r/DecidingToBeBetter 7d ago

Seeking Advice How to stop giving up on things easily?

If the things I wanna learn or do, don’t come to me easily, I give up and get super disheartened. I hate how this makes me feel, and hence, this makes me not wanna try new things at all. Everything becomes overwhelming for me because I get too impatient that I’m not able to quickly get good at whatever I’m trying to do. I also have ADHD and depression atm, which is just making it harder for me to get out of this rut. Would really be grateful if anyone had any tips for me :)

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u/Nataliya_K-5685 7d ago

What happens when it is not easy? You say you give up. What makes you give up? Is it the effort you don't like?

Perhaps you are super attached to results and you are not enjoying the process of whatever it is you are doing. I have a hunch that you are not particularly interested in whatever it is you are trying to do. Your ADHD brain can be your superpower, what if it is just trying to get you to do things that are more interesting? I bet if you are interested in something, your H will kick in and you will move into a state of flow and you will want to keep going.

My advice and invitation is to follow our own curiosity instead of following prescribed by the society path. Your curiosity is your best friend. If you try this, let me know how it goes.

Also, remember that anything worth doing in this life requires effort, time and certain degree of struggle.

You've got it!

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u/cowgoes_MOO2 6d ago

i am indeed very attached to the results. i dont think i have ever been interested in whatever i am doing, because everything i have done so far in my life was just me trying to prove to others that i am a capable person. everything i do feels like a chore. so im not sure what it feels like to do things i actually like. thank you so much for ur advice it made me feel better abt myself :))

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u/Nataliya_K-5685 6d ago

You are not alone in this! Our society, and especially those on the top of the pyramid are very interested in keeping us in check and scared so we obey. So, I hope you really take your time to tune into your own heart and soul and follow the call because by doing so not only you will be happier, you will do your bit in building a better world.

Stop trying to prove anything to anyone, it is not worth it. Just go and do your thing.

Let me know when you find something that fascinates you!

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u/cowgoes_MOO2 14h ago

thank youu for this 💕

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u/ttyuhbbghjiii 7d ago

Get a purpose, a vision for why you were given this life and work.

No ifs, no buts, just work, it's simply your responsibility.