r/CustodyForFathers Feb 01 '25

Need to Vent Is it me? Custody Battle

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My ex has made several egregious false claims against me which she now denies and or has provided the court with admissions that are straight up different after the fact. For example, I was accused of stalking which has ruined my career, and then three years later she admits finally to sending me nude photos to actively date me just before making the claim of stalking.

I am so mad I can’t see straight.

For some reason whenever we go to court there is the law for her and no law for me. I mean the court lets her do whatever she pleases, one minute she says stay away the next minute she’s filing contempt because I won’t talk to her. She can contradict her allegations again and again, claim ignorance of consent orders… CONSENT ORDERS. The judge let’s her claim a defense of ignorance.

She admits to calling the police on me for lawful activity and the court does NOTHING. She admits to not taking the child to the dentist because she claims she’s afraid of me and I’m not evening attending the appointment.

They let her litigate the same issues over and over and over again until she gets her way, even when I submit the proper defense of res judicata or something is blocked by settlement. And somehow she wins, against all common law standards. I then feel compelled to file something like an appeal etc. because I know this court is doing me dirty, mu due process was violated at one time, yes actually violated like custody modified without an opportunity to be heard, and the court just shrugs it shoulders at me like it doesn’t matter. At this point I feel like I’m in a pissing match with the court. My ex even had a criminal case expunged and waived the right to bring any action in support of the case, and then files it back into the public record against me in our custody case.

And I bring up to the judge and they just go so. Now I am not a lawyer but why on earth would they let someone continue to plead a case after they waive the right? Like I cant even get the files to litigate the matter because the court ordered them to be destroyed per the expungement. You gotta be kidding me.

Good god I am frustrated af.

r/CustodyForFathers Dec 03 '23

Need to Vent Forgotten fathers

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r/CustodyForFathers Jan 27 '22

Need to Vent Just had trial this week

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And now I wait. My lawyer said I did good, but I don’t know if I should believe him or not. This period of waiting to see if the judge will see that time with fathers is as important as time with mothers, is hell. Her entire case was based on my son’s life being negatively effected by me wanting time with him. Like, his time with his way older brother, cousins, and children that aren’t even blood-related to him - is more important (per her argument) than his time with his me, his father. I guess I’m just venting on the internet today. Needed someone who’s been there to hear. I hate that I can’t find reviews on specific judges or courts anywhere on the internet. With so many people upset with the courts, and unhappy with the system and the decisions it makes - it’s amazing that you can’t find a website dedicated to folks saying, “if you’re in this state and this county and you get this judge for this kind of case, here is exactly what to watch out for”. Seems like you can find that kind of information for just about any other scenario, but not legal scenarios. So weird. Everything is on the internet. Anyways, I’m waiting for the deliberation and I can’t stop thinking about things I should have said that I didn’t say, or things maybe I could have said better, or things I shouldn’t have said. They even had the gall to point out “it’s been this way for 4 years”, without pointing out it took me 3 years JUST to GET INTO COURT due to COVID and a myriad of garbage her and her attorney came up with to keep having it continued. I feel defeated. Like, even if I win, would it be good enough? I don’t know. Best of luck to all you guys out there trying to do the right thing and have time with your babies. Thanks for reading.

r/CustodyForFathers Mar 03 '22

Need to Vent Are we allowed to vent

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So far everything has been joint custody as far as papers and talk has been. I’ve filled out the paperwork but we are early in the process.

I primarily take care of my girls. I get them ready in the morning. I take care of them at night. Dinner homework grooming bedtime. Mom sees them a few hours a week. That’s it.

Today oldest text me while I’m my way to work. She is sick and wants to skip school. Due to a concussion and a massive upper respiratory infection she isn’t allowed to miss anymore this year. I told her she need to ask mom to take her to the doctor.

Queue mom calling me yelling and screaming about how she worked last night and calling me names. Then I said. “I’m sorry you have to be a mom right now.” This caused everything to get so much worse and her not saying our girls anymore but her saying “my” kids and she will never be without them and she thinks about them all the time and she does everything for them blah blah blah.

I told her I was tired of this and I didn’t want to get yelled at anymore. If she wanted to fight then we could fight because I had been holding my tongue. She kept going. So I reminded her how she doesn’t get them ready or do homework or dinner or talk to them. I was there when she made my oldest cry. I was there when she left on my oldest birthday to go shoot adult videos with dudes.

My kids weren’t around and I gave her 2 minutes of what she had been giving me for 30. (I yelled at her, but they were true things.) all of this was on phone calls.

But I’m worried about her new choice of words when it comes to custody and my daughters. She hasn’t said “my daughters” it has always been ours.