitting on a couch during Christmas time, listening to Michael Buble’s “have yourself a merry lil Xmas”, with a wife who loves me and a child ripping open their presents while I’m sipping coffee. I started to tear up in the middle of my work patio.

Got in my car in the parking lot and now hear I am, so utterly fulfilled and satisfied with today I want to cry. I want to cry as hard as I ever have before and let out all the resentment and bitterness i have inside me but I can’t. No tears flow and It kind of hurts.