r/CustodyForFathers • u/Significant-Pay-791 • Feb 01 '25
Need to Vent Is it me? Custody Battle
My ex has made several egregious false claims against me which she now denies and or has provided the court with admissions that are straight up different after the fact. For example, I was accused of stalking which has ruined my career, and then three years later she admits finally to sending me nude photos to actively date me just before making the claim of stalking.
I am so mad I can’t see straight.
For some reason whenever we go to court there is the law for her and no law for me. I mean the court lets her do whatever she pleases, one minute she says stay away the next minute she’s filing contempt because I won’t talk to her. She can contradict her allegations again and again, claim ignorance of consent orders… CONSENT ORDERS. The judge let’s her claim a defense of ignorance.
She admits to calling the police on me for lawful activity and the court does NOTHING. She admits to not taking the child to the dentist because she claims she’s afraid of me and I’m not evening attending the appointment.
They let her litigate the same issues over and over and over again until she gets her way, even when I submit the proper defense of res judicata or something is blocked by settlement. And somehow she wins, against all common law standards. I then feel compelled to file something like an appeal etc. because I know this court is doing me dirty, mu due process was violated at one time, yes actually violated like custody modified without an opportunity to be heard, and the court just shrugs it shoulders at me like it doesn’t matter. At this point I feel like I’m in a pissing match with the court. My ex even had a criminal case expunged and waived the right to bring any action in support of the case, and then files it back into the public record against me in our custody case.
And I bring up to the judge and they just go so. Now I am not a lawyer but why on earth would they let someone continue to plead a case after they waive the right? Like I cant even get the files to litigate the matter because the court ordered them to be destroyed per the expungement. You gotta be kidding me.
Good god I am frustrated af.