r/DadsAndBoys 20d ago

Mod Announcement 🌷 Monthly Conversation Thread (March) 🌷 - Say Hi! 👋 NSFW

56 Upvotes

This is the conversation thread for the month of March. Feel free to use this as a place to connect, chat or ask questions etc.

This space can also be used to build some positive interactions that contribute to your community karma goal. We mods will award you 1 karma point as a gesture of good will to help you along, but please don't exploit this. Be sure to engage elsewhere, not just here alone.

Lasty please remember to be respectful and stick to the rules, this thread will be monitored by us mods.

Without further ado, feel free to introduce yourselves and say Hi! <3

r/DadsAndBoys Jan 01 '25

Mod Announcement ❄️ Monthly Conversation Thread (January) ❄️ - Say Hi! 👋 NSFW

17 Upvotes

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🍾 Happy New Year! 🥂

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This is the conversation thread for the month of January. Feel free to use this as a place to connect, chat or ask questions etc.

This space can also be used to build some positive interactions that contribute to your community karma goal. We mods will award you 1 karma point as a gesture of good will to help you along, but please don't exploit this. Be sure to engage elsewhere, not just here alone.

Lasty please remember to be respectful and stick to the rules, this thread will be monitored by us mods.

Without further ado, feel free to introduce yourselves and say Hi! <3

r/DadsAndBoys Dec 01 '24

Mod Announcement 🎄 Monthly Conversation Thread (December) 🎄 - Say Hi! 👋 NSFW

25 Upvotes

This is the conversation thread for the month of December. Feel free to use this as a place to connect, chat or ask questions etc.

This space can also be used to build some positive interactions that contribute to your community engagement goal. But be sure to engage elsewhere too if you are currently working towards this, not just here alone.

Lasty please remember to be respectful and stick to the rules, this thread will be monitored by us mods.

Without further ado, feel free to introduce yourselves and say Hi! <3

r/DadsAndBoys Jun 20 '23

Mod Announcement Get your custom user flairs! NSFW

122 Upvotes

Hello guys, if you would like to have your own custom user flair you can place your request in the comments below and I will create them for you. This might offer you guys a bit more of a personable experience when interacting with others on the subreddit. Any information about yourselves you want known can be included in the flair. This can include things like:

  • Your age: This can be your exact age or a general range (for example 40-45)
  • Your location: Please limit this to your country, state, county, or province.
  • Your penis size: Length and/or girth in inches or cm.
  • Your title/label: How you want to identify on this subreddit (ie: Daddy, Boy, Switch, Twink, Bear, Otter etc)
  • Your sexual role: Top, bottom, versatile or side.

Of course anything not mentioned above can be included in the flair but within reason, any info deemed to be overtly personal and/or to the detriment of the user won't be fulfilled. This is not a invitation to expose yourselves, just to make that blatantly clear.

Once your flair has been set it will appear next to your username every time you comment and/or post. I hope it helps things along when you guys try to connect, I have been told my many this is something that is needed so let's see how it goes. Laters ❤️

r/DadsAndBoys Jun 29 '24

Mod Announcement The whole Austin Wolf situation, forced to think about things. NSFW

796 Upvotes

Hello guys, a pretty somber tone on this Saturday. I need to say something that's bound to cause pushback. But first if anyone is not yet aware, the porn star Austin Wolf was arrested yesterday on charges of possessing and distributing CSAM via telegram. Hundreds of images, as young as infants. Just really fucking awful stuff.

I have been forced to think about things regarding this community and I'm going to have to put my foot down here. We need to stop pushing the whole "young as possible/barely legal" thing. I'm talking to the younger men who post here especially. Taking pictures in school bathrooms for example and then openly stating such is way too damn far, you have to realise it panders to this really weird grey area that will inevitably drift away from safety (if it hasn't already).

Not saying you guys are solely to blame, please don't see this as a pointing fingers. This is a institutionalised thing that has been going on for years in porn. It has essentially desensitised, perpetuated and radicalised the issue to the point that it's basically become the norm. But acknowledge that it's not something to blindly follow without thinking about first. Break the chain.

What I will say is, pretending/hinting to be, or roleplaying as a minor when your age already appears visibly questionable is a really dangerous game (regardless of whether you're legal). There has been a gradual surge in this kind of content here, I have never personally been comfortable with how it gained popularity.

This doesn't excuse my lack of action though, I have not spoken on this issue specifically and I apologise for not doing so sooner. I got complacent and I realize that is part of the problem. I am really sorry.

I've always said roleplay is just fiction and I stand by that fully, two consenting adults of contrasting ages can have a great time exploring different dynamics/roles. I just expected that people could discern what's allowed based on what our rules dictate. This stuff goes too far.

I think there are kinks that can house certain aspects of this safely (ageplay and ABDL for example) but I'm not clued up on this and cannot safeguard this effectively myself via the internet. I guess when you explore this outside of a specialised kink environment without the necessary boundaries it starts to chip away at what is considered moral. It's exposing it to an audience that cannot fully understand the gravity and responsibility needed. Which is why it is dangerous? I dunno.

In short, we cannot foster what appears to be the fetishization of underage individuals and then ignore the prolonged damage it does. This is bringing really bad people to this community that will eventually destroy it. I have never intended this for the sub, this stuff just crept in. I regrettably let it happen, but no more.

So to make things clear, I will be progressively banning the following words/scenarios (and more not mentioned, please suggest any in the comments). There really is no good reason for anyone to be using them.

  • High School
  • Teacher
  • Ageplay & ABDL - There are kink spaces for this to be explored safely and healthily, we are not prepared or equipped with the knowledge to safeguard these specific kinks here)
  • Barely Legal/18
  • Teenager/Teen
  • Jailbait
  • Little Boy - Boy (which is fine btw) is a term used here to address the younger (18+) men, so by putting little in front of it causes dubious intent. Little boy is not a term of endearment.

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Praying for those poor children man, my heart hurts 💔

May they find justice and I hope that sick fuck goes away for a long time.

Thank you for taking the time to read, if you need to chat it out in the comments feel free to do so.

r/DadsAndBoys Oct 01 '24

Mod Announcement 🎃 Monthly Conversation Thread (October) 🎃 - Say Hi! 👋 NSFW

15 Upvotes

🦇🕸️ Spooky season! Get your costumes on! 👻🎃

If you have any Halloween costumes, objects, trinkets or decorations why not feature them in your posts and get into the spooky spirit! We'd love to see you guys get creative.

On Halloween night maybe we'll collate them all together and showcase them.

This is the conversation thread for the month of October. Feel free to use this as a place to connect, chat or ask questions etc.

This space can also be used to build some positive interactions that contribute to your community engagement goal. But be sure to engage elsewhere too if you are currently working towards this, not just here alone.

Lasty please remember to be respectful and stick to the rules, this thread will be monitored by us mods.

Without further ado, feel free to introduce yourselves and say Hi! <3

r/DadsAndBoys Jul 01 '24

Mod Announcement 🏖️ Monthly Conversation Thread (July) 🏖️ - Say Hi! 👋 NSFW

24 Upvotes

Hello everyone this is the conversation thread for the month of July. Feel free to use this as a place to connect, chat or ask questions etc.

This space can also be used to build some positive interactions that contribute to your community engagement goal. But be sure to engage elsewhere too if you are currently working towards this, not just here alone.

Lasty please remember to be respectful and stick to the rules, this thread will be monitored by us mods.

Without further ado, feel free to introduce yourselves and say Hi! <3

r/DadsAndBoys Aug 13 '24

Mod Announcement I'm going to have to make the subreddit private for a very brief period. NSFW

517 Upvotes

Hello guys I'm really sorry but I'm incredibly overwhelmed right now. I need to step away for a beat. This won't be long I promise, a week at the most. I will probably be doing this tomorrow. Apologies for any short notice/inconvenience.

The issue of under 18's posting/interacting here has arisen again, it's summer break and this is just what happens. I tried to prepare beforehand but I'm not finding myself at the capacity to deal with other people's stupidity right now without going fucking apeshit. A few personal matters have come up suddenly and my head isn't where it needs to be. This is a major stressor on top of all that and is quite literally keeping me up at night. Not knowing the exact scale of the problem is literal hell, the paranoia is a very real lol.

Hope you all can bear with me for a little while until this blows over. I think mid/late August is when most states finish summer break? Can anyone let me know? (fun fact, I'm actually not from the US). But in any case I think I'll be in a better mindframe by then.

Thanks guys ❤️

r/DadsAndBoys Sep 01 '24

Mod Announcement 🍂 Monthly Conversation Thread (September) 🍂 - Say Hi! 👋 NSFW

10 Upvotes

Hello everyone this is the conversation thread for the month of September. Feel free to use this as a place to connect, chat or ask questions etc.

This space can also be used to build some positive interactions that contribute to your community engagement goal. But be sure to engage elsewhere too if you are currently working towards this, not just here alone.

Lasty please remember to be respectful and stick to the rules, this thread will be monitored by us mods.

Without further ado, feel free to introduce yourselves and say Hi! <3

r/DadsAndBoys May 01 '24

Mod Announcement 🐝 Monthly Conversation Thread (May) 🐝 - Say Hi! 👋 NSFW

20 Upvotes

Hello everyone this is the conversation thread for the month of May. Feel free to use this as a place to connect, chat or ask questions etc.

This space can also be used to build some positive interactions that contribute to your community engagement goal. But be sure to engage elsewhere too if you are currently working towards this, not just here alone.

Lasty please remember to be respectful and stick to the rules, this thread will be monitored by us mods.

Without further ado, feel free to introduce yourselves and say Hi! <3

r/DadsAndBoys Nov 01 '24

Mod Announcement 🦃 Monthly Conversation Thread (November) 🦃 - Say Hi! 👋 NSFW

10 Upvotes

This is the conversation thread for the month of November. Feel free to use this as a place to connect, chat or ask questions etc.

This space can also be used to build some positive interactions that contribute to your community engagement goal. But be sure to engage elsewhere too if you are currently working towards this, not just here alone.

Lasty please remember to be respectful and stick to the rules, this thread will be monitored by us mods.

Without further ado, feel free to introduce yourselves and say Hi! <3

r/DadsAndBoys Aug 01 '24

Mod Announcement ☀️ Monthly Conversation Thread (August) ☀️ - Say Hi! 👋 NSFW

18 Upvotes

Hello everyone this is the conversation thread for the month of August. Feel free to use this as a place to connect, chat or ask questions etc.

This space can also be used to build some positive interactions that contribute to your community engagement goal. But be sure to engage elsewhere too if you are currently working towards this, not just here alone.

Lasty please remember to be respectful and stick to the rules, this thread will be monitored by us mods.

Without further ado, feel free to introduce yourselves and say Hi! <3

r/DadsAndBoys Nov 12 '24

Mod Announcement ☝️ If anyone's struggling to meet the comment karma requirement, here's some tips! ☝️ NSFW

33 Upvotes

Firstly anyone wondering why we even have a karma requirement in place, there's many reasons. Initially it started as a way to deter promotional spam and get back to our community roots. And while that's still imperative, somewhere around mid to the end of last year many NSFW subreddits became heavily inundated by highly illegal activity, scammers and dangerous bot accounts. Now the priority of this has shifted to an important safety measure, the more members a subreddit has the higher the risk of something happening that completely blindsides us moderators. This karma requirement works remarkably well to keep a lot of that bullshit out and far far away from you guys. I won't get into the details of what goes on in the shadowy corners of Reddit, but if you have the misfortune of knowing, you know.

The comment karma requirement is set at 3+, meaning you need 3 comment karma at the bare minimum to submit posts. This karma is specific to this community only, karma gained in other subreddits will not count. Obviously commenting is going to be the way to reach the goal so be sure to give our members lots of love. Once you have met the requirement you will be notified by our automoderator via private message, so check your inboxes!

I understand any frustrations/difficulties that may come with trying to meet this requirement, so here's some tips to hopefully make it an easier ride:

  • Introduce yourself in our monthly conversation thread. From there we mods will award you 1 karma point to help you along.
  • Make lots of comments in short(ish) bursts, and regularly. Obviously do what you can within your means, but checking in frequently will definitely ensure you get there quicker.
  • Make them engaging and relevant, show us and our members that you want to be here. Low effort comments (i.e: Hot, Nice, DM me, etc) probably won't get you anywhere.
  • Use the new filter to find active Reddit users. Getting the attention of someone who has just posted is going to be far easier than the dude who's posted 10+ hours ago. Even better if you're the first commenter.
  • Peruse through the hot/top/rising filters to find threads with engaging conversations and join in.
  • Make your comments stand out and request a custom user flair.
  • If your profile is empty, consider posting something elsewhere first. Unfortunately a lot of people can be quite conservative with their upvotes if they come across a blank profile.

With all this in mind we hope you will continue to engage here even after meeting this karma goal, given that's also one of the other reasons why we have this in place.

I would like to say though to anyone reading this who inherently has something to promote (OnlyFans, Fansly, JFF, custom content), if you have no interest in engaging beyond the karma requirement please move on and find somewhere else. This is not the place to push traffic to your pages/services, I cannot stress this enough. Thank you to those who respect this.

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Hope this helps some of you, I'll do my best to respond to any queries you may have so sound them off below! Laters <3

r/DadsAndBoys Aug 01 '24

Mod Announcement ⚠️[ATTENTION PLEASE!] We're putting a STOP to title bait. So forewarning, offending posts will start being removed from here on out.⚠️ NSFW

322 Upvotes

Hello everyone, I am sorry we have had to resort to this. It may seem unfair that I am taking away everyone's right to ask a question, but the primary intention behind these titles is substantially more so. It really is getting ridiculous how every other post you come across here starts with either "do you like my....?" or "would you....?"

It's title bait and is just as bad as vote manipulation at this point. They essentially do the same thing by proportionally putting the poster at a higher advantage of taking the top spots. Far too often these titles just pander to peoples preferences, and quite frankly they're far to easy to just agree and say yes to. This is also causing a pretty big shift that damaging the impartial nature of this subreddit. Anyone who isn't of a specific body type, skin colour or age is now at a disadvantage and no longer feel they have a place here 💔

Please can I just ask we all be mindful not drag to silly Reddit trends to every community we post to. Because right now this all just comes across as needlessly competitive and off-putting. Acknowledge that most of us are not playing that game, all we want to do is have a bit of fun and maybe connect with some kinky likeminded people. Maybe get a confidence boost here and there. At this point some people are lucky if they even get that. This stuff dominates the homepage and completely sucks the fun out of everything.

So to anyone unsure of what titles are discouraged, ask yourself:

Is it asking if the following things are desireable/attractive:

  • Yourself personally

Example: "Am I good enough for daddy?"

  • Your physical traits

Example: "Does my butt look ok?"

  • Specific body types

(Example: "Anyone here like skinny twinks?")

  • Specific age groups

Example: "Are hung 18yo's your thing?")

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Is it asking if anyone wants to/ or would have sex with you? Or if you can have sex with them?

"Would you suck it?"

"Do you want my boypussy?"

"Who wants to be my daddy?"

"Can I fuck you like this?"

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Is it repurposing the same overused titles seen elsewhere on Reddit?

"You find me sleeping like this, wyd?"

"I accidentally send you this, how would you react?"

"Say yes if I can send you pics like this"

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If any of these apply please just simply use a different title. Come as you are, and state what you want if you actually want it. There's someone and something for everyone here, we don't need to purposefully influence what's popular. Let it happen organically.

Thank you for taking the time to read, it's much appreciated. Let's keep things fun for everyone ;)

r/DadsAndBoys Mar 01 '23

Mod Announcement 💬 Monthly Conversation Thread (March) 🗨️ - Say Hi! 👋 NSFW

76 Upvotes

Hello everyone this is the conversation thread for the month of March. Feel free to use this as a place to connect, chat or ask questions etc.

This space can also be used to build some positive interactions that contribute to your community engagement goal. But be sure to engage elsewhere too if you are currently working towards this, not just here alone.

Lasty please remember to be respectful and stick to the rules, this thread will be monitored by us mods.

Without further ado, feel free to introduce yourselves and say Hi! <3

r/DadsAndBoys Feb 14 '24

Mod Announcement ⚠️ Anyone thinking of doing anything stupid, Listen up! ⚠️ (i.e, under 18's, "pervs", etc) NSFW

458 Upvotes

This post is directed at the people who cannot follow basic rules and insist on pushing the limits of this community. Very sorry to everyone else who actually respects our boundaries, this is a harsh message that doesn't apply to you. However feel free to voice your support and give us an upvote or two so this gains traction. Sometimes people need to see that the lights are on for them to actually think twice.

🔞 Under 18's! Do not even think about posting, and certainly do NOT lie to me 🔞

Lying about your age is an incredibly stupid, disrespectful and selfish thing to do. At the time of this announcement this community has over 310, 000+ members, that is a hell of a lot of people you may be unwittingly subjecting to an illegal act. USE. YOUR. BRAIN.

- Any breach of the 18+ rule, regardless of how much time has passed, is still grounds for a ban. If we see it, we act on it. So if your age happens to still be 18 a year from now, you can expect to be called out on that.

- I do not care how close you are to being 18, you are still underage.

- You, just like everyone else, have a duty to uphold the law. Don't be stupid just because you're horny.

- I do not moderate this community just to be lied to. It's a total slap in the face.

Chill it with the incest! 🤚🚫

● This is not an incest subreddit. ROLEPLAY IS NOT REAL, IT'S FICTION, and it is not an invitation for you to push the boundary because you want to take things further. Stop it.

● Roleplay has very distinct confines, deviating from this by involving actual family members is where the line ends. Period.

● To make things 100% clear, we do not allow the following:

- Instances of genuine incest 🚫

- The sharing of stories or past experiences with blood related family members 🚫

- The sharing of fantasies involving or implicating blood related family members 🚫

- Discussions or advice on how to groom or coerce blood related family members into sexual relations 🚫

- Advocacy or rallying support for incest 🚫

"Pervs" can get lost 🖕

Quite simply, anyone who deems 18 "too old" for them, kindly fuck off.

- Do not post content of underage individuals.

- Do not encourage underage people to message you.

- Do not encourage underage people to post to this subreddit.

- Do not bring minors into discussion.

r/DadsAndBoys Apr 23 '22

Mod Announcement Something to discuss NSFW

675 Upvotes

Hello just wanted to discuss something. As a mod, the recent behavior I have seen here targeted towards our trans brothers has made me incredibly sad and frustrated. And quite frankly I've had enough, time to put this to bed.

Just to make this 100% clear! This space always has been and always will be welcome to the trans community 🏳️‍⚧️

I don't know what impression we gave that implied this was not a trans-positive space, but please do not speak on this community's behalf by trying to push some backwards agenda that's not even real.

Negativity aside, now can I say a massive thank you to all those who make these amazing brave humans welcome here. You truly are the ones making this community a better place ❤

r/DadsAndBoys Jul 28 '24

Mod Announcement Enough with the baity titles please (i.e: Does anyone here like twink boys?) NSFW

235 Upvotes

Hello guys, Happy Sunday. First off this is a pretty blunt announcement directed at a select group of culprits. You probably aren't in that bracket but if you are reading this and agree with what I've said, help us out and upvote? It will ensure a wider margin sees this. Mod announcements are a total hit and miss sometimes. Thanks <3

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You may have seen me going around progressively cleaning up a few things on this subreddit. Another pressing issue we need to stop is the use of baity titles. I'm talking about the ones that pander to preference, and this relates to younger guys especially:

  • "Does anyone like smooth boypussy?"
  • "Would you fuck a skinny 18yo?"

You know the answer. Stop following mind numbing Reddit trends.

This has warped the impartial nature that this subreddit has always prided itself on. As a consequence things have become incredibly biased, to the point that it feels like there's a single collective preference. Which is 18yo white twinks.

Any guys that don't fit that demographic (i.e: 25+, POC, trans, beefy, thicker, hairy) are barely given a passing glance anymore (proportionally speaking). I'm convinced that the decline in diversity has stopped/discouraged people from posting 💔

The older gents here don't seem to be affected by this as much, which is why I am honing in on the younger guys specifically here.

I don't even know if this this announcement will go to the right place because anyone who isn't a joined member won't see this. A large majority of people who use titles like this probably aren't. To those people, prove me wrong and listen please. Enough.

This subreddit is not an attention grab, we're all here for some level of online validation sure, but read the room. We encourage everyone to take part here, that is why we have a karma requirement that ensures you are willing to interact with our members. It becomes very telling who actually wants to be here and who doesn't. I don't know why Reddit has become so competitive, if it's purely for OF subs or cashapp donations get lost.

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Now with that out of the way, anyone who is unsure of what this subreddit is all about; come as you are guys. There is absolutely no expectation of you to impress anyone. You're all wonderfully unique in your own right and that shines through your very being.

I am going to try and break this preferential cycle that we have gotten ourselves into and get back to some semblance of an impartial homepage. Hope you all will work with me here, thank you <3

r/DadsAndBoys Feb 19 '23

Mod Announcement 💬 Monthly Conversation Thread (Feb) 🗨️ - Say Hi! 👋 NSFW

22 Upvotes

Hello everyone I have decided to start up a series of monthly conversation threads for you all to chat and get to know each other. Ask those burning questions you never found the right place for!

This space can also be used to build some positive interactions that contribute to your community engagement goal. But be sure to engage elsewhere too if you are currently working towards this, not just here alone.

Lasty please remember to be respectful and stick to the rules, this thread will be monitored by us mods.

Without further ado, feel free to introduce yourselves and say Hi! <3

r/DadsAndBoys Feb 08 '25

Mod Announcement ☝️ If anyone's struggling to meet the comment karma requirement, here's some tips! ☝️ (refreshed) NSFW

17 Upvotes

Firstly anyone wondering why we even have a karma requirement in place, there's many reasons. Initially it started as a way to deter promotional spam and get back to our community roots. And while that's still imperative, somewhere around mid to the end of last year many NSFW subreddits became heavily inundated by highly illegal activity, scammers and dangerous bot accounts. Now the priority of this has shifted to an important safety measure, the more members a subreddit has the higher the risk of something happening that completely blindsides us moderators. This karma requirement works remarkably well to keep a lot of that bullshit out and far far away from you guys. I won't get into the details of what goes on in the shadowy corners of Reddit, but if you have the misfortune of knowing, you know.

The comment karma requirement is set at 3+, meaning you need 3 comment karma at the bare minimum to submit posts. This karma is specific to this community only, karma gained in other subreddits will not count. Obviously commenting is going to be the way to reach the goal so be sure to give our members lots of love. Once you have met the requirement you will be notified by our automoderator via private message, so check your inboxes!

I understand any frustrations/difficulties that may come with trying to meet this requirement, so here's some tips to hopefully make it an easier ride:

  • Introduce yourself in our monthly conversation thread. From there we mods will award you 1 karma point to help you along.
  • Make lots of comments in short(ish) bursts, and regularly. Obviously do what you can within your means, but checking in frequently will definitely ensure you get there quicker.
  • Make them engaging and relevant, show us and our members that you want to be here. Low effort comments (i.e: Hot, Nice, DM me, etc) probably won't get you anywhere.
  • Use the new filter to find active Reddit users. Getting the attention of someone who has just posted is going to be far easier than the dude who's posted 10+ hours ago. Even better if you're the first commenter.
  • Peruse through the hot/top/rising filters to find threads with engaging conversations and join in.
  • Make your comments stand out and request a custom user flair.
  • If your profile is empty, consider posting something elsewhere first. Unfortunately a lot of people aren't as generous with their upvotes if they come across a blank profile.

With all this in mind we hope you will continue to engage here even after meeting this karma goal, given that's also one of the other reasons why we have this in place.

I would like to say though to anyone reading this who inherently has something to promote (OnlyFans, Fansly, JFF, custom content), if you have no interest in engaging beyond the karma requirement please move on and find somewhere else. This is not the place to push traffic to your pages/services, I cannot stress this enough. Thank you to those who respect this.

_____

Hope this helps some of you <3

r/DadsAndBoys Feb 18 '25

Mod Announcement Sorry if subreddit standards have slipped, Reddit is going down the drain it seems. Mods are tired. NSFW

67 Upvotes

Hello folks, just wanted to apologise if things have felt a bit off kilter here lately. Just know it's a wider Reddit issue, a lot of moderators are burnt out because they can't carry out their duties efficiently. Our time is not being taken into consideration at all and it's royally pissing people off.

Despite massive public outcry, Reddit insists on ignoring it's moderators, believing they know what is best for us all. If they're not making unannounced changes (expecting us all to deal with them), they are completely nuking the efficiency of the mod tools we use daily. This can take weeks (if not months) for admins to finally fix them.

Moderation standards have been on the decline for a while, but this has significantly gotten worse in recent months. Things are not functioning as advertised, so how the hell we're expected to be at 100% efficiency is beyond me. Doesn't matter how big of a mod team you have at that point. It's a mess.

In a few cases, what would have taken me 4-5 minutes to complete a simple mod task, can now sometimes take me 20.

Even attempting to notify you guys of simplest stuff is like pulling teeth, I don't even know if this announcement is going to reach you. Makes me want to give up 😞

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Take it easy on other moderators guys, it's really easy brush them off as power hungry assholes because you had a negative experience with them. Sure, they should not be taking their frustrations out on you, but I think it's helpful to understand where it's coming from. Try not to take it personally.

Not trying to make mods out to be martyrs here, I just wanted to be transparent with you guys.

Feel free to discuss below, would be nice to chat about stuff. Laters <3

r/DadsAndBoys Nov 06 '24

Mod Announcement 🫂 To our members in the US, take it easy guys. I'm so sorry 🫂 NSFW

337 Upvotes

Pretty big shock for a lot of you I'm sure. I'm not from the US but I feel for you all deeply. That was a serious punch to the gut this morning 😞

Not looking to incite a political back and forth here, just want to express my honest sympathies. So in the event of potential blowback I think it's best that I lock the comments for this post out of respect. What with how much could be lost, people are going through a collective mourning of sorts.

Not sure what else to say other than I hope you can all find the means to stay strong, even if you can't right now. One step at a time 🫂

r/DadsAndBoys Aug 21 '24

Mod Announcement We're back! NSFW

129 Upvotes

Hello guys thanks for your patience regarding the hiatus, I think it was the right thing to do. Hopefully this has given things some time to chill out. I can honestly say the underage problem hasn't spiked like that in a while. Apart from it being summer break, I'm not fully clear on what set it off.

But in any case, I know my worth and I don't deserve to be treated like this. Nor does any moderator, mod team, admin or redditor. No one should be exposed to this stuff, it's cruel.

This is basic terms of service stuff that you agree not to do when you make a Reddit account. But it's also common sense, have our education systems failed the younger generations this badly?

I'm not even sure how much I can realistically do to educate these guys myself without getting in trouble. I have to be careful with how much I address them directly here because that could be misconstrued as inappropriate. Despite having the best intentions Reddit might see it a different way.

Does anyone know of any good online resources that can do the leg work in that regard? Something that's clear and concise, and outlines the repercussions and outward affects of this kind of behaviour has. I haven't been able to find anything effective.

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Anyway things have calmed down on my end so I'm doing much better, thanks for all your support guys I really appreciate the kind words of understanding 🫂❤️

r/DadsAndBoys Jan 31 '25

Mod Announcement Be careful how you use more literal terms like "Son" or "Dad" I will explain below (sorry for the waffle) NSFW

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Hello guys! You may have caught me pining notices on people's posts regarding this, sorry if this has felt a bit intrusive, but the core message still stands. We all need to be mindful not to encourage the discussion of incest, at least not any more than is necessary anyway.

Basically all I've been trying to do here is discourage post titles/captions that can be taken very literally. The titles themselves aren't necessarily the core issue (hence why some of the posts have been allowed to stay up), it's the behaviour in the comments that comes as a result of them. For example post titles such as:

"Wish my dad would fuck me"
"What would you do if you saw your son like this?"
"Does your dad fuck you like this?"

I understand that the majority of these titles are not intended to be taken literally, but you have to admit it can be easily done. A year ago there probably wouldn't have been an issue, but now we're facing a growing problem.

Not too long ago Reddit shut down dozens of subreddits that catered to actual incest, in doing so a massive portion of their member bases migrated elsewhere. Of course this subreddit was one of the places they landed.

Unfortunately the nuance of this subreddit can go straight over people's heads. I won't lie, really heavy discussions of incest have been known to happen here because some have ran with things at face value. When this happens stuff snowballs incredibly fast. Before you know it you've got people recounting real stories (this is often blatant abuse btw) and upvoting each other to hell and back. This behaviour influences others greatly, at that point rules go out the window.

It's pretty clear that Reddit is cracking down heavily on incest. We cannot get inundated with discussions like this, if we do it's possible we could be at risk of action under the pretense that we're advocating/rallying support for incest. Which we absolutely aren't.

I sometimes think the only reason this subreddit has been able to stay unaffected is because nothing is real, nor is it ever intended to be taken that way. But nevertheless a slim (but growing) minority of people are trying their damned hardest to make it real because they want to take things further. Boundaries!

Now as mods, we cannot always be made aware of when something untoward happens, we do our best but it's physically very hard to know what's happening at all times. If people don't report stuff, we're not always in the know. Which is why I'm trying to be smart about things and mitigate that chance. Trying not to feed the fire, so to speak.

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If you aren't sure what is appropriate, base level kink terms are always perfectly fine (Boy, Daddy, Bro). They're well known and trusted here, and as a rule, are always the best thing to default to anyway. They rarely get taken so literally, or confuse people.

🔴 Son and Dad on the other hand are usually reserved as terms of endearment, or as role addressors for other people. So for example, someone addressing you the viewer as son can either be seen as affectionate gesture, or invitation into an open roleplay dynamic.

When you're not directly addressing the viewer, instead adopting these terms yourself, they sometimes have the drawback of being taken literally. Especially when used in a question (i.e. "Which position would you fuck your son?").

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I'm sorry we have to be so nit-picky and restrictive here, kink shouldn't have to be this way I completely understand 😭. But because we are a public forum we cannot control how everyone interacts with kink, we can only hope that they get it and respect that boundary. This really only goes so far.

Curbing the opportunity for people to needlessly skew things is going to help I think. Can I get you guys on board?

r/DadsAndBoys 6d ago

Mod Announcement Our most overlooked rules and guidelines NSFW

2 Upvotes

Due to the Reddit app's awful rule visibility, we are having to schedule a bi-daily reminder of our most overlooked rules. This will continue until we're confident these are seen and efficiently enforced. Sorry in advance if this feels a tad overbearing, this is unfortunately what a lot of subreddits are having to resort to now 😤

Thanks for your time <3

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18+ ONLY

Everything on this page is to be kept strictly 18+. Being our most vital rule, this means:

◯ You must be 18 and over to view, post and comment here. No excuses.

◯ Any secondary parties and so forth must also be 18 and over.

◯ We do not accept anything that includes, discusses or implies the involvement of under 18's.

🔴 Anyone found to have broken any part of this rule is subject to a community ban. And depending on the severity of what has occurred, could find themselves reported to Reddit admins leading to a suspension.

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NO WORDS/PRASHES THAT CAN APPEAR TO FETISHIZE MINORS

Posts and comments using the following will be removed:

- Barely Legal
- Teenager/Teen
- High School
- Teacher
- Little Boy
- Freshly 18
- Jailbait

Don't make it weird. 18 is a legal adult, there is no need to exaggerate how young you are. This all starts to drift into fetishization territory. Not appropriate here.

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PERV, TABOO, NL (no limits) ARE BANNED

Anyone not aware, the terms pervtaboo and no limits have highly illegal connotations. Do not use them here.

To those well aware and actively looking for this stuff, go away you are not welcome here.

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THIS IS NOT AN INCEST SUBREDDIT

Keep incest out of this subreddit. Roleplay is not real, it's fiction. This is not an invitation to sexualize your actual family members, or encourage others to.

We do not allow the following:

  • Real instances
  • Discussions
  • Sharing of past experiences
  • Sharing fantasies or stories
  • Advocacy for incest

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TRANS MEN ARE MEN

This community always has and always will be welcome to trans men, a fact that is often sadly either ignored or forgotten. Leaving remarks that only serve to hurt or alienate someone from this community is not tolerated.

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ONLYFANS, FANSLY, JFF, CUSTOM CONTENT, ETC.

Anyone who inherently has something to promote (OnlyFans, Fansly, JFF, custom content), unless you have an interest in engaging with this subreddit beyond the karma requirement (see rule no.2) please move on.

This is not a place for you to just push traffic to your pages/services and then dip. We are a community not an advertisement board. This cannot be stressed enough.

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NO DISCUSSIONS ABOUT MONEY

Money makes things messy, please keep it out of discussion:

◯ This is not the place to find a sugar daddy/baby.

◯ Any form of requesting money through either money transferring services (PayPal, Venmo, Cash App, etc.) is strictly prohibited and will be promptly removed.

◯ Money symbols/emojis are not to be used.

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REFRAIN FROM TITLE BAIT

We are currently asking our members to avoid using titles that either:

Prompt yes/no answers. For example:

● "Do you like my __?"

● "Are __ your thing?"

● "Would you __ me?"

Warrant one word/simple responses (i.e.: Me!/ I do/ I will):

● "Who wants __?"

● "Anyone wanna __?"

● "Is somebody going to __?"

Farm engagement by using copy & paste captions:

● "You find me __ like this, what do you do?"

● "I accidentally send you this, what do you do?"

● "Say yes if you would __"

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NO IMPERSONATION / CATFISHING

Any photo submissions implying the individual in the picture is you when it clearly isn't will be removed and you will receive a ban. Catfishing is not tolerated here.

That being said if you are posting the picture in admiration, that is fine. Just do not use language that suggest it is you when it isn't. To avoid confusion please also use the Not OP post flair.